Sure, go ahead and flame me. I knew the risks and made a calculated decision a while back. The truth is, I've been seriously dating a coworker for a few years, so it's not a fling. Overall it's been good, but I'm feeling it coming to an end for a variety of reasons.
Most of the "tips" on the internet about ending office relationships are female-centric, so I'm asking my fellow DJs for any advice on this.
I have great standing at my office. Of course I know there are horror stories out there about men being destroyed at work. I don't think that will happen, but have to be professional and smart about this. My boss (female) loves me and the work I do and is generally very cool.
In fact, she has butted heads with HR a few times (unrelated to our relationship) so there's that.
Anyway, we've already nearly broken up a few times the past year or so. We've also had serious discussions about the fact that this relationship is simply not growing any more, and that we are not destined to be together forever. Last week we started discussing it anew. It was the night before a big work day, so she said "this is an important discussion, and we should continue it, but you shouldn't think about this the night before your big event tomorrow." The point is, I think she's been girding herself for this for a while.
We work on different floors, same department. I'm not her supervisor or anything. Honestly I thought she'd have gotten another job by now, but she's been unlucky with that. So I'm just preparing to rip the band aid off soon without being too cruel.
In fact, I know she knows I'm not feeling it, but I think she fears being alone which is normal for a female. And I don't want to waste her time - if she wants a husband and babies, I'd rather set her free.
Any thoughts? And yeah you can flame me, I'm an idiot, I know. I'm posting here because I trust your opinions.
Most of the "tips" on the internet about ending office relationships are female-centric, so I'm asking my fellow DJs for any advice on this.
I have great standing at my office. Of course I know there are horror stories out there about men being destroyed at work. I don't think that will happen, but have to be professional and smart about this. My boss (female) loves me and the work I do and is generally very cool.
In fact, she has butted heads with HR a few times (unrelated to our relationship) so there's that.
Anyway, we've already nearly broken up a few times the past year or so. We've also had serious discussions about the fact that this relationship is simply not growing any more, and that we are not destined to be together forever. Last week we started discussing it anew. It was the night before a big work day, so she said "this is an important discussion, and we should continue it, but you shouldn't think about this the night before your big event tomorrow." The point is, I think she's been girding herself for this for a while.
We work on different floors, same department. I'm not her supervisor or anything. Honestly I thought she'd have gotten another job by now, but she's been unlucky with that. So I'm just preparing to rip the band aid off soon without being too cruel.
In fact, I know she knows I'm not feeling it, but I think she fears being alone which is normal for a female. And I don't want to waste her time - if she wants a husband and babies, I'd rather set her free.
Any thoughts? And yeah you can flame me, I'm an idiot, I know. I'm posting here because I trust your opinions.