I hear ya man but you have to consider this. Even the super hero eventually becomes mundane. Your wife will have seen all of your weakness's and flaws over the course of 40 yrs. Everyone is human. You cant keep frame 24/7 over 40 yrs. Tom Brady etc etcI don't know man but if you had frame in the relationship, you took the time to vet her properly, you didn't rush to marriage, and you were always the leader, why wouldn't you keep frame? If you stop being attractive, a leader, bad with money, no ambition, that's on you, burden of performance remember?
My closest married guy friends:
1. Was an alpha, dated multiple women, got one pregnant at 32, had to get married, now fat, while his wife hot.
2. Had a motorcycle, was friends before lovers, got ger pregnant had to get married.
3. Married an undocumented chick who can't bear any children, but he wants, she's 32 now, typical beta ****.
4. Was with her since 18, she turned out to be a crazy batch since the beginning, he was a plow horse, she never helped him with anything, now has 2 daughters.
I guess they don't have any desire to date their wives, but again, they chose them as wives, still men's fault. And then they all tell me to get married cause is wonderful.
Also, the bad boy loses his novelty over 40 yrs. She knows you too well. You will also lose frame because you are a father. It is very difficult to be this super sexy bad boy when you are changing diapers.
Lastly, the women just gets bored. People change a lot over 40 yrs. Who the woman was at 23 is not the woman she will be at 43.
Im not saying you are wrong but I a saying it is harder than it sounds to keep frame as a married man. Just the fact you married her makes you lose points in her head. Uncertainty is sexy.
* i do agree that many men dont help their situations by getting fat etc*