mikedee
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I started to date a girl from tinder 1.5 month ago. We had 4 dates (1 date per week on Friday or Saturday), until date #4 she was really interested, she used to text me everyday and double text, send pictures, videos. At the end of the second date, I told her I would have like to invite her at my place but unfortunately I could not because I live in a university dorm and it's close for non resident due to COVID (she knew that I lived in a dorm already and was fine with that) so I suggested to go to her place, she hesitated and refused, I think she wasn't ready after only 2 dates (they are more conservative in this country), I didn't react, all good, see you. 3rd she had to go home earlier because her mother was coming early in the morning to spend the day with her (her mother lives in another city). All good. 4th date, the date was ok but I could feel that interest was dropping a bit but it was still a good date, less novelty a more comfort, we still kissed at the end of the date. The week after we didn't met because she was getting ready to go in a big festival for a week in another city. I texted her the day before the departure and she only answered the next day, which was very unusual, during the week she had been distant too, I thought she was just busy at work (she always said she was busy at work, but still could find time to text me) Anyway. Every time we dated we kissed (hot make outs). After date 4, I deleted my tinder account but didn't told her, she probably noticed it.
I didn't text her last week while she at the festival. she got back on Sunday I think and I texted her on Monday (yesterday) to ask her if she was back (So you're back), she saw the message and silence. At that point I know it was dead. I texted her an hour ago, telling her that finally 2 virgos can't be in a relationship (kind of callback humor to restart a dialog, we had that conversation many times, it was a running gag between us, we are both Virgo) just to see what she would respond, I had to intention to win her back really, I was just curious. She said that the kind of relationship we could have is not what she wanted right now in her life. I didn't understand, I thought that maybe she wanted to have fun but she rejected me on the second date and we were already on day 4, so I said I'm not sure to understand, what kind of relationship do you want: serious or sex (not in these words). She said serious, I said I thought we were on that path and she said that she thinks it's impossible for us right now to have a relationship, I asked why? No reply.. Please don't say you got needy bla bla, I know I shouldn't have texted her today and everything but I did and it was not out of neediness or desperation, I knew that I had lost the girl the week before. I'm fine with that, not a nice feeling but I'm ok.
She is the type of girl who post stories 24/7, she is really active on instagram (she doesn't have a lot of followers though), I never followed her, not sure if it's an important detail but...
Where/When did I fvck up? am I missing something? I'm a bit confused to be honest. It's ok because she was not 100% my type after all, I was loosing interest too but I didn't show it (I think), i don't want it to happen again. Maybe she met a guy at the festival, or I don't know. what do you think?
thanks guys!
I didn't text her last week while she at the festival. she got back on Sunday I think and I texted her on Monday (yesterday) to ask her if she was back (So you're back), she saw the message and silence. At that point I know it was dead. I texted her an hour ago, telling her that finally 2 virgos can't be in a relationship (kind of callback humor to restart a dialog, we had that conversation many times, it was a running gag between us, we are both Virgo) just to see what she would respond, I had to intention to win her back really, I was just curious. She said that the kind of relationship we could have is not what she wanted right now in her life. I didn't understand, I thought that maybe she wanted to have fun but she rejected me on the second date and we were already on day 4, so I said I'm not sure to understand, what kind of relationship do you want: serious or sex (not in these words). She said serious, I said I thought we were on that path and she said that she thinks it's impossible for us right now to have a relationship, I asked why? No reply.. Please don't say you got needy bla bla, I know I shouldn't have texted her today and everything but I did and it was not out of neediness or desperation, I knew that I had lost the girl the week before. I'm fine with that, not a nice feeling but I'm ok.
She is the type of girl who post stories 24/7, she is really active on instagram (she doesn't have a lot of followers though), I never followed her, not sure if it's an important detail but...
Where/When did I fvck up? am I missing something? I'm a bit confused to be honest. It's ok because she was not 100% my type after all, I was loosing interest too but I didn't show it (I think), i don't want it to happen again. Maybe she met a guy at the festival, or I don't know. what do you think?
thanks guys!