Interpreting eye contact!

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Another woman looking for a bit of male advice!!!

Is there any other reason apart from attraction that you would make eye contact with someone nearly every time you pass their office, in the canteen, in fire evacuations, and across the room in work parties when you're with other social groups???

I look at this guy often because he's quite simply gorgeous - and he is often looking at me - sometimes has to turn more than 90 degrees to see me at my desk - but are there other reasons - would you look at someone of the opposite sex because you're "professionally impressed", "threatened", "jealous" or as some sort of challenge???

I say this because he gives so many mixed messages, I haven't got a clue whether he likes me or not - I have many examples of both positives and negatives so I'm completely lost!!!!

Oh and if anyone can point out threads that might require female opinions, let me know!!!
 

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Does he maintain EC? is it just a quick glance?

If you catch him looking at you and he looks down (or looks at his watch) then he obviously likes you (or at least interested) but is too scared and intimdated. I think he wants you to do all the work and approach him but i wouldnt advise that cos he sounds like a ***** and dosnt deserve to talk to youuntil he grows some balls.

But their maybe an exception to this story, has he got any sharp implements in his hand when he is staring at you? Do u reguarly recieve hate mail or often wake up with a horse's head in your bed. If not then i say he has some kind of attraction or feeling for you but dosnt know how to express it.

Why dont you try holding EC next time or give him a little smile when he catches you looking?. Try doing something fun by making him smile like poking your tongue at him next time you catch a glimpse of him. This will show that your interested in him by breaking down the barriers of fear and rejection in his mind.
 

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would you look at someone of the opposite sex because you're "professionally impressed", "threatened", "jealous" or as some sort of challenge???
Probably not. Some men make eye contact with attractive females even if they don't have any intentions of pursuing them just to see their reaction and to see if they reciprocate. I'm in a LTR and sometimes I catch myself trying to make eye contact with hot looking females just for the hell of it. I can't help doing it, but I never act upon it if the female reciprocates.

IMO, thread slowly to see if he gives you more than just eye contact, maybe like initiating small talk or something. Maybe you're just a hot chick that's very pleasing to look at. If you worked in my office, I'd probably make eye contact with you too. :D

Bottom line, wait for more than just eye contact before you do anything else.
 

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See netman i was thinking that as well until i read the quote below.

and he is often looking at me - sometimes has to turn more than 90 degrees to see me at my desk
You would probably look now and then but if your making EC all the time then your probably interested on some level. My advice is that if he holds EC for more than 3 secs then i think your in with a chance.

Just say hi now and then to him and gauge his response. You should be able to tell when a guy likes you since its all in his body language, plus you have women intuition.

If it was me i would definetly do something about the situation, whats the worst that could happen? But thats only advice that i would take if i caught a girl looking at me (like he looks at you).
 

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yeah, I have to agree, there was a girl at my job and whenever we passed each other 9 out of 10 times we would make eye contact and smile. I had a major crush on her, I still dunno if the feeling is mutual but now shes at a new job and I have her # so I am trying to pursue her like a true DJ.

So in a nutshell ask yourself this: Why the heck is he trying so hard to look at me when there are other women that work in the company. Reason: he has some interest in me.

Give him a smile, its amazing how just that simple jesture show you are not an evil person. Good luck, keep us posted.
 

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I have a crush on someone at work too:D

For starters, I think you guys need to have some convo going. I mean has this man even attempted to talk to you or you him. Just a hello and smile, how are you???? In addition to EC.

I mean EC is fine but sounds like this has been going on a while. And it's not like you can't talk at all. I find it interestesting that you guys haven't said hello to eachother.

Do you know his name at least. I think he is most likely, interested but could also be that he senses you like him. Men can smell it from a mile away when we are into them. And sounds like you are salivating for this man.

If he really likes you I would think we would try and strike up some chit chat. Or vice versa. Good luck.
 

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He's interested in you but may not have the balls to make a true move, just try to flirt a little more, try some KINO for example, I mean this usually comes more naturally to women.

Or you could just go all out and let him know that you want him to ask you out to dinner sometime ;)

:D

Good luck.
 

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So let me get this straight, he doesn't compliment you, he acted indifferent when you first meet, he cancels when you to have something planned? He is either not interested or maybe a natural dj.

Don't forget tho, it takes TWO to make eye contact so you are probably looking at him just as much if not more. Always refreshing to know chikcs can get one-itis, lol
 

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ec

It's a novelty to find a girl who eyes a guy.. so you will find your EC returned more often than not.

He may have been given an ego boost by your attention, hence is also curious to see "am i still getting it?"

From your follow up email, no he is not interested in you.

He is interested in your attention, and the fact that someone else finds him attractive besides his gf.
 

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OK, I don't have a conclusive yes or no yet....

He always drops into the conversation what hotel he is staying at.... does that change anyone's opinion???

Is he expecting me to just go there????
Or is it a normal thing to do to talk about the hotel you're staying in???

I'm sorry guys, if you want something, it's best you just come out and ask.....and ask nicely ;)
 

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This guy sounds troubled and confused.

I was introduced to him and he was a little rude and distracted - made eye contact, shook hands but hardly acknowledged me.
A guy would only act like that when he is nervous and has low self esteem. If he hated your guts then he would have been polite to you (sounds confusing but its true) and why would he hate your guts?

I asked him out for drinks - just as a colleague - in groups etc - and he's refused 3 times so there's NO way I will do it again.
I would never go out with a chicks friends if im interested in her so he has done exactly what i would have done. If he had gone out with you and your friends (and his friends) then he would end up as your friend and not a g/f, plus friends get in the way on dates.

Maybe you should forget this guy and if he really did like you then he would know that he blew his chance and which would provoke him to do something, if not then everything's cool.

It sounds like you need a real man in your life, theres plenty of wild/fun guys on this forum. hahahahaha
 

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OK, I am trying to be cool with him...and we still have the eye contact

...but if he's got low self-esteem, he could be interpreting this as me not being interested!

And yeah, it's a great forum!!! :D
 

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Originally posted by confused_girly
OK, I don't have a conclusive yes or no yet....
well assuming you dont have a face like a bashed crab, and a half decent body, there could very well be some attraction there, crazier stuff has happened.
So without being there but reading what you said , I would say YES.
Just assume he does anyway, you wont get anywhere wondering
I'm sorry guys, if you want something, it's best you just come out and ask.....and ask nicely
so get to it
 

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Professionally impressed??? For eye-contact as you describe--??? LOL. Sure, that's it!

Not a chance in hell.

Jealousy? For EC? Same chance.

Threatened? You avoid EC then...or make it if you want to escalate, but that's usually part of the pre-festivities when 2 neanderthals at a club are about to fight.

Challenge? Sure--I mean it--just like women hold an EC-stare to test men, he could be doing it to test your reaction to see if you're interested (look down -- good / look down and away = very good / look away in a level manner = bad...) It's a test of dominance and submission as a means of guaging interest.

As for the confusing signals---he's an AFC and doesn't know how to proceed. And he's protecting himself, too, because he's confused. Notice how his confusion is mirrored in you? It's there for a reason. And notice how he's goofing this up because of the confusion? This is a red-flag for you that he's not ready to handle you.

Oh--do a search on dating at work threads for the basic info on that bad move.
 

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Hahaha

OK, ( . )( . ) , bashed crab isn't the first thing that comes to mind when I look in the mirror....but it's a matter of taste, right???

Probably shouldn't say on this forum but I'm blonde, blue eyes, turn-up nose, petite, athletic build.

So if his "type" is tall....very slim....dark eyes, dark hair....say his perfect woman is Naomi Campbell or Halle Berry....I wouldn't stand a chance.....or am I wrong?
 

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Originally posted by confused_girly

So if his "type" is tall....very slim....dark eyes, dark hair....say his perfect woman is Naomi Campbell or Halle Berry....I wouldn't stand a chance.....or am I wrong?
Bahhh , i can sit around with mates and tell them my "type" is black hair, rosy cheeks and big red c@cksuckin lips until the cows come home, still doesnt change the fact ive been with a great blonde chick whos lips were actually pretty thin.
 

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Are you waiting for a sign from the heavens? Say 'Fukk it' and go set a date with him. That one phone call can erase all your uncertainty.
 

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I've been the one who has made the move in all my previous relationships...

I think that when the WOMAN makes the first move, this puts her in control and means that she ends up making all the moves and all the decisions for the rest of the relationship...including the decision to end it.....this is not a good plan guys!!!

I don't want to be rejected any more than you guys do!

And if this guy DOES like me, I'd like some clearer signs!
 

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Probably shouldn't say on this forum but I'm blonde, blue eyes, turn-up nose, petite, athletic build.
Save yourself the hassle and just give me your number,address, bank statement and atleast two references from past boyfriends and i guarantee i wil give you the time of your life.

And if this guy DOES like me, I'd like some clearer signs!
Tell him that!!.

It sounds like your getting too obsessed just over one guy, play it cool and smile and say hello alot. If he is too dumb to get the hint or is too timid then he dosnt deserve you. Its up to the guy to approach you, so what more can you do????
 
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