oldmanofthesea
Master Don Juan
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If you are letting a guy get that close to you, and not controlling the distance, then that is a problem. That is my point - you don't let an aggressive guy step in your face and you don't step in a guy's face either. You always stay out of striking distance and if tries to close the distance, you either step back with a warning or you stop him with your hands on his biceps and warn him. In either case, you are then immediately ready to react based on what he does, and the distance (or the connection from your outstretched arms) gives you the split-second you need to react. If you always have to have the first strike, it means you are getting into a lot of fights that never would have happened had you not swung (because not all of them would have), and you are putting yourself at unnecessary risk (legal/injury/laswsuit).I’m sorry but you guys saying violence only to defend yourself have never been in a fight. You let an aggressive guy step in your face and you will never see the uppercut/headbutt/hook coming. You will wake up dazed, in pain on the floor, embarrassed and believe me you don’t get a chance to defend yourself if someone gets the jump on you.
Stop this nonsense let’s talk in real terms and experiences not theory. I’ve been jumped/attacked and it’s instilled a strike first mentality, I grew up with the “let them hit first” mentality and growing up in inner city London (a sh!thole) it’s just asking to be eaten alive.
I'm also not saying to always let them "swing" first. The line is drawn at 2 steps away from me. I will maintain that distance and if time/situation allows, will give them a warning that if they get any closer, I will put them down. If they come closer, that is the same as swinging at me, and that provides a legally justifiable use of force on my part, which I will take.
I don't really think we are saying very different things. Maybe the only difference is that I maintain the distance while giving a verbal warning so that if ignored, I'm able to legally use force.