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Girl you’ve been seeing ex calls her out of the blue

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I was just wondering if guys usually kept seeing the girl or if it would be smarter to just be like “nope, fvck this, I’m getting out NOW before it goes further because I know she’s going back to him eventually.”
I think that's pretty case by case. To me, it is a red flag and speaks to her mindset as @catsmeow stated.

Is it a deal-breaker?

That is ultimately such a personal decision. Because while others might find it disrespectful and distasteful to attempt to arise jealousy in you and decide to move on (and rightfully so as no one has time for someone playing games), some might find it simply immature and not pay too much attention. I do think you have to take other characteristics about her into consideration and make a decision holistically.

To simply walk away in the fear that she will dump you because she can potentially get back to him will only speak volumes about your character and mindset. It speaks, at least for me, weak. But to walk away because you value your time and have really high standards in your life is highly respectable and honorable. So it really depends on your true reason for walking away.

Her ultimate goal is to trigger a reaction, your path as a man is to walk the Earth unfazed by others' actions knowing your ultimate purpose and direction. Do not give her what she is ultimately childishly trying to accomplish.

Hope this helps.

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Ignore it, it was most likely some sort of "shyt test" to gauge your reaction. Not proud to admit but I have played games like that myself in the past (20ish). They are silly and childish and reflect insecurity.

Honestly let it go one ear and out the other, as well as any other attempt to provoke jealousy, like mentioning other guys who approached/hit on her that day.

Do not respond, do NOT react, pretend you didn't hear it and immediately change the subject.

EDIT: If it does turn out to be true (massive IF), and she leaves you for him, so be. Leave them to it, hopefully you have other options.
I agree with this advice, except for the bolded part. Ignore the sh!t tests but draw appropriate conclusions. A woman who does stuff like that is plate material at best. Do not even consider a serious relationship with her.
 

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I was just wondering if guys usually kept seeing the girl or if it would be smarter to just be like “nope, fvck this, I’m getting out NOW before it goes further because I know she’s going back to him eventually.”
That's your fear talking AND your ego. Both have no rightful place.

People who allow their fears and ego to drive their ship don't get very far before that ship will SINK.

Strive to become better yourself, have more confidence, and you won't have such fears let alone allow those fears to control your frame.

You will KNOW instinctively you are the better man even if she doesn't yet, but she WILL if you can incorporate that attitude.

If she ends up going back to him, so be, on to the next.
 

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Something I’ve had happen to me several times and never knew how to handle. Say you’ve been out with a girl a few times and things seem to be going well, then she drops the bomb on you “my ex called me today”. And it’s always 6-7 months after they’ve broken up. Always. And the ex always seems to call as soon as it seems like things are going well. The girl plays it off “it means nothing! I blocked him! I like you!” but you know it’s the beginning of the end. Do you ghost her? Make her a plate even after she wasn’t plate status before (and how do you even do that?). How do you handle this situation?
I pull back. Ex or guy friends means downgrade to booty call.
 

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Men are told not to ask “what are we” though. Makes us look weak and needy. And I’m not about to be exclusive with anyone I’ve only been out with 4-5 times. One of the girls, we even had the “what are we” talk and we were both on the same page. Then not two weeks later she pulls the “my ex called me yesterday” crap.
I 100% leave it to women. Modern women tend not to pursue ltr. Good riddance. Got mine. Any mention of ex is grounds for disregard. #next!

Go get more girls. It's screaming liability.
 

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Something I’ve had happen to me several times and never knew how to handle. Say you’ve been out with a girl a few times and things seem to be going well, then she drops the bomb on you “my ex called me today”. And it’s always 6-7 months after they’ve broken up. Always. And the ex always seems to call as soon as it seems like things are going well. The girl plays it off “it means nothing! I blocked him! I like you!” but you know it’s the beginning of the end. Do you ghost her? Make her a plate even after she wasn’t plate status before (and how do you even do that?). How do you handle this situation?
I'd say "Oh really?" and ask what he said. If she's telling you, it's probably not a bad thing. If she was interested in getting back with him she'd just meet the guy in secret without telling you anything about it.
 
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