i feel like im gonna cave in soon to contacting her

[Hacker]

I cant stop thinking about her lately. There was only 1 time in our relationship where we broke up for a few weeks. We got back together then so why wouldnt it work now? I know she wont give in and contact me unless I do it like last time. Why force ourselves to go through this torture? I feel if I contact her then all of this pain will go away. Week 3 of no contact has been extremely tough on me.

 

[ItsBeenAWhile]

How many weeks did you break up for in the past?

 

[Hacker]

How many weeks did you break up for in the past?

i think it was 3 weeks

 

[Hacker]

Last time we broke up i told her i needed some time to think about things then went back to her. This time is different cause she pretty much broke up with me eventhough i ghosted her for 4 days before she told me we needed to break up. So would going back to her this time work or no because she ended it this time?

 

[Bingo-Player]

nobody's forcing you to do anything , do whatever you want

the forum can only offer general advice we don't know the ins and outs of your situation

 

[Hacker]

nobody's forcing you to do anything , do whatever you want

the forum can only offer general advice we don't know the ins and outs of your situation

Nice mask

 

[ItsBeenAWhile]

Wow! Your situation seems to be reading almost the same as mine. I broke up with her over a month ago too. And she broke up with me 2 weeks ago after I ghosted her for exactly 4 days too. You seem to be a week ahead of me but I've been feeling that I'm going to crumble and contact her too. I'm going to keep NC no matter how hard it gets though - or at least that's what I think right now.

I hope it works out well for you. I'll be following your journey too. Stay strong brother.

 

[Hacker]

Last time we broke up i told her i needed some time to think about things then went back to her. This time is different cause she pretty much broke up with me eventhough i ghosted her for 4 days before she told me we needed to break up. So would going back to her this time work or no because she ended it this time?

Wow the answer to my own question just came to me. It is less likely for her to come back to me this time because in the previous time she was deeply in love with me but this current time she was unsure about us.

 

[Glassguy]

It's not a good idea to break NC. Your ex knows how to get in touch if she wants to reach you.

If she DOES want to reach out, she will stop texting your mom. Or whatever else is going on, and reach out to YOU. She will respect you more if you show her that you're a strong man who can stay away from her.

There is a lot of talk about multiple breakups in these relationships. Ever thought about going out, playing the field and finding someone that you're more compatible with?

 

[soulforge]

Just do whatever you feel is right for you guys.

Living with regret is also not a good thing.

Just report back to us, on what happened once you broke NC with her lol

 

[CornbreadFed]

Dew it

 

[Gamisch]

Fecking hell, do you even read the replies in your own threads???


Dew it. I agree with @Cornbread. At this point you are like my former alcoholic friend: instead of preaching him I just started buying him beer and thus tried to have a "good time " with him. Needless to say 5 years later he still at the same spot while I'm going Speedy Gonzales towards all of my goals.

Contact her. Tell her you love her. You deserve a woman who treats you like a bluepilled beta bytch, because that's what you are eventually.

A bluepilled weak minded woman-man. She has 4 times more balls than you, might as well ask her to get the strappon out. Or to be a real cuck, and lick the feet from the man that pounds her doggy.

The biggest thing is that YOU are a father smh....you have CHILDREN to feed. Yet you are here crying yet again. You deserve all the pain that is coming to you.

@Hacker, you just lost all my sympathy. I am cheering for HER now. If I was her I'd get three, or five weak men like you and make them do all kinds of tasks and make them my dancing monkeys.

Cutdammit modern men are WEAK.

 

[RickTheToad]

I cant stop thinking about her lately. There was only 1 time in our relationship where we broke up for a few weeks. We got back together then so why wouldnt it work now? I know she wont give in and contact me unless I do it like last time. Why force ourselves to go through this torture? I feel if I contact her then all of this pain will go away. Week 3 of no contact has been extremely tough on me.

Find a new hole to play with. Need to get back and fvck other females. Get to it.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

I cant stop thinking about her lately. There was only 1 time in our relationship where we broke up for a few weeks. We got back together then so why wouldnt it work now? I know she wont give in and contact me unless I do it like last time. Why force ourselves to go through this torture? I feel if I contact her then all of this pain will go away. Week 3 of no contact has been extremely tough on me.

Maybe you should make another thread on how you cannot resist the temptation to make more threads on getting back with your ex.

 

[corrector]

I cant stop thinking about her lately. There was only 1 time in our relationship where we broke up for a few weeks. We got back together then so why wouldnt it work now? I know she wont give in and contact me unless I do it like last time. Why force ourselves to go through this torture? I feel if I contact her then all of this pain will go away. Week 3 of no contact has been extremely tough on me.

Bring the dead relationship back to life:

 

[Baibars]

Do whatever you want. Nobody is forcing you to go No contact.
YOU have to understand and really feel that nothing else than no contact can help you. That’s when you will do it whole heartedly. Right now you’re doubting and thinking that you can just talk to her and get her back.
Do it. Go talk to her. If she comes back and all she waited for was you contacting her fine. But I’m sure it won’t happen. Then repeat it until you realize yourself and accept that you can do nothing else than going no contact

 

[corrector]

Is her birthday coming up?

 

[Gamisch]

Bring the dead relationship back to life:

 

[soulforge]

Do whatever you want. Nobody is forcing you to go No contact.
YOU have to understand and really feel that nothing else than no contact can help you. That’s when you will do it whole heartedly. Right now you’re doubting and thinking that you can just talk to her and get her back.
Do it. Go talk to her. If she comes back and all she waited for was you contacting her fine. But I’m sure it won’t happen. Then repeat it until you realize yourself and accept that you can go nothing else than going no contact

It's possible that he can get her back by talking to her... However the balance of power shifts completely to her.

She is in a position now where she completely understands that op needs her more than she needs him.. be prepared to be treated like shyte, considering that in her eyes your value is lower than hers.

She can no longer look upto you, considering your value is lower than hers.

It's upto OP what he does, but it's just something to consider.

 

[corrector]

It's possible that he can get her back by talking to her...

That will be music to his ears.