how can i improve my looks?

[kevin1198]

im not the best looking around. but i would like some help on improving my looks.

pic

http://s589.photobucket.com/albums/...?action=view&current=08010917011.jpg&newest=1





1. hair

wondering what hairstyle will fit for my type of hair. i got it short, and somewhat curly.. when long it gets really curly, but im in ROTC (for the scholarship and CONFIDENCE) so cant keep it above 2 inches.

I use murrays pomade. or g2b glued (prefer the pomade since it doesnt dry my hair out). but i cant find the right style for me. as far as i know my face is either square or oval.

2. face

not much here. my face is always somewhat pinkish or red but that doesnt bother me. could be rosacea. i have weird lines on my face. i think their laugh lines but idk. i would like some tips on making it look better. some days it just looks like sh*t no matter what.

3. fitness

i've slacked off over the summer i have to admit
i wasnt able to go to the gym after awhile, and pushups and situps werent doing much.. i want to gain some mass, but its hard to gain weight since my body is naturally thin. i got a pullup bar recently so any workout plans that dont really involve equipment could help:yes:

 

[eaglez1177]

pushups, pull ups, and pull ups will all have positive effects. If you really want to make the effects visible though, you have to concentrate on losing fat and gaining muscle.

and try to get out in the sun more you would look a lot better with a tan.

 

[I'm Charming]

Your face looks more round in that picture, you need to create the illusion of more length I think, thats hard to do without growing it out though.

You should work on your clothes mainly, they look baggy and ill fitting, improving your sense of fashion and how you dress will definately improve your looks and confidence, I'd recommend losing the skip cap, skip caps dont really work for anyone.

When your working on your outfit though, you need to consider what social group you are aiming for, its all about niches. You look like your going for a half hearted rock look here - I see the t with the skulls and the dark shirt. You could definately sport a better rock look by working in a leather jacket and a pair of nice darker jeans, if thats what you're aiming for.

Also some accessories - its the small things that people (women) comment on, I went out the other day wearing a £200 leather jacket, £50 shoes and a nice pair of £35 jeans, the only thing I got a comment on all night was my black nails (nail polish £3), its definately about how the whole look adds up as well, but the accessories and small touches top it off and give people something to notice as it were.

(You might think the black nailpolish a bit odd, but I can get away with it, I play lead guitar in a rock band, I'm allowed to be a tad strange)

Gaining mass is a 90% dietary thing, I wont comment on that because I know less than I'm sure most of the guys in the health and fitness section on here do, but I'm sure they'd agree that its mostly about what your eating.

Whatever you do, you need to draw more attention to yourself, because at the moment you look like your average boring nice guy, and you need to walk away from that stereotype and embrace something that with more masculine/feminine polarity and something that says who you are and what you stand for.

 

[eaglez1177]

Just wondering kevin but where are you from? I was just asking because Charming's advice was that you buy a leather jacket or something, and I just wanted to mention that teenagers in america (at least where im from) NEVER wear leather jackets lol, thats much more of a european thing.

 

[I'm Charming]

Just wondering kevin but where are you from? I was just asking because Charming's advice was that you buy a leather jacket or something, and I just wanted to mention that teenagers in america (at least where im from) NEVER wear leather jackets lol, thats much more of a european thing.

Strange reaction, the leather jacket has always been the sole "bad boy" item in pretty much any movie - american or not, I can think of, ever, its hollywood visual slang for badass.

 

[jeffthechef]

1. Hair..i had a thread on that recently..but i'm horrible at determining face shape...you seem like a square or oval..as for what kinda haircut..i just googled around or you could BING it...
But
It's
Not
Google
Haha..always makes me laugh

2. Face
No fukin idea as to what rosacea is...you say you're usually pinkish..so is a tan even possible? I mean if it is, go try and get one, but if not it's fine...and dont use tanning booths. They now say it's equal to smoking cigarettes regarding the level of risk of cancer. or something like that...just go to the beach/pool

3. Body
I haven't been to a gym in a long time.. I know i'll be more consistent in college..cause my hs gym is always fool and there aren't any nearby gyms. The only equipment i have is a pull up bar and weightset..I use the weightset for a few things: bench press for chest...military press for shoulders mainly, flies for chest, have that leg segment for my quads/hamstrings/glutes..use the bar: curls for arms, can't remember the name for traps, and occasionally is squat (usually i have no spotter and i dont want to drop the bar on the living room floor)

the pull up bar for arms, shoulders, lats

running/jumping thigns that i did during basketball practices for my legs/cardio
calf raises too sometimes...and the stool position

i have a whole set workout for abs that i developed after reading a bodybuilding amgazin when i wa in the 6th grade...i just added on to it some things that i've come across during team sports...you can develop your own..just google around and you'll find a lot of good exercises

 

[eaglez1177]

Strange reaction, the leather jacket has always been the sole "bad boy" item in pretty much any movie - american or not, I can think of, ever, its hollywood visual slang for badass.

Yea but thats hollywood...how often do you a see a teenager in highschool walking around with a leather jacket on? Ive never seen that before in my life (at least where im from)

 

[I'm Charming]

Yea but thats hollywood...how often do you a see a teenager in highschool walking around with a leather jacket on? Ive never seen that before in my life (at least where im from)

Well I dont know, where I live we had to have a uniform on at high school, anyway, sod it, it was just a recommendation, who cares what other people are doing, this is all about establishing an identity - and since theres nothing fashionably unacceptable about a leather jacket, I can't see why not - unless of course the OP lives in a really hot climate, then I really cant recommend it at all.

 

[jeffthechef]

yeah, i haven't seen the leather jacket too...and regarding fashion

to be completely honest, most of the guys who are getting the girls don't dress the best..they're usually dressed well enough or simply casually...but carry themselves well

so you should find clothes that make you feel comfortable..because the guys who get girls have confidence..i can even see it and tell which guys are getting laid/are the alphas..not that getting laid makes you an alpha of course

you see them walking with a cool confidence and dominant gaze..they don't move sluggishly or extremely fast..their expressions come out naturally and in sync with the conversation...they don't try and get attention..they dont ever attack others out of jealousy or weakness or any reason really..they're laid back..i'm sure there are some alpha kind of guys at your school..dont observe like a fukin scientist or take notes..but after a while, you'll get what it's like and it will probably help you

just need that inner confidence...just wathcout for being too ****y...i mean, ss preaches ****y and funny..but watchout cause many girls say men who are too ****y are a turnoff..of course, my last ex said this and i used lots of ****y and funny...it's really how you come off...if you come off as confident, when you're ****y and not as some self-loving *****...then you're doing it right..watch your execution

AND LAST..FINALLY
When you do walk confidently, don't push your chest out so much that you begin to walk like a penguin...there was this one guy..who tried his best to walk confidently..and i could tell..for 3 years...i would see him wakling by..looked like he had a back problem because his chin was so high in the air that his eyes basically looked down..to look straight ahead...it was way too obvious..

 

[kevin1198]

Just wondering kevin but where are you from? I was just asking because Charming's advice was that you buy a leather jacket or something, and I just wanted to mention that teenagers in america (at least where im from) NEVER wear leather jackets lol, thats much more of a european thing.

yea, im from America. and theres not many people wearing leather jackets around here.

 

[Following_of_Me]

Fashion is simple. Dress comfortably.

I wear jeans, sneakers or boots, and a t shirt. That's it. Occasionally, I'll wear a button up shirt over my t shirt with the sleeves up when it's cold, otherwise it's a t shirt. I make sure not to wear my shirts too loose, but my jeans are usually loose or boot cut. And my hair is just cut short, and I usually wear one of my many baseball hats..most of which are faded significantly from a mix of oil from my car and salt water from the beach.

But that's just MY look. I can look good in other clothes, but I'm more comfortable like that and girls like how I dress because it suits me. So don't worry too much about fashion, just make sure it fits your personality.

 

[kevin1198]

Well I dont know, where I live we had to have a uniform on at high school, anyway, sod it, it was just a recommendation, who cares what other people are doing, this is all about establishing an identity - and since theres nothing fashionably unacceptable about a leather jacket, I can't see why not - unless of course the OP lives in a really hot climate, then I really cant recommend it at all.

im down here in Georgia. so the humidity is off the charts.

 

[kevin1198]

yeah, i haven't seen the leather jacket too...and regarding fashion

to be completely honest, most of the guys who are getting the girls don't dress the best..they're usually dressed well enough or simply casually...but carry themselves well

so you should find clothes that make you feel comfortable..because the guys who get girls have confidence..i can even see it and tell which guys are getting laid/are the alphas..not that getting laid makes you an alpha of course

you see them walking with a cool confidence and dominant gaze..they don't move sluggishly or extremely fast..their expressions come out naturally and in sync with the conversation...they don't try and get attention..they dont ever attack others out of jealousy or weakness or any reason really..they're laid back..i'm sure there are some alpha kind of guys at your school..dont observe like a fukin scientist or take notes..but after a while, you'll get what it's like and it will probably help you

just need that inner confidence...just wathcout for being too ****y...i mean, ss preaches ****y and funny..but watchout cause many girls say men who are too ****y are a turnoff..of course, my last ex said this and i used lots of ****y and funny...it's really how you come off...if you come off as confident, when you're ****y and not as some self-loving *****...then you're doing it right..watch your execution

AND LAST..FINALLY
When you do walk confidently, don't push your chest out so much that you begin to walk like a penguin...there was this one guy..who tried his best to walk confidently..and i could tell..for 3 years...i would see him wakling by..looked like he had a back problem because his chin was so high in the air that his eyes basically looked down..to look straight ahead...it was way too obvious..

i've noticed that too.
i wore normal clothes for awhile and got some good signals from hbs a while back. but i was too much afc to even talk to them.

yea. im not so good on the ****y and funny. cant call it up on demand like some people. at times though my wit kicks in and makes the whole room burst into laughter. which is very rare cause im considered a "boring" person.
but when i make them laugh, i try to see what was so funny about what i said, and apply that to other situations but it never works out. most of the time whatevers funny is stuff i dont really find that funny at all.. or think to much about.

thanks for the tips jeffthechef :flowers: