i feel like im gonna cave in soon to contacting her

[Baibars]

It's possible that he can get her back by talking to her... However the balance of power shifts completely to her.

She is in a position now where she completely understands that op needs her more than she needs him.. be prepared to be treated like shyte, considering that in her eyes your value is lower than hers.

She can no longer look upto you, considering your value is lower than hers.

It's upto OP what he does, but it's just something to consider.

true but in my case she said no, showed no interest and rejected me, told me that she doesn’t want to act like she wants this in the end so i swallowed it down and stopped talking to her.
Some people really need that especially when there is an attachment and they don’t realize things ended. It’s like holding on to a dead body because you can’t think straight and let go.

If OP wants to get her back no matter what he should do it. He will either find out that he can’t get her back or he will get her back but she won’t be the person she used to be.

 

[corrector]

I guess you probably think she has been sucking some other guys **** while he is in no contact (ie hence that type of music video). I wonder how the OP would feel about her if she did that already with a chad/tyrone like guy since he went on no contact. I mean you don't know what she's doing right?

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

Might aswell go for a soda

 

[Baibars]

Don't mind @gamis


I guess you probably think she has been sucking some other guys **** while he is in no contact (ie hence that type of music video). I wonder how the OP would feel about her if she did that already with a chad/tyrone like guy since he went on no contact. I mean you don't know what she's doing right?

he can’t control her and in order to not have this thoughts he must detach.
there is no point thinking about these things.

 

[corrector]

he can’t control her and in order to not have this thoughts he must detach.
there is no point thinking about these things.

You can't truly detach from these things. You can feel them in the air even with perfect silence. The only way he won't think about it is if he did not really care about her. He wouldn't be writing about getting back to her like that if he didn't care. Hence, he will know down in his gut that she could be up to something.

 

[Baibars]

You can't truly detach from these things. You can feel them in the air even with perfect silence. The only way he won't think about it is if he did not really care about her. He wouldn't be writing about getting back to her like that if he didn't care. Hence, he will know down in his gut that she could be up to something.

yeah that’s why he has to work on that instead of focusing on her. Otherwise he will keep living in a world of pain. I’ve been there more than once. Anytime a girl doesn’t want you and made it clear even after you wanted to fix things, you have to stop right there as soon as possible. If you continue there is no end to this. You will someday find yourself in a very cucked situation.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

yeah that’s why he has to work on that instead of focusing on her. Otherwise he will keep living in a world of pain. I’ve been there more than once. Anytime a girl doesn’t want you and made it clear even after you wanted to fix things, you have to stop right there as soon as possible. If you continue there is no end to this. You will someday find yourself in a very cucked situation.

As soon as your girl cheats or you 'take a break', it's done. You might aswell call yourself Donald Cuck. Is it so bad out there that you guys are willing to settle for sloppy seconds?

 

[Gamisch]

You can't truly detach from these things. You can feel them in the air even with perfect silence. The only way he won't think about it is if he did not really care about her. He wouldn't be writing about getting back to her like that if he didn't care. Hence, he will know down in his gut that she could be up to something.

If she wasn't up to some h0e shyte she'd contacted him and begged him for his d1ck.

Obviously she doesn't. She gets her D. When will we fecking realize that 99,9 % of the time ANY reason she acts up is due to another man???? It aint that deep!!

My geuss is that it's ( as useal) the effect of jerking off, cuffing season ( yes, a rather female trait, but male bytches are effected by this, I know I was for the longest of times) and getting no results on OLD/not "enough ioi" from new women. Add no social circle, and the lack of balls to get out and chase women and "tadaaa woosh " we're back to Ursula the ex Witch as our lifeline solution to some p00sy. I mean fecking pay a hooker bust a nut and keep it moving. That's more honorable than getting cucked again and again and again.

Its pathetic to see a man act like this. If anything I'm grateful to @Hacker because his pathetic threads are making sure that I won't reach out to any of my exes anymore!

 

[Baibars]

As soon as your girl cheats or you 'take a break', it's done. You might aswell call yourself Donald Cuck. Is it so bad out there that you guys are willing to settle for sloppy seconds?

no I have no problem leaving a girl. It's
just difficult and I felt guilty since I was the bad guy too. I also initiated the break up you can say.

If she wasn't up to some h0e shyte she'd contacted him and begged him for his d1ck.

Obviously she doesn't. She gets her D. When will we fecking realize that 99,9 % of the time ANY reason she acts up is due to another man???? It aint that deep!!

My geuss is that it's ( as useal) the effect of jerking off, cuffing season ( yes, a rather female trait, but male bytches are effected by this, I know I was for the longest of times) and getting no results on OLD/not "enough ioi" from new women. Add no social circle, and the lack of balls to get out and chase women and "tadaaa woosh " we're back to Ursula the ex Witch as our lifeline solution to some p00sy. I mean fecking pay a hooker bust a nut and keep it moving. That's more honorable than getting cucked again and again and again.

Its pathetic to see a man act like this. If anything I'm grateful to @Hacker because his pathetic threads are making sure that I won't reach out to any of my exes anymore!

It ain’t that easy man. I’m not defending hacker and his actions but it’s not all about sex.
i had 2 plates shortly after the break up and it wasn’t the sex for me. You can’t say it’s just because we need sex.

 

[soulforge]

Bro most girls after a break up will take diks elsewhere GUARANTEED especially if they dumped YOU, because they likely had the next chump lined up already.

Ever wondered why she is so damn cold towards you, and she seems like a stranger, like she has no feelings for you?

That's because her feelings are now tied up for another man, and not you.

These hoez will likely come around again, but only after they have been ran through by the next dude and that shyte fell apart.. Or the dating market is kicking her azz.

Any girl I break up with, and she has taken diks elsewhere, is fukin dead to me!

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

no I have no problem leaving a girl. It's
just difficult and I felt guilty since I was the bad guy too. I also initiated the break up you can say.


It ain’t that easy man. I’m not defending hacker and his actions but it’s not all about sex.
i had 2 plates shortly after the break up and it wasn’t the sex for me. You can’t say it’s just because we need sex.

Its difficult?

"Hello Dumb Bi1ch? It's me Loser... Hey I don't wanna see you ever again, so fvck off forever, k? Bye!"

Blocked.

 

[Hacker]

Is her birthday coming up?

No It was in May

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

No It was in May

Good, call her up and tell her you May have made a mistake dating her.

 

[corrector]

No It was in May

You memorized the date?

 

[Murk]

You memorized the date?

They were together 7 years lol.

I still remember the birthdays of ex's going back 7 years. I don't remember the dates like a poignant moment that's coming up but if I have think I can remember. Weirdly, both me and my last 3 ex's are born on the 1st of a month.

 

[Black Widow Void]

This isn’t just about you. Are you sure you want to do this to your kids?

Look. This is how it’s going to unfold. If you do get to get back together, you’ll have a honeymoon phase, it’ll likely fizzle around Christmas but the holidays are approaching… And then the new year and neither of you want to be alone on New Years Eve. Before Valentine’s Day, you’ll be reminded of why you went silent on her in the first place . By then the exit strategy will either be in place prior or executed after Valentine’s Day.

All this is okay for you. After all, you are voluntarily walking back into it. But your kids. Think about that. Think about them.

 

[Gamisch]

no I have no problem leaving a girl. It's
just difficult and I felt guilty since I was the bad guy too. I also initiated the break up you can say.


It ain’t that easy man. I’m not defending hacker and his actions but it’s not all about sex.
i had 2 plates shortly after the break up and it wasn’t the sex for me. You can’t say it’s just because we need sex.

Nothing good in life comes easy.

You can argue that forgetting about a woman who is..mweh, lukewarm about you is as good as it gets.


So hey,its difficult. She opened up, literally opened up her legs for you countless times, so you assume there's still an opening. We are at the damn Don Juan university, ofcourse we are all aware of this dynamic.

That's why 99,9 % of us tells him to back the F off and let her go. He'll learn the hard way again.

Again, the hard route, NOT caving in, is the most fulfilling one. He's a junkie that has withdrawal symptoms.

 

[BoomToTheMoonAlice]

They were together 7 years lol.

I still remember the birthdays of ex's going back 7 years. I don't remember the dates like a poignant moment that's coming up but if I have think I can remember. Weirdly, both me and my last 3 ex's are born on the 1st of a month.

I can't remember my wife's birthday and we've been together almost 15.

 

[corrector]

If you do get to get back together, you’ll have a honeymoon phase,

That should be music to his ears.

You are at least set for Christmas, New Years and Valentine's day. Those are the suckiest months to have after a break-up, especially Valentine's day. You want at least those dates covered.

I broke up around this time with my ex-gf back in 2012 around the same time of year and went on absolute no contact. Had I stayed together with her until the next year, then I would have had a full year covered being with a girl. Technically, with my ex-gf, and ex-wife, I only have between really February - part of November covered that I have been together with a girl, with December to January completely left out (I've been on dates in December in the past, but I mean, not in a relationship).

If you stay with her until Valentine's day so if it eventually fizzles out, at least it would be more of a soft landing rather than something that extreme that is obsessive and occupying your thoughts like this right now.

 

[Murk]

I can't remember my wife's birthday and we've been together almost 15.

We can't all be perfect. A note in your calendar might help.