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Yeah there is an ex boyfriend in the picture. She broke up with him a few months ago. The excuse she gave is he didn't make her a priority and he has been texting her and she expressed frustration about this on our first date saying she did not want any contact but said thankfully she hasn't heard from him in a few weeks. But last weekend she mentioned he'd been texting her again and it was so annoying. But seems strange why she wouldn't block him. So maybe there is still something going on there. Or he is reminding her that she doesn't want to be in a relationship and just wants to have fun with friends and enjoy her freedom so she decided she didnt want to date
If it was reallying bothering her and she was getting frustrated that her ex keeps texting, then she would have blocked him. She still likes/wants him and she likes the attention she is getting from him. She is most likely getting back with him and just used you for free attention while they were broke up.
 

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Thanks guys.

Should have realized it was a red flag she brought up on her ex boyfriend on three separate occasions.

Also clearly missed a potential opportunity to sleep with her on the third date.

Sounds like best to delete the number. She will either get back with the ex or move on to other guys.
 

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Probably means nothing but last few days after a week of no contact following my “no worries enjoy your summer” knee jerk response she has started viewing my WhatsApp status updates. We have been in touch almost two months and cannot recall her doing so before.
 

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"Ok, well if things change for you feel free to reach out and if I am still single then maybe we can catch up."

Then forget about her.

You may have made some mistakes you may not have. However, the more interested she is the more mistakes can be made. I'd say she just wasn't that into you, and that's OK.

That doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Only you were there for all your interactions and texts so no matter how much of a picture into that you try and give we are working with like 5% of the details.

I once had a woman who invited me over for dinner on the 3rd date but no matter how hard I tried to escalate while we were chilling and watching a movie after on the couch, I wasn't getting anywhere.

A few days later I asked if she was up for doing something that week and she just said she likes me but not the way she has hoped for. I said something jokingly that if I knew it was the last time I was going to see her I would have tried harder...and she told me something I have always remembered:

"It wouldn't have mattered. I just wasn't interested. If I was interested in that I would have made it easy for you."

And thinking back...she was right. Interested women always made sex easy for me.

So understand the reason why things may not be progressing despite your best efforts is because she simply doesn't want them to.
 
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"Ok, well if things change for you feel free to reach out and if I am still single then maybe we can catch up."

Then forget about her.

You may have made some mistakes you may not have. However, the more interested she is the more mistakes can be made. I'd say she just wasn't that into you, and that's OK.

That doesn't necessarily mean you did anything wrong. Only you were there for all your interactions and texts so no matter how much of a picture into that you try and give we are working with like 5% of the details.

I once had a woman who invited me over for dinner on the 3rd date but no matter how hard I tried to escalate while we were chilling and watching a movie after on the couch, I wasn't getting anywhere.

A few days later I asked if she was up for doing something that week and she just said she likes me but not the way she has hoped for. I said something jokingly that if I knew it was the last time I was going to see her I would have tried harder...and she told me something I have always remembered:

"It wouldn't have mattered. I just wasn't interested. If I was interested in that I would have made it easy for you."

And thinking back...she was right. Interested women always made sex easy for me.

So understand the reason why things may not be progressing despite your best efforts is because she simply doesn't want them to.
Yup, Occams Razor..

the principle (attributed to William of Occam) that in explaining a thing no more assumptions should be made than are necessary. The principle is often invoked to defend reductionism or nominalism
 

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