I asked out co-worker.....

[stuka1939]

Remember the 21 year old I told you about that I got good vibes from?

I was talking to her earlier today and then later on in the day she came up to the second floor desk (where I work) and asked me if I wanted to take a break with her.

I said, sure.

The whole time she was talking real fast and seemed nervous.

I asked her if she goes to the bars, she said no. I then asked if she goes to the beach, she said no? I said what do you do for fun? She said something like going to the mall.

I then said, we should hang out or we should hang out sometime?

She then said something, I going out with that kid you met. (Some kid that came into the library one day).

I was like, oh no problem...I did not mean to make you feel awkward or put you on the spot. Then I said something STUPID like, you shouldn't date co-workers anyway.

I am actually, RELIEVED in a way that she has a boyfriend and I was man enough to ask her to hang out. Now it is out of my system...

 

[user43770]

Then I said something STUPID like, you shouldn't date co-workers anyway.
...

hahaha. At least you tried, man.

 

[stuka1939]

hahaha. At least you tried, man.

EXACTLY, trying is ALL that matters.

I swear to Christ I would get good vibes from the girl, unless she is an Attention *****.

I think I am more attractive (atleast 3-4 inches taller) than her current boyfriend anyhow.

 

[Rebound Material]

I was never really fond of your threads Stuka, but I have to give you props for this one. Tyte Eyez said it: At least you tried. Good Job.

 

[stuka1939]

^man, you think in the same overly quantitative, analytical terms as me. And it's really, really dumb...

Who cares. The real problem, clearly, is that girls still cause you a great deal of anxiety/talking to a girl is a monumental event for you...at 31, this makes you "off time" in terms of your psycho-sexual development.

I mean, I'm 8 years younger, and this is a problem for me, somewhat, but not nearly as ridiculous. Even so, most guys my age are completely over it.

Have you tried CBT for your AA?

I'll make a pact with you-if neither of us brings up looks threads to provoke insecurities, and instead works on conversing with women?

I think it would be good. Start talking to girls in bookstores, cafe's, your library, my class, whatever. And let's not do it in nightclubs, where the beautiful people are just attention whoring. Even bars are OK, but the aforementioned places are better. Again, I'm still with you on the importance of looks, blah blah, but lets both just really try. Last time I really did that, I had some success.

Also, Stuka, what do you do for fun? You seem really, uptight, like, well, a librarian...Do you have any more bad boyish traits?

Whoa, whoa, whoa...where is all of this coming from?

Did you read my post correctly? I grabbed my set of balls and I asked the girl out...did you miss something?

 

[Rebound Material]

man, I'm saying, that shouldn't be grabbing yourself by the balls at your age. You just proved my point. That's grabbing yourself by the balls in high school, not at 31.

It sounds as if it's a rare occurrence...you need to not just ask a girl out, and then flub it, then post it likes it a success. You need to ask girls out all the time, so that you can joke around/be comfortable in the interaction.

I think this site has been negative for both of us. It's kind of like a kitty blanket that we run to when the real world scares us.

Wutang, don't you see that most of the guys on this site are guys that are considered "late bloomers"?(that doesnt exlude myself). This is a result of the lack of experience we had with women in the past. I can tell that even though Stuka got asking her out off the list, he's still frustrated about the end result. She apparently gave him the green flags but didnt follow through. He's just frustrated is all.

 

[I'm Charming]

I'll make a pact with you-if neither of us brings up looks threads to provoke insecurities, and instead works on conversing with women?

So you know that your 'looks threads' do promote insecurity, yet you are going to continue them if this dude does not agree with you?

Pffft.

 

[WesCottII]

I think I am more attractive (atleast 3-4 inches taller) than her current boyfriend anyhow.

Why are you STILL linking attraction with height. I've seen at least 2 threads from you, where you bemoan that you're "more attractive" because you're taller. Bollocks. Being taller doesn't make you more attractive, if thats what you're basing your attractions on, you forever going to be a virgin.


Even if you are taller, she's shagging him. Not you. Negating your "height is might" bollocks.

You should know better at your age, given the fact you've been here forever.

 

[stuka1939]

Why are you STILL linking attraction with height. I've seen at least 2 threads from you, where you bemoan that you're "more attractive" because you're taller. Bollocks. Being taller doesn't make you more attractive, if thats what you're basing your attractions on, you forever going to be a virgin.


Even if you are taller, she's shagging him. Not you. Negating your "height is might" bollocks.

You should know better at your age, given the fact you've been here forever.

First off Little John, I am NOT a virgin. I have been with about 5 women (which is not far behind the average).

Tall men have a HUGE INITIAL ADVANTAGE in the dating world since height is the #1 Physical Trait women look for in a man. Think I am full of ****?

Scientists have proven this again and again.

You must be an angry short guy for argueing with me.

 

[Ken785]

First off Little John, I am NOT a virgin. I have been with about 5 women (which is not far behind the average).

Tall men have a HUGE INITIAL ADVANTAGE in the dating world since height is the #1 Physical Trait women look for in a man. Think I am full of ****?

Scientists have proven this again and again.

You must be an angry short guy for argueing with me.

LOL...notice he said "about 5 women"...stuka..everyone knows thats an obvious lie!, because if the number is that low..you wouldnt need to say "about" and you would know EXACTLY the number of women youve slept with....HAHAHAHA!!!!:crackup:

 

[stuka1939]

LOL...notice he said "about 5 women"...stuka..everyone knows thats an obvious lie!, because if the number is that low..you wouldnt need to say "about" and you would know EXACTLY the number of women youve slept with....HAHAHAHA!!!!:crackup:

Ah, its the Californian Troll.

Who care if I said about 5 or 6. Why? I don't care! Should every man have the know the number of women he has slept with without hesitation? Only an AFC would do that.

 

[stuka1939]

Yes yes yes.

Height matters, but what are we going to do about it? If I'm short what can I do about it Stuka?


From your online sosuave persona I assume that your hideous, a virgin, and completely unhappy with your life.


You wrote in a earlier post about you being 5'11". Meaning your taller than, I dunno 75% of the population. Does that mean your getting more pu-nanny than the other 75%? I seriously ****ing doubt it.

Why do you always resort to insults at the end of your posts.


I think you truly are unhappy with yourself.


Your pretty high up there on AFC list Stuka, you'd only be talking down to everyone

No, I am not hideous.

People tell me I look like Matt Lauer or Steven Carrell (from 40 year old Virgin).

Neither of these guys have GQ model looks, but both are nice-looking guys.

I would say I am a 6.5 or 7.

 

[MooseGod]

You guys are all ugly and short. Kiss my black ass.


All the hell you really need is to not be physically repulsive and have unshakeable confidence and be a little bit sarcastic. Jeez. It's not rocket science.

But to the OP: You tried, that's all that matters. And this isn't one of those things like in little league where everybody gets a trophy because they tried--with women it really is a numbers game. Some like you, some don't. Even those that like you may have prior obligations, such as a boyfriend or fiance or something like you found out. You never know until you ask. So honestly, good job.

 

[Rhoto]

Looks don't matter for ****. Unless you make them.

Women respond much, much, MUCH more to your personality and the way you treat them. The more emphasis you put on looking good, being tall and whatever is a waste of your energy. There are plenty of fat assh0les getting laid.

Gaming 101 folks.

 

[WesCottII]

Originally Posted by stuka1939
First off Little John, I am NOT a virgin. I have been with about 5 women (which is not far behind the average).

Tall men have a HUGE INITIAL ADVANTAGE in the dating world since height is the #1 Physical Trait women look for in a man. Think I am full of ****?

Scientists have proven this again and again.

You must be an angry short guy for argueing with me.

A few points.

1) Little John was an ironic nickname. He was actually tall. Calling someone little john implies they're tall, the opposite effect of what you wanted.

2) Seduction has never been a science. What "scientists" say is a moot point. Couldn't care less, it's never mattered.

3) I'm shorter than you, I'm 12 years YOUNGER than you and I've slept with 3 times as many women. If height mattered that much, youd've slept with more.

4) I'm arguing with you, so I must be angry and short? Erm, no idea how you bundled onto that bollocks. I'm arguing with you because you're full of sh*t and a pompous jackass.

5) You're not particularly tall.

 

[romangod]

I'm 7' 4" tall and find myself looking down at women.


Cheers!

 

[Ken785]

yeah stuka dude!...since your always talking about looks all the time...its best for you to show everyone what you look like!!

 

[DJDamage]

You didn't ask her out.

Saying "hanging out" could mean alot of things to a chick. I think the way this came out of your mouth wasn't very smooth and she easily read from your behaviour that you didn't really want to hang out but wanted more and you were being cautious and untruthful.

I was like, oh no problem...I did not mean to make you feel awkward or put you on the spot. Then I said something STUPID like, you shouldn't date co-workers anyway.

You shouldn't have apologized. Nothing really happened and you didn't ask her out. By mentioning that you are sorry for making her feel awkward, you actually made her feel awkward and validated to her that you in fact wanted to ask her out. Yeah and the last part was stupid too but you admitted and know you did wrong.

 

[true romance]

It's a simple situation...you need always in flirting mode. Fun and lighthearted.

and have balls to ask for number and going out on date. You seem tumble on what you want and not clear

never said explicitly you should not date co-worker..Ask her if she has other gilr friends to set you up.

You should know by know: do not deep in the company ink.
Confident and know what you want..and ask for it


Originally Posted by stuka1939
I was like, oh no problem...I did not mean to make you feel awkward or put you on the spot. Then I said something STUPID like, you shouldn't date co-workers anyway

 

[stuka1939]

A few points.

1) Little John was an ironic nickname. He was actually tall. Calling someone little john implies they're tall, the opposite effect of what you wanted.

2) Seduction has never been a science. What "scientists" say is a moot point. Couldn't care less, it's never mattered.

3) I'm shorter than you, I'm 12 years YOUNGER than you and I've slept with 3 times as many women. If height mattered that much, youd've slept with more.
4) I'm arguing with you, so I must be angry and short? Erm, no idea how you bundled onto that bollocks. I'm arguing with you because you're full of sh*t and a pompous jackass.

5) You're not particularly tall.

Oh yeah, what did these girls look like? It is common knowledge that the wom en in the UK are the ugliest in all of Europe (seen it myself). Most Brits that check into the hotel I work at all have messed up teeth as well.

While I certainly don't tower over people at 5'11.5", I still look down on 80% of all other men. Most men in the Northeastern U.S tend to be from 5-8" to 5'10". If I lived out in the Midwest...I would probably feel average.