Le Parisien
Master Don Juan
Hi guys, this is my first post, so please go easy on me if I say something stupid.
I'd like to share/ask for advice about a kind of situation that has never been explored on this board. I've been on this board for a couple of months already, and I haven’t come across anything similar to what I am about to share.
My big question is in short: WHERE/HOW DO I MEET THE TYPE OF GIRLS I LIKE?
My question may sound extremely stupid, but please let me put everything into context. I am a little Frenchie studying for a Master’s degree in Computer Science at PennState, located in the middle of nowhere in PA. I am the total opposite of the stereotypical nerdy computer guy. I go out a lot, I have tons of friends (not through Linux user group or anything like that hehe…), I take care of my looks reasonably. I’ve traveled all around the world, speak four languages, and I am a damn good dancer. Sorry if it sounds like I’m bragging…
Now my problem is this: although I like what I do, being a grad student in Computer Science really hurts when it comes to meeting girls.
No girls in my classes, fine; no girls where I live (grad students don’t live with undergrad), no big deal; I can meet them by going out a lot. BIG MISTAKE!
Since this is a college town, basically all the bars (and the only club in town) are filled with students. It’s not a bad thing per se at all, but one thing that ruins the whole picture: all the girls only stick with the people they know.
This doesn’t mean that you actually need to know them, but there should be some kind of connection: they are in your class, they live in your building, you know their friends, or a friend of their friends/roommates and so on... But for some one like me, a total stranger, they usually won’t give me the time of the day. It feels like they already know enough guys they are interested in and don’t need more.
So that’s also why I practically don’t go to bars anymore, I mainly “focus” on the only dance club in town. The big first reason is that I LOVE to dance and I’m good (techno style, breaking, popping, dirty dancing or grinding, and some salsa), the other reason is that girls tend to be more open to “strangers” on the dance floor, especially if you are a good dancer.
But the thing is that the “good” girls (those I’m interested in) are only there to have a good time with their friends, so all I get is a nice dance but nothing more. They are simply not there to meet guys. On the other hand, there are always those attention w****s out there fishing for attention. I don’t even bother with these people because I know that they are just there to tease.
Now I am not desperate, because I do know some really hot girls through my friends, and some of them are really into me. But the problem is that as hot as they can be, they are usually a little bit older (27-30 because grad students) and for some reason, I’m really not into girls that are older than me. Although it’s always a good ego boost, it doesn’t help me a bit for what I’m looking for: a smart and good looking girlfriend close to my age.
I tend to think that many people on this board ask for advice about what to do with the chics they already know, but few people have trouble to actually get some "material" to work on. Those shy guys who can't do sh** with the girls from their classes don't count ok?
So please help me if you guys have any constructive ideas.
By the way I just went to a salsa bar tonight and I got hit on by a gorgeous woman in her early thirties. That made me feel very awkward and I fled the scene… went back to the usual dance club where the chics are younger lol
I'd like to share/ask for advice about a kind of situation that has never been explored on this board. I've been on this board for a couple of months already, and I haven’t come across anything similar to what I am about to share.
My big question is in short: WHERE/HOW DO I MEET THE TYPE OF GIRLS I LIKE?
My question may sound extremely stupid, but please let me put everything into context. I am a little Frenchie studying for a Master’s degree in Computer Science at PennState, located in the middle of nowhere in PA. I am the total opposite of the stereotypical nerdy computer guy. I go out a lot, I have tons of friends (not through Linux user group or anything like that hehe…), I take care of my looks reasonably. I’ve traveled all around the world, speak four languages, and I am a damn good dancer. Sorry if it sounds like I’m bragging…
Now my problem is this: although I like what I do, being a grad student in Computer Science really hurts when it comes to meeting girls.
No girls in my classes, fine; no girls where I live (grad students don’t live with undergrad), no big deal; I can meet them by going out a lot. BIG MISTAKE!
Since this is a college town, basically all the bars (and the only club in town) are filled with students. It’s not a bad thing per se at all, but one thing that ruins the whole picture: all the girls only stick with the people they know.
This doesn’t mean that you actually need to know them, but there should be some kind of connection: they are in your class, they live in your building, you know their friends, or a friend of their friends/roommates and so on... But for some one like me, a total stranger, they usually won’t give me the time of the day. It feels like they already know enough guys they are interested in and don’t need more.
So that’s also why I practically don’t go to bars anymore, I mainly “focus” on the only dance club in town. The big first reason is that I LOVE to dance and I’m good (techno style, breaking, popping, dirty dancing or grinding, and some salsa), the other reason is that girls tend to be more open to “strangers” on the dance floor, especially if you are a good dancer.
But the thing is that the “good” girls (those I’m interested in) are only there to have a good time with their friends, so all I get is a nice dance but nothing more. They are simply not there to meet guys. On the other hand, there are always those attention w****s out there fishing for attention. I don’t even bother with these people because I know that they are just there to tease.
Now I am not desperate, because I do know some really hot girls through my friends, and some of them are really into me. But the problem is that as hot as they can be, they are usually a little bit older (27-30 because grad students) and for some reason, I’m really not into girls that are older than me. Although it’s always a good ego boost, it doesn’t help me a bit for what I’m looking for: a smart and good looking girlfriend close to my age.
I tend to think that many people on this board ask for advice about what to do with the chics they already know, but few people have trouble to actually get some "material" to work on. Those shy guys who can't do sh** with the girls from their classes don't count ok?
So please help me if you guys have any constructive ideas.
By the way I just went to a salsa bar tonight and I got hit on by a gorgeous woman in her early thirties. That made me feel very awkward and I fled the scene… went back to the usual dance club where the chics are younger lol