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I lost my girl to a pro athlete


Master Don Juan
Jun 14, 2014
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Right behind you
swimming and running are sexy dude. and they train your body as hell, mind too
No ****, but some people will tell you otherwise. That’s why that guy didn’t consider it a big deal that he was a tennis player, even though tennis is an international sport whereas basketball, baseball, and AMERICAN football don’t really exist anywhere else in the world. Such ignorance when it comes to sports. That’s how you know that dude has never played sports competitively in his life.


Don Juan
Sep 28, 2014
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The fact that you had this conversation with her tells me you turned into a big wuss.
The very instant you found out about this you should have asked her to leave your sight. Things have changed and im evaluating the situation. BYE.

This has nothing to do with upgrade or money or tennis.
You gave up your value to this woman. She disrespected you and ypu put up with it. Ypur 2nd mistake was giving her so much value based on looks. And giving a fck.

I see this advice all the time. With all due respect, I don't think it's that simple when it comes to women you truly like. Plates - yeah - during the early going, maybe.

We're human beings. You meet a pretty girl, have sex with her and you develop feelings. It's only natural to want to keep that going as long as possible. If I'm honest, I want to be the one who gets bored and bails out first. Not the other way around.

OP, the good news is that you landed an "8" this time so it goes without saying that you'll be able to do it over and over again. There's an excellent chance that this girl will be back but you owe it to yourself to explore your options. I doubt you'd take her back anyways. At the bare minimum, those of us around here understand how foolish that is.

Beautiful women are everywhere. I see dozens of them every day. They're not that rare, or special.


Master Don Juan
Jun 18, 2013
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Sounds you crashed and became a beta, so she started looking at the better deal... I have a perspective/theory... if a girl who is in love with you (dating/bounding with you) and she feel that her guy find another guy ''higher'' than him... she will start seeing the same.. hence the better deal.

If her guy feels ''beta'' compared to this other dude... than she will reflect like a miror.

Money/status etc... have nothing to do with getting laid... they are just ''results' but these 'results' come from fundamental values and attributes that everyone look for...

Heck, if guys here say ''you need money, you need status... to get laid''.... Imagine how the girl react!

So the Tennis Player, when you started giving him importance and started feeling insecure... you literally threw her in his arms... cause you validated her feelings.

If she had been emotionally happy and you kept your frame... you would have never had that situation nor this thread.

Take it has a learning experience: Make her emotionnally happy, always keep your frame.... actually frame is the most important part because emotions fluctuate and there is up and down... that's why I believe frame is there to reassert the emotions of the girl, reassure her of the ''better deal'' and the leading qualities of her man. That's why guys can't allow to have their frame down...Anyway... its a sum of it all... it takes work
Lol...You need money and status to get laid by women that **** high status guys. Yeah you may get lucky here and there but high status women want relationships with high status men.

And her being happy with the situation has nothing to do with it. I guarantee if you were in a happy relationship and a Victoria secret model threw herself at you...you would jump ship too. People are only as loyal as there options. 99% of women will cheat on their man if a pro athlete or celebrity comes along no matter how happy they are. Why wouldn’t they? If an nfl player wants your woman he’s taking her...fortunately not most guys won’t have to deal with this since most women aren’t getting hit on by celebrities or pro athletes....the op just got unlucky


Master Don Juan
Jun 5, 2017
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Haha I mean, this guy isn't Nadal or Federer obviously...but he's made a couple mil I think.
She is just using this low level athlete, she is hoping he introduces her to Nadal or Federer so she can leave him and branchswing to one of those two top guys Lol


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