This is the problem with state enforced marriage contracts though. She's incentivized to behave badly. With marriage and kids, if it doesn't work out for whatever reason, the man is usually the one who is punished. There are rare cases, for instance, where the female is the breadwinner but honestly, that just doesn't happen that much right now and historically. Most guys in those situations anyway, are too proud to try and soak their soon to be ex-wives anyway, or at least they'd be shamed for doing it. How many guys you know would emulate Kevin Federline? He's a joke and I honestly don't know how I'd be able to look any other guy in the face if I was him.Maybe so, but this thread has been edifying for me, someone who walked away from one marriage but isn't sure he'd ever tie the knot again. My marriage was short, 3 years or so, but I had no problems with sex, at least. What I'm seeing on this thread are two schools of thought, 1) that she can (and likely will) withhold or diminish sex and there's nothing you can do about it, and 2) that it's up to you to maintain frame no matter what, the game never ends, no matter how familiar you two are, you must lead, and run the game, to keep her on her toes.
Both seem true. I'm guessing going with #2 until and unless she doesn't change, in which case it's hopeless.