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that’s what you are doing wrong.I'm 32, 5'5",
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that’s what you are doing wrong.I'm 32, 5'5",
If you can dance
@Howiestern's "If" is a big If for a lot of men. Dancing isn't an easy skill to pick up when you have an urgent sexual need. You're talking about a learning curve of 1-2 years or longer if you're not skilled at it.Dance. Go dancing as much as you can. If you already dance salsa/bachata/meringe then learn Texas 2 step in the country western bars.
Two step is simple footwork, same beat as salsa and women love a good dancer. Get good at dancing and you’ll be able to meet & get close to women. The rest will follow from there. I concur with being interested in others to appear as interesting to others.
OP already dances. Texas is open. So he should have no issues in Dallas.@Howiestern's "If" is a big If for a lot of men. Dancing isn't an easy skill to pick up when you have an urgent sexual need. You're talking about a learning curve of 1-2 years or longer if you're not skilled at it.
Also, this ignores the currently ongoing pandemic. I think dancing and other indoor venues have been deeply affected. If masking at the grocery store is still is a big thing affecting approaching, then dancing venues would have to be affected even more so than the grocery store. Dancing is a more interpersonal experience with airborne particles than passing by people in the grocery store.
@Pedrito0906 is lucky that he already dances and doesn't have to deal with the learning curve like a lot of men would have to.OP already dances. Texas is open. So he should have no issues in Dallas.
I find this to be an interesting observation. If this is happening lately (and I think this was also going on pre-pandemic), why even bother to go out to a bar or nightclub for the purposes of finding dates and/or one night stands? If people are solely going to interact with people they already know, then it is better to drink alcohol at home purchased at a grocery store or liquor store.There's not much mingling at the bars or clubs. Only friends and groups who already know each other tend to talk. However, you'll still get conversations more between guys than guys and girls interacting (strangers). I do see women being more open to talking to other women, too. From my observations, there's a lot of shyness and other stigmas going on that keeps a man and a woman who dont know each other from conversating. Whether the guy is fearful of opening a woman, or the woman is just being generally shy and fearful of talking to other guys. I can't pin if this comes from a narcissist place when it comes to women accepting men advances, but I've seen enough women turn down men that I guarantee it's deliberate.
There are bars conductive for approaching strangers. You just need to find them. What he described is social circle bars.why even bother to go out to a bar or nightclub for the purposes of finding dates and/or one night stands?
It's good that there are still bars conducive for approaching strangers. I can think of one example of a social circle bar in my area. It has long tables on its patio. The long tables are good for bigger groups of friends but bad for approaching new groups since everyone is sitting with their friend groups. I've avoided that bar.There are bars conductive for approaching strangers. You just need to find them. What he described is social circle bars.
I'm currently sitting at home right now because of that. Is it even worth my time going out right now. I do get approach at bars, but the encounter usually is very shallow. And the girls are always moving on. I don't think it's worth the time or money to pick up chicks much. At least right now. Girls are being very resilient to getting taken home.I find this to be an interesting observation. If this is happening lately (and I think this was also going on pre-pandemic), why even bother to go out to a bar or nightclub for the purposes of finding dates and/or one night stands? If people are solely going to interact with people they already know, then it is better to drink alcohol at home purchased at a grocery store or liquor store.
In what you describe, the only reason to go out to a bar is for your Tinder/Hinge/Bumble date. You and your friends can drink at someone's home.
I'm currently sitting at home right now because of that. Is it even worth my time going out right now. I do get approach at bars, but the encounter usually is very shallow. And the girls are always moving on. I don't think it's worth the time or money to pick up chicks much. At least right now. Girls are being very resilient to getting taken home.
@HaleyBaron -- Is this a problem of social circle bars?There are bars conductive for approaching strangers. You just need to find them. What he described is social circle bars.
This is not a problem of social circle bars. The odds of pulling from social circle bars are extremely low which is why I avoid them. However the resistance to one night stands and resistance on condom usage is a pattern I have noticed a lot more since 2020.Why do you think women are more resistance to both one night stands or even meeting new men for future dates?
Velasco did a good job on some points. Maybe the covid scare is a lot bigger than I expected. Women usually are a paradox when it comes to scares. They follow the rules, but will also break. So they will do stuff like take the vaccine or wear masks, but they will **** a guy who doesnt do either.@HaleyBaron -- Is this a problem of social circle bars?
Why do you think women are more resistance to both one night stands or even meeting new men for future dates?
Agreed
This. Outside of being attractive enough to catch a woman's interest, you have to make them feel a way that leaves them desiring to see you again/see more of you.Remember it is how you make women FEEL that makes them attracted to you. I remember an old black woman said to me...
“I've learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”
Fast Forward 8 months after this, the girl was super nervous, after getting the six pack and getting more confident, she's drooling all over for me. So yeah my first young hottie.Fast forward to almost the end of the night I managed to isolate her, grab her back and went for the kiss, shockingly she pulled back, I think she is a virgin and don't have a lot of experience with guys? was she nervous?