Introducing myself / Starting a new self improvement routine for burned out millennials

[NoBiscuits]

Hi all,

I've done much AGILE-style self improvement, where life is managed as one large business project (multitasking, parallel habits, rigorous scheduling, etc.). But I burned out after a decade of it and also stagnated after the original goals were hit.

I'm starting another round of self improvement for 2023 with a whole new set of goals, but I'm pretty exhausted in general (and now very cynical). Most life coaches are still promoting the AGILE multitasker lifestyle, but managing less important habits had a huge overhead for not much payoff. It also got overwhelming if I fell behind.

So, I've settled on my own One Thing At A Time (OTAAT) strategy, where I will pick the most beneficial goal and focus only on that (lol, it's usually the tedious or most grunt-worthy one). Time is separated into days, and days are graded as pass/fail depending only on if that goal is worked on or not. Anything else on the agenda can be neglected, postponed, or delegated to someone else. Goals with rewards which can penetrate down multiple generations are prioritized. This leaves enough time for responsibilities which don't count as self improvement and is well suited for goals that can takes months or years before rewards are realized. It also helps rebuild patience, something that AGILE took out of me.

It's much better for me. No more "get perfect sleep, run three miles, eat nutritious breakfast, read book, meditate, kiss your grandma, then finally begin your day" type of stuff. That stuff matches the energy level of an invincible 19 year old wolf in college, not an exhausted millennial who has seen too much.

Cheers

 

[The Duke]

Moderation goes a long way towards maintaining a balanced and happy life.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Look into Adrenal fatigue OP. Burnout is a physical thing, not just mental (BIAPTNJM).

Make sure you're eating enough fiber and pooping regularly too (MSYEEFAPRT).

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Make sure you're eating enough fiber and pooping regularly too.

 

[The Duke]

I got burned out on building a new place on some undeveloped ranch land. I was the general contractor on part of it, did some of it myself, and supervised the rest. Built a shop, barn, house, fences, took out trees, moved dirt, planted grass, built the roads, culverts, etc. Did this for 2yrs 6-7 days a week plus tried to run my business. 10-13hr days.

I finally got it done and I had to sit on my ass and do nothing for 2months(like most people do their whole life lol). I was mentally and physically exhausted.

After I got rested up, I got back to working out everyday, eating healthy, going to live music venues, watching movies, going out on dates, relaxing in the evenings. Took time for
myself.

I'm still not back to normal, but sure feel better. It's been about 9months now.

 

[The Duke]

Make sure you're eating enough fiber and pooping regularly too.

Lol. Funny. When I work too much I forget to poop. And then it's hits after about 3days. bOoM, explosion

 

[NoBiscuits]

Look into Adrenal fatigue OP. Burnout is a physical thing, not just mental (BIAPTNJM).

Man, the "experts" do NOT like Adrenal fatigue. It was hard to find much info on it, just a bunch of debunking articles.

Make sure you're eating enough fiber and pooping regularly too (MSYEEFAPRT).

Lol, I didn't catch it at first and searched for MSYEEFAPRT. Funny enough, it should have led directly to your post, but it looks like these forums don't show up on any search results. It's been getting increasingly difficult to find info online over the years. Many times I'll search for a specific video by title and can no longer find it. I instead just get a wall of articles acting as middlemen now. "Adrenal fatigue is deboonked. We did the thinking for you. No need to read James Wilson in his own words. Take our word for it "

 

[CAPSLOCK BANDIT]

Success means putting all your eggs in one basket and then making more ****ing eggs

-- I heard this somewhere in the maelstrom of content I've watched this week

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Man, the "experts" do NOT like Adrenal fatigue. It was hard to find much info on it, just a bunch of debunking articles.



Lol, I didn't catch it at first and searched for MSYEEFAPRT. Funny enough, it should have led directly to your post, but it looks like these forums don't show up on any search results. It's been getting increasingly difficult to find info online over the years. Many times I'll search for a specific video by title and can no longer find it. I instead just get a wall of articles acting as middlemen now. "Adrenal fatigue is deboonked. We did the thinking for you. No need to read James Wilson in his own words. Take our word for it "

You might have better luck searching under it's more acceptable term - "HPA axis dysfunction"

 

[BackInTheGame78]

"I sang on Doowutchyalike, and if you missed it, I'm the one who said just grab 'em in the biscuits!"

 

[Scaramouche]

Hi Duke,
I can empathise with you....At 56 years old I built a 3000sq ft three story
Brick place,generally without Sub Contractors,used a couple of unskilled lads to help,
Two years of blood,sweat,toil and tears,at the end I was completely fvucked....Adrenal gland?dunno but it took five years of sensible lifestyle to recover...On constipation,eat Sweet Potato/Yams,I caramelise under the griller,for serious problems use your own Indians Slippery Elm Bark it's magic.... if you must eat grilled meat,a sure recipe for big time colon problems,always marinate your meat in red wine overnight, and throw the marinade away...Take heart in knowing you will recover!