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Is the gym a good place to pick up women?
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This should be more effective with a poll for general statistics. Then, your own judgement based on location, gym culture, time of day, and other contextual considerations will suit you best.
I have got a few dates in the gym, but I don't "pick-up". I just capitalize on social situations that happen spontaneously without appearing that I'm trying. If the girl sends clear IOI during the interaction, I ask for her number and arrange for something chill like a train session together. From there I calibrate accordingly to her level of interest. I don't want to mess with my reputation in places I frequent.
I have got a few dates in the gym, but I don't "pick-up". I just capitalize on social situations that happen spontaneously without appearing that I'm trying. If the girl sends clear IOI during the interaction, I ask for her number and arrange for something chill like a train session together. From there I calibrate accordingly to her level of interest. I don't want to mess with my reputation in places I frequent.
AmsterdamAssassin
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Why don't you make this useless thread into another useless poll? For a 'hacker' you don't seem to be able to find the 'Search' function.
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Yes and no. The reason you have to be careful at the gym is the same reason you have to be careful in places you're always at. If you get blown out hard, it will be awkward for both of you every time you guys see each other. But, there's nothing wrong with some softer "approaches" at places like the gym. I just personally wouldn't go too direct at the gym (although I'm direct at places I don't frequent often).
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The earbud problem is the biggest problem with the general gym floor.
Women wearing earbuds wear earbuds for 2 reasons.
1. To listen to their own music. This is a benefit to some extent. Nearly all gyms play music over their own speaker systems. A person might not like the gym's choice in music.
2. To discourage approaches. Go to any gym and you'll notice an obvious trend. Who wears headphones/earbuds at the gym? It's mostly women. Men seem to fine with listening to the music at the gym. Women are clearly more motivated by item #2, but use #1 as plausible deniability.
The biggest workaround for earbuds is getting strong indicator of interest (IOI) body language signals. Without good IOIs, general gym floor approaches with women wearing earbuds is a very difficult effort.
One thing that can be done is only approaching at your gym's fitness classes and not on the general gym floor.
Some other men have done things like use ClassPass to go to multiple gym classes outside of a primary gym or purchased class packs (like 5 or 10 classes) from one particular facility that isn't the primary gym. For instance, let's say a man belongs to LA Fitness but purchases a 5 class pack from Soul Cycle. He can go to those Soul Cycle classes 5 times and hit on women before/after those 5 classes. If something doesn't work out, he would never return again to Soul Cycle. There would be no long term effects doing something like this.
It is easier to go more direct at places like the grocery store or a mall where you're less likely to repeatedly run into the same women as compared to your primary gym.
Women wearing earbuds wear earbuds for 2 reasons.
1. To listen to their own music. This is a benefit to some extent. Nearly all gyms play music over their own speaker systems. A person might not like the gym's choice in music.
2. To discourage approaches. Go to any gym and you'll notice an obvious trend. Who wears headphones/earbuds at the gym? It's mostly women. Men seem to fine with listening to the music at the gym. Women are clearly more motivated by item #2, but use #1 as plausible deniability.
The biggest workaround for earbuds is getting strong indicator of interest (IOI) body language signals. Without good IOIs, general gym floor approaches with women wearing earbuds is a very difficult effort.
You have a good point about the gym. If you're a regular and she's a regular, there will be some uncomfortable visits to the gym when an interaction goes bad. It can go bad after a rejection, it can go bad after 1-2 dates, or it could go bad after some sort of extended relationships. This might lead to you changing gyms. If you like your gym and don't want to change it, you might not want to do much gym approaching.
One thing that can be done is only approaching at your gym's fitness classes and not on the general gym floor.
Some other men have done things like use ClassPass to go to multiple gym classes outside of a primary gym or purchased class packs (like 5 or 10 classes) from one particular facility that isn't the primary gym. For instance, let's say a man belongs to LA Fitness but purchases a 5 class pack from Soul Cycle. He can go to those Soul Cycle classes 5 times and hit on women before/after those 5 classes. If something doesn't work out, he would never return again to Soul Cycle. There would be no long term effects doing something like this.
It is easier to go more direct at places like the grocery store or a mall where you're less likely to repeatedly run into the same women as compared to your primary gym.
Hamurabimbi
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Gym is risky because you’ll see her again. And. If she thinks your creepy. You might get kicked out. Better to wait for clear choosing signals or let her initiate.
Murk
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IMO no, as I've said before I get in and get out.
It's a good place to meet hot fit women though, so maybe I'm missing out on something. However, just being on this forum over the years many have had awkward situations and left their gym due to some dumb broad.
It helps that I can pick up women outside of the gym, if it's your only option, go for it.
It's a good place to meet hot fit women though, so maybe I'm missing out on something. However, just being on this forum over the years many have had awkward situations and left their gym due to some dumb broad.
It helps that I can pick up women outside of the gym, if it's your only option, go for it.