How to check your woman?

[soulforge]

I've seen girls literally cheat on their guys and they still beg them back. Of course, there's one time deal breakers like that but your gf is human after all.

I'm all for giving a girl one chance for a serious discretion.

When it becomes two or more.. It's legs day. Time to walk

 

[Divorced w 3]

Problem with walking away for two weeks is, gives her time to think things through too, and maybe she weighs out some of her other options.

And?

 

[stringpuller]

too, and maybe she weighs out some of her other options.

What are you afraid of her doing? Playing in fear is not a winning strategy.
This is called leading.
Living your life as a man by the reactions of others is not good.

Whats your plan? Keep moving the line back?

 

[stringpuller]

I'm all for giving a girl one chance for a serious discretion.

7 years on the one story. Not sure about OP but from his posts im sure its not the first rodeo

 

[Millard Fillmore]

In the exact scenario of the OP, I always say "I am leaving. Are you coming with me or not?" They usually do. But by giving them a choice they don't try to play the "you are controlling" card about it later. Also, I think if they end up staying it gives them time to stew over where I may have went and what's going to happen with me when we talk about it later. Last time I did this I left, didn't answer her calls for an hour. When i finally did answer I actually got a full apology, her begging me to come back to pick her up, some reflection on what she had done wrong, and some great sex when we got home.

Good response here. A man's tools are his attention or lack thereof.

"Boundaries" doesn't mean telling her what not to do. It means showing what you won't accept.

 

[soulforge]

And?

I'm not suggesting that shouldn't walk away, I'm simply highlighting something that may likely happen, considering how many options they have.

 

[stringpuller]

And?

Haha congrats you noticed. Nice catch.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I'm not suggesting that shouldn't walk away, I'm simply highlighting something that may likely happen, considering how many options they have.

I understand, and that is really the point. OP would be sending a very clear message that this type of behavior does not equate with the type of relationship he’s interested in. A secondary message in the action is that he is confident in his abundance, but primarily is that he just does not interest in that behavior , for whatever reason.

To be sure, OP better not be throwing a rock at a glass house.

 

[anour]

A few weeks ago, my wife was openly disrespectful to me in public for the first time ever (married 7 years). I told her right then and there that she could cut the sh*t, or find a different ride home. She b*tched about it, then stopped. I didn't say a word to her for 2 days until she came around asking "what's wrong?" like a child who goddamned knew better. I said "I will not put up with disrespect in any manner, but if you're disrespectful to me in front of other people again - I'll have someone else to fill your spot in my bed within the week."

She shut the f*ck up and realized I wasn't playing. It was a sh*t test and I nuked it from orbit. Her apology involved suction.
A couple days later, she started showing the first true signs of wanting to submit to me after 3 months of running my MAP.


Women are going to check your boundaries. They're hardwired to.

It's on YOU to lock that sh*t down and make sure she knows you're gone if she doesn't stop.

What is MAP?

 

[Pierce.Manhammer]

What is MAP?

It’s an old term meaning Male Action Plan. Derived I believe from Athol Kay’s work.

 

[Money & Muscle]

This kind of thing has a deeper meaning behind it. There is something else off.

Were I to guess, it's likely the beginning of a long overdue frame shift and my wife's beginning of epic level **** testing before she ends up giving me willful and complete possession of that *ss.
@Divorced w 3

Still the way you handled it doesnt work.
Think of "death by a thousand cuts"

I handled it by giving her one warning, which was followed up by a promise that she could find herself a new home if she pulled that sh*t again. I'm not sure to what extent I could have done more than that without leaving my wife in the middle of a city with no money and no ride.

How would you have handled it, specifically?

 

[stringpuller]

Were I to guess, it's likely the beginning of a long overdue frame shift and my wife's beginning of epic level **** testing before she ends up giving me willful and complete possession of that *ss.
@Divorced w 3


I handled it by giving her one warning, which was followed up by a promise that she could find herself a new home if she pulled that sh*t again. I'm not sure to what extent I could have done more than that without leaving my wife in the middle of a city with no money and no ride.

How would you have handled it, specifically?

1 instance wont kill you. Its 1k times a guy says something with no action.
Its hard to say without knowing the exact context. You probably handled the best you could that particular day.

I probably would not have bitched at her in the moment. Stay calm and address it later the next day or 2.
Yes if came to that I would have left her azz there.
Point is its best to not be in these situations.
Im also married and my girl knows not to do this in public.
Its capitol punishment. Its up there with me on the level of deciet. Big no no.

Every situation is different.

 

[The Duke]

It’s not worth it for me. There’s always another woman out there. No girl is special enough that I want to micromanage her

Then you probably shouldn't have any long term relationships with women. We all fail at times.

 

[SargeMaximus]

Then you probably shouldn't have any long term relationships with women. We all fail at times.

Suits me fine bro. I don’t need em