Love and Success

[Nine Breaker]

The Nice Guy. When you hear those three words you immediately think up terms that describe them such as needy, confused, emotional tampons, and spineless. You already know that the Nice Guy has trouble chasing and getting any action outta women, and you already know that the Nice Guy's problems are mostly (if not entirely) based upon how they perceive themselves (their self-image) Most importantly, you know by now that the Nice Guy has to change the way he thinks and acts if he is to succeed with women, and indeed life in general.

But what a Nice Guy doesn't know is HOW he is supposed to change himself.

I'm sure many of you out there have heard the more experienced DJ's out there shout and shout again that the Nice Guy needs to get himself some confidence. The trouble is, the Nice Guy is often confused by this - he does not know HOW to get his confidence. What he does believe is that if he has a woman by his side, he will be much more satisfied and confident in himself and will therefore be a better man. He believes that there is one thing that will vindicate him of his feelings of doubt and worthlessness...

LOVE
Lets face it - this is the one thing that any and every Nice Guy strives to achieve. It may be a love that is physical (sex and pleasures) or it could be the mental kind (feelings and relationships). Either way, it is still love with a woman that drives the Nice Guy onward. The Nice Guy respects women, and will often "worship" one that he finds particularly attractive. It reaches a point where the poor Nice Guy sees loving a woman as something like the meaning Of His Life - he has to get her - whether in bed or in marriage.

Take a moment and feel sorry for all the poor, misguided Nice Guys out there...

Ok, now think back to when you first came to this site. You were probably overwhelmed with what everyone else was saying to you:

"There is another way for a Nice Guy to be a man and feel confident!!"

"You don't need a woman!!"

"Don Juans always beat Jerks and Nice-Guys in getting women!!"

"YOU can be a Don Juan too!!!"

It was all the truth. And there is indeed another way for any Nice Guy to become confident and be a great man...

SUCCESS
No, not with women! It means that Nice Guys need a purpose in life. They need direction. They need goals. THEY DON'T NEED WOMEN!!! The Nice Guy often overlooks this part of his life, being so obsessed with chasing women and fearing their rejection. The fact of the matter is that women are not the meaning of the universe, they're not the reason you are alive, they're not all that matters. If a Nice Guy wants to become a Don Juan, the first thing he has to realise is that he does NOT need a woman to make him happy. What he needs is to find things that DO make him happy. Maybe it's a great job. Maybe it's a fufilling hobby. Maybe it's playing a sport. Maybe it's pushing your mind/body to the extremes in some way. Whatever it is, a Nice Guy should find what it is for him, and go after it.

Only then will he realise that women are not that important to his life.

Only then will he become more confident.

Only then will be make something of himself that others will envy.

Only then will he stand up for what he believes in.

Only then will he be a real man.

It is then, and only then, that the former nice-guy will be able to become a Don Juan and get what he wants out of women.

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Side Note:This topic has probably been the subject of similar tips and advice in the past. The point is that it is such a major point that must be made to all. Hope you've learnt something from it.


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The Human Body Is A Fragile Thing, But The Human Soul Can NEVER Be Truly Broken.

 

[Mark]

true. true.
keep up the good posts. Read my "What the hell is our job?" post. I hope you get enlightened too.

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Ooooooh........s h i t.

"There's a dream that lives, deep in evry hart.
Heroes call their name, legends leave their mark.
And it's worth the sweat, and it's worth the pain, cause the chance may never come again.
Give it all U got. Take ur best shot. The fire burns deep inside, stand before the giants.
Cause the game belongs to the swift and the strong. Though the flame burns bright, in an instant it's gone, cause it's the spirit of the game, and goes on and on.
Cause the chance may never come again."