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How To Respond To The "I Miss You" Text

soulforge

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This is my usual response to the 'I Miss You" text message

"That's nice, well it won't be long till we meet up babe"

However this response is running it course haha.

She hinted at once in a while telling her, that I miss her too.

I'm not talking about plates here, but how do you guys respond to this?
 

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Guess the response depends on if you miss her or nor.
 

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Sometimes, SS members overthink things. This is an example.

OP - if she is telling you she misses you this is a good sign (unless it is an ex trying to breadcrumb you). In that case, you should always mirror her interest to make sure her interest stays high. Your response comes off pretty cold honestly and may backfire.
 
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OP - if she is telling you she misses you this is a good sign (unless it is an ex trying to breadcrumb you). In that case, you should always mirror her interest to make sure her interest stays high. Your response comes off pretty cold honestly and may backfire.
When in doubt, mirror the girl's behavior.
 

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When in doubt, mirror the girl's behavior.
You mean follow her lead?

I thought SS advocates that the man lead, hold frame?

Obviously I'm missing something.

Anyway @soulforge my hubs isn't big on verbal expressions of affection either.

He's more a "demonstrate caring through actions" man, like my dad was.

Which is fine by me since I trust actions more than words myself.

Fwiw, whenever I text or say "I miss you" or "I've missed you!" (if he's been gone awhile) if by text, he will reply with a wink emoji ;) or if in person, he will smile, I jump into his arms and we head to the bedroom. :oops:

Personally, I dislike mirroring. It seems contrived to me, disingenuous.

Like he's only saying it out of obligation because I said it.

Just my personal opinion on that, there are many different thoughts on this.

You do you.
 
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You mean follow her lead?

I thought SS advocates that the man lead, hold frame?

Obviously I'm missing something.

Anyway @soulforge my hubs isn't big on verbal expressions of affection either.

He's more a "demonstrate caring through actions" man, like my dad was.

Which is fine by me since I trust actions more than words myself.

Fwiw, whenever I text or say "I miss you" or "I've missed you!" (if he's been gone awhile) if by text, he will reply with a wink emoji ;) or if in person, he will smile, I jump.into his arms and we head to the bedroom. :oops:

Personally, I dislike mirroring. It seems contrived to me, disingenuous.

Like he's only saying it out of obligation because I said it.

Just my personal opinion on that, there are many different thoughts on this.

You do you.
Not at all.

Mirroring functions in two ways. First, it rewards good behavior with more affection and attention. Second, it punishes bad behavior with silence and distance. In this way, the man ultimately controls the narrative as there is a clear-cut cause and effect of all actions.

You don't have to like it -- but it is highly effective and not contrived at all. Why should bad behavior be rewarded?
 

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Not at all.

Mirroring functions in two ways. First, it rewards good behavior with more affection and attention. Second, it punishes bad behavior with silence and distance. In this way, the man ultimately controls the narrative as there is a clear-cut cause and effect of all actions.

You don't have to like it -- but it is highly effective and not contrived at all. Why should bad behavior be rewarded?
That's fine, I was only stating that I don't like it, and gave reasons why.

If it's effective for you and other men, fabulous, no argument from me!

Just giving him a different perspective that's all, no wrong or right.

End of the day, be genuine, do what's right for you and feels natural.
 

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That's fine, to each his own

I was only stating that I don't like it, and gave reasons why.

If it's effective for you and other.men, fabulous, no argument from me!

Just giving him a different perspective that's all, no wrong or right.
And that's completely fine. The only part of your post I was truly "disagreeing" with was your characterization that mirroring is "following her lead." It certainly isn't that.
 

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And that's completely fine. The only part of your post I was truly "disagreeing" with was your characterization that mirroring is "following her lead." It certainly isn't that.
Fair enough but it was a question, not a statement of fact.

I admitted that I may have been missing something.
 

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Well, my hubs is a man, soooo.... ;)

And these things occurred while we were dating also.
See this is the problem. It's women like you who poison beta males with false insights and ideas based off your boring monogamous lifestyle that will give them the belief that women can actually give dating and relationship advice. Now i'm not saying women can't give insight on marriage, but definitely not on scoring casual sex. So what are you really bringing to the table on SS? The men who are actually married on here most likely wont benefit from you, and the men who are looking to score casual sex DEFF aren't either...
 
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