How many of you guys over 40 have actually sign a prenup

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I bring it up every time my GF brings up marriage, and she says she's amenable to signing one.

Why are you getting married?
 

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Hi Eli,
Yes under duress I was forced into marriage,I made up a Pre-Nuptial all formal even paid her award rates for watering the Garden,True!...When eventually it was used in Court the Judge threw it out but it was accepeted back as a Contract between us and saved me a great deal...Unless you want Children or in my case want them back again,marriage with or without the Pre-Nuptial is a fools game.
 

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I think the big problem is that women want security since they know their beauty, their most powerful bargain, won't last forever. I'm taking about women close to their 30's.

Bringing up a prenup will show that you're not a fool and that you know nothing is 100% (like the relationship). She might look for a next fool.

Imagine someone bailing on your mom or sister.
 

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You do know that she can go to a judge with a lawyer when you're getting divorced and then say she did it under pressure from him to get married, that it was coercion, like either you get the vaccine or you're resigning your job. And if you made more than her and the marriage has some time the judge can throw away the pre-nup

Google it, I read the best way is to have her signed every year, but good luck with that.
 

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Just don't marry if you value your money and have more than she does. There are plenty of other girls out there. Find want that plays by your rules.
 

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You do know that she can go to a judge with a lawyer when you're getting divorced and then say she did it under pressure from him to get married, that it was coercion, like either you get the vaccine or you're resigning your job. And if you made more than her and the marriage has some time the judge can throw away the pre-nup

Google it, I read the best way is to have her signed every year, but good luck with that.
You do know that anyone can go to a judge and make whatever claim they want? It doesn't mean they're going to win.

Hire an attorney in your jurisdiction experienced with family law matters, ask them about the process and ask them the odds the prenup will be enforced if you follow the process.

In my jurisdiction if you follow the process the odds of a coercion claim working are virtually zero. If you have a big difference in net worth, then you may have to give her something that looks analogous to liquidated damages.

I've never heard anything about signing a prenup every year. Sounds unnecessary to me.
 

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You do know that she can go to a judge with a lawyer when you're getting divorced and then say she did it under pressure from him to get married, that it was coercion, like either you get the vaccine or you're resigning your job. And if you made more than her and the marriage has some time the judge can throw away the pre-nup

Google it, I read the best way is to have her signed every year, but good luck with that.
Just have it video'd during signature and initialization of each page. Hard to prove coersion in that regard.
 

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Good lawyers tend to get around many prenups. Don't think they are ironclad just because you have one.

They are thrown out almost 50% of the time in practice.

 

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Good lawyers tend to get around many prenups. Don't think they are ironclad just because you have one.

They are thrown out almost 50% of the time in practice.

I wouldn't bother. My advice for men is not to get married. If you do indeed take the plunge, no use attempting to protect yourself with ineffective methods such as prenups. Just accept the risks.
 

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I wouldn't bother. My advice for men is not to get married. If you do indeed take the plunge, no use attempting to protect yourself with ineffective methods such as prenups. Just accept the risks.
Ironically the cost to defend against the prenup if a woman chooses to really press the issue could cost almost as much as what you'd lose and then you have a 50% chance of still losing it.
 

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Prenups are good but agree that they aren’t 100% bullet proof. I have several other strategies for protecting my assets from my wife, should i ever need. First off, we do not have any joint accounts. Also, I hoard cash. I take out a little each week and hide it in one of several spots. If ever asked in court, “I blew it at the casino your honor. I will go to gambling rehab if you want”. Not much the Judge can do there other than send you to rehab. As for my other methods for asset protection on my 401k, etc., I have some text messages with my wife about that that i think would hold up in court to my favor. She has said, three separate times in text to me, that she doesn’t think she is entitled to my 401k, etc. and that my daughter should get it before her. She would have to explain why she said it more than once and then changed her mind. I do my own legal work and if we divorced i would not have a lawyer. In civil matters i can represent myself much better than a lawyer can. I would drag her through court and tire her out so hard on every tiny thing that she would eventually just let me get things my way because she would just want it over with. I love my wife but i know she doesn’t have even 10% of the mental stamina that i have in big stressful matters. She has even admitted that she wouldn’t be able to deal with me in a divorce and would just want it done quickly. I would exploit her weaknesses in my favor and she knows it. Hopefully I will never have to actually do this, but i have given it thought.
 

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Prenups are good but agree that they aren’t 100% bullet proof. I have several other strategies for protecting my assets from my wife, should i ever need. First off, we do not have any joint accounts. Also, I hoard cash. I take out a little each week and hide it in one of several spots. If ever asked in court, “I blew it at the casino your honor. I will go to gambling rehab if you want”. Not much the Judge can do there other than send you to rehab. As for my other methods for asset protection on my 401k, etc., I have some text messages with my wife about that that i think would hold up in court to my favor. She has said, three separate times in text to me, that she doesn’t think she is entitled to my 401k, etc. and that my daughter should get it before her. She would have to explain why she said it more than once and then changed her mind. I do my own legal work and if we divorced i would not have a lawyer. In civil matters i can represent myself much better than a lawyer can. I would drag her through court and tire her out so hard on every tiny thing that she would eventually just let me get things my way because she would just want it over with. I love my wife but i know she doesn’t have even 10% of the mental stamina that i have in big stressful matters. She has even admitted that she wouldn’t be able to deal with me in a divorce and would just want it done quickly. I would exploit her weaknesses in my favor and she knows it. Hopefully I will never have to actually do this, but i have given it thought.
As far as hoarding cash, I do the same, but knowing I'm losing value due to inflation is a cause for concern. Any ideas to counteract that?
 

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As far as hoarding cash, I do the same, but knowing I'm losing value due to inflation is a cause for concern. Any ideas to counteract that?
No ideas for inflation specifically, but agree that’s definitely a CON to the cash hoarding method. Related note, I did lower the amount i put on my 401k each check until the markets get back to bullish. I also don't have anymore stocks in overnight positions, other than whats in the 401k.
 
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