Why the assumption that deceit is going on? I mean for starters much of the content on this site advocates deceit. That approach is best avoided. It doesn’t lead anywhere healthy.
It’s interesting to me that people think Im seeking approval (I’m not) and also that so many here aspire to the lifestyle that they think the player archetype affords them.
What men who haven’t been there don’t realize is the hollowness and meaninglessness inherent in that lifestyle after a while. It gets old. Sure there’s another person around the corner...there always is for high SMV folks. For what? I have half a dozen male friends who I’ve known well for years. My BF knows more than that. These men burn out after a while. Sometimes it takes many years. They get jaded and then they reach a place where what’s the point? Some pick a woman (often for qualities beyond looks) and settle down, some go MGTOW, some bang floozies the rest of their days and expect nothing more than STRs and a good time. They give up on meeting the need for a partner to grow with. I’ve seen men go each route.
The happier men are the ones who sort themselves out and learn and grow and become better men. They tend to use what they learned along the way to make better choices and do things differently as they evolve.
That’s the path my guy is on. His drinking is greatly reduced, he’s more comfortable alone, he’s learning to feel and deal with painful things in his life without automatically retracting into impulsive self destructive behaviors. He’s remaking himself. He’s happier. More stable. For him. I’m an influence he freely admits, but he’s doing it for HIMSELF. As it should be.
I don’t care what anybody thinks about me. It’s a front row seat to someone who is doing the tough work to grow and evolve. It’s kind of awesome to be quite frank. And his growth exposes my liabilities, which in turn motivates me to improve, grow & evolve.
It’s not an easy process. People want to take pot shots? That’s fine. Just check the mirror before you criticize another. It’s always easier to criticize another as opposed to face whatever liabilities stare back from the mirror.
I’m relatively frank about things because what if it helps someone else improve and face their own shadow. Make no mistake we all have one. As for the BF and I? The further we go the better it gets. Not an easy journey so far. But a worthwhile one. And nobody is getting taken advantage of unawares. Trust me.
He is very red pill. So am I. If people bristle at some of what I say? Fine. It’s no less true.
and I think the problem here is most want the player status and lifestyle to really get tired of woman, and the worse part is that hollowness you say its that life, is the same with a woman on a LTR, most had the LTR and know very well how empty they felt, so now they want to do what any guy want, huge number of available females for his pleasure
the MGTOW, is just guys who are tired of dealing with woman, and know very well then woman will hardly add to his life so he will do what any sane guy does, choose what is better for him and avoid the things who give problem, and when he feels the need he will entretain a woman to then move on to the next thing he needs
and that exactly means never settling with a woman, because lets get real, we want younger woman, hte older ones who says they are red aware, is more a way to make men settle with then, saying i'm the "unicorn" you guys search for, but fail to undertand now after your years of caroussel you have nothing to offer