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Handy vs non-handy and relationship status

oc16

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I know women are super turned on by men who can fix things and are handy around the house; I read that turns women on more than good looks, athletics, finance, cooking, etc.

Now that I think about it, most men that I know who are handy are in relationships or married and not all of these men are attractive physically by conventional means.

Is it coincidence that the handy men are better at getting and keeping women?

I am not very handy. Growing up (I'm 42) my Dad was an electrician and was always very handy. He is not a patient person, so i never really got taught much. I also never owned any property so rental places obviously fix your stuff when you have a problem.

I mean, I've changed a flat tire once, can use a hammer and nails, lawn mower, snow blower, etc...but I have never done much of anything else.

Am I on to something here?
 

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I know women are super turned on by men who can fix things and are handy around the house; I read that turns women on more than good looks, athletics, finance, cooking, etc.

Now that I think about it, most men that I know who are handy are in relationships or married and not all of these men are attractive physically by conventional means.

Is it coincidence that the handy men are better at getting and keeping women?

I am not very handy. Growing up (I'm 42) my Dad was an electrician and was always very handy. He is not a patient person, so i never really got taught much. I also never owned any property so rental places obviously fix your stuff when you have a problem.

I mean, I've changed a flat tire once, can use a hammer and nails, lawn mower, snow blower, etc...but I have never done much of anything else.

Am I on to something here?
They can be. Womens hypergamous nature can lead them to using the handiman for labor and fvcking another guy. If you have a high degree of proficiency, charge folks.
 

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Years ago i had a first online date with a woman. When we were eating she made hints about needing something fixed in her car. After I shrugged it off she finally flat out asked if I would look at it for her right out in the parking lot. I said “Oh I didn’t know u wanted it looked at today I don’t have my tools with me”. Her reply, exact words “What kind of man doesn’t carry tools everywhere he goes?” . I said well “Looks like the kind of man that isn’t going to see you again”. We quickly got the check and went our separate ways. That was about the most abrupt ending to a date I think I’ve ever had.
 

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I can do pretty much anything on a car or a house. Built a race car from the frame up once. Remodeled many homes I have owned. So I consider myself very handy.

I have not found it to have any bearing in my success, or lack therefore with women. In my blue pill days, it didn’t make a difference. I’d still get dumped by girls even after I fixed their car or they saw the awesome new deck I built.

I do think women like it and appreciate it but there are SO many more important things that make a much bigger difference. Like really understanding the dynamic between men and women, not being needy, being a challenge, teasing, confidence, etc. If you are not having the success you want with women now, becoming handy will have zero benefit for you.
 

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A current lady friend is very turned on by my forearms and her direct quote was "I love when a guy rolls up his sleeves, it means that **** is about to get done!" She says that for her it's the equivalent of a girl walking around topless. The equivalence is pretty good since both actually serve a useful purpose.

I was informed that there is a reddit for forearm porn. I also learned that you probably don't want to look at it, so don't say I didn't warn you.

Being handy is most def a thing, it's a measure of masculinity. Some women will probably make this a defining requirement just like some guys love feet. I don't get it, but whatever works. I'm sure these women are a small minority of the dating pool.
 

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Being handy/mechanically inclined gives you a leg up. As a result, women think of you as being smart, masculine, decisive, and confident. Anytime you can carve out a niche from the sea of penis' women have at their disposal, you'll have an advantage.

But don't ever let women use you because of your skills. Unless they are fuhking you, the answer is no. They can call up some other white knight or pay somebody to fix their stuff.
 

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lmao "Laying pipe" is much better than your average everyday "Handy" man stuff!
 

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Being handy is more masculine, plain and simple. Not to say a woman is going to prefer a man whose career is purely physical labor, but a guy who works a white collar job and can come home and build his kids a swingset and fix a leaky faucet is the second chapter of the white picket fence fantasy.

So demonstrate that you can swing a hammer or something that shows those muscles aren't just for show. I once sent a video of me pounding in concrete form stakes. She replied that it made her wet.

Early on women might try to take advantage (look at what Plumbers and Electricians charge). But you have to set boundaries. Like anything. You demonstrate value, but don't give it away.
 
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