I need help coming up with something to say

[Aquatico]

Backstory: I found her page on the internet and got her to meet me. We met, she gave interest signals, and I number closed. I called within the first week but it went to her answering machine but I never ended up calling again.

Now this is three weeks later, and I'm sending her a message.

Here's the internet convo:

me: remember me?

Yeah, so how was your thanksgiving? Eat alot of food?

So, anyway, I was just wondering if you'd want to meet up again sometime soon.


her:
Hehehe, of course I remember you, silly.

Thanksgiving was just splendid and YES I ate too much!

We should meet for sure, we can talk more about your great music!

me: hahaha

ok, well would yo like to discuss my "great music" over a friendly cup of coffee on tuesday, at 12:00?

her:
Tuesday at 12 sounds wonderful. where should we meet up?

me: There's a starbucks on Grand/Barranca, that's somewhat close to the school How does that sound?

her:
Ohhh, Starbucks sounds great! Tomorrow at noon right?

me: yep

The main problem is that she has a boyfriend, so this isn't really a date, just a friendly outing.

But other than that, I suck at finding things to say. Our first meeting was easy beacuse it was just the basics of conversation and getting to know her.

But now what do i say?

 

[SinisaD]

Well, sense nobody responded yet I might as well FLAME ..... Like countless times people have brough this little topic up " what do i say" "whats a good come back" a simple look around the forum or a small search would of broughtup quite a few of thse . But sense am a positive person am give u same advice as other people have been giving to other people...

You already got some rapport with the girl... so wouldent it be nice if you built upon the subjects you talked about.. It would show you were paying attention during your conversation and etc... Tho if your having a problem talking about stuff... get a damn social life and stop asking for peoples hand's out on how to do this stuff.... i mean comon man u WANT US TO BRING U A CHICK TO UR HOUSE AND UNDRESS HER.... AND PUT HER ON TOP OF U AND ALLL WHILE U DO NO WORK??? damn bro....

so a simple rules I live by when i got to this site and learned from other people

1). Read the damn DJ bible
2). Dont just read the bible go out in the field work.
3). If you have no friends or social life... do something about it go out and meet people not like they gona damn chop of ur head for it...
4). If your fat... exercise.... if your skinny gain some weight.
5). Put your life before others
6). ABOVE ALL DO FIELD WORK!

Flame me, BASH ME, whatever, My 2 cents.

-Sinisa

 

[The Forms]

There's no pressure with this girl anyway, she already has a boyfriend. Don't go into it with the pressure of "OK, how do I steal this girl away." Forget about trying to **** her. Even if you could, it'd make you a major douche. Having some respect for the men in the world.

Just make friendly conversation and flirt a little. Since she has a boyfriend she'll be more prone to introduce you to her hot friends. Good times!

Talk about common interests. She digs the music thing, so you can talk about music a lot. Just don't talk too much about bands she doesn't know about. It makes you look like a music snob.

Find out whatever bands SHE likes, and talk about them. But don't be too negative if she listens to pure crap. You can always find something positive to say about pretty much any band. (you like fall out boy? That's cool. I'm not really that into the whole pop punk thing, but I think that writing good songs is the most important thing a band can do. They write some hip melodies, and I can appreciate that.)

She'll get comfortable, and then you can move on to other stuff. Conversation will flow once she's comfortable around you.

 

[The Forms]

Oh yea, another music thing you can do that makes me laugh:

I was talking to a girl that I know pretty well. When she called I didn't pick up because I was writing a song.

Later that night I meet up with her and some other kids.

her: Why didn't you pick up when I called
me: I was writing a song and it was going really good so I didn't want to stop
her: that's cool. what's it about?
Me: the song is about you
her: Oh my god! really?!?!?! I want to hear it soo bad!
me: Oh, I'm joking. it wasn't about you.

In retrospect it was kind of a **** move. but its funny getting her all excited about her having a song written about her. Don't do this for a girl you don't know to well. It might come off as creepy if she doesn't get excited about it.

 

[flexion_]

Why don't you ask her if she has any single friends?

 

[Aquatico]

thanks for the help Sinisad, the Forms, and flexion, I'll take your advice.

I've read alot of the DJ bible but haven't finished it (f_cking long), so I'll try to finish it soon.

anyway, she didn't show up. After about 20 mins, I called her to see what's up and she said her bus never came. I believe her though cause she's not the liar type.

I didn't try to rescedule, but she said she insisted to make it up to me.