When I first came to this site there were about 2,000 or so members and that was only like a year ago. Back then a lot of guys who started with this place ranged in a healthy spectrum of DJ skill. The forums were used to post about successes, failures, lessons learned and questions from AFC to DJ alike. It worked out very well because of the balance of AFCs, DJs in training, and DJs. The usefullness of this site has obiviously attracted more memebers who are fustrated and wish to make a change. Well time marched on and a lot of the experienced memebers moved on to better things.
Now we flash forward to the present. This site has grown and more and more AFCs flood into the site looking to revolutionize their lives. Now Nicholas Hill and Master of the Universe had the foresight to save the best advice and put it in the DJ Bible. So even though the experienced DJs may leave, their advice is here for the new ones that will someday take their place. But the problem is a lot of newbies do two things. First they don't read the DJ Bible and post the same questions and eat up the forum. Second, after they finally get around to reading the DJ Bible, they become to strict in following what was meant to be loose guidelines.
So a lot of people get fustrated. Newbies, because they see a temporary change but eventually because they do not progress they quit. The older guys here I know get fustrated because they see the same questions like "She looked at my knee, does that mean she likes me?" Or the dreaded, "We broke up, but she says there might still be a chance some day, what do I do to win her back?" And so a seemingly unbreakable cycle of fustration beings. No one is making progress it seems and new and old begin to call it quits.
Essentially this site is about one thing: Evolution. A Suave Evolution if you will, one that we all take part in. The awesome thing about it is, is that we all learn from each other and share in the joys of our successes and back each other up when we are down. But the our evolutionary experience suffers from a flood of AFCs entering the site and not getting the DJ education that was intended for them.
The premise behind evolution is that no living thing evolves in the same way. There are variances and deviations, nature does not favor symmetry, but rather asymmetry. Beings that are competely alike will suffer the same setbacks and problems, and if one of those problems turns out to be a fatal flaw for one, all will fail due to their being completely alike.
The same is true of the DJ way. 20 AFCs that go out and pull the same moves and all fail for the same reasons is a diaster. Because no of them will no where they went wrong or how to answer their own failures. Its not because they lack the capability, its because they believe that DJ Bible is a set of hard and fast rules and games that if they commit to memory like a script, will win them the day.
Instead evolution favors diversity. The DJ evolution favors diversity as well, and if this site and its memebers are to move forward and break new ground, we all need to be able to go out on our own at times and evolve independently of this site and bring back their hard won knowledge to educate the up and coming.
So now that you have been primed to understand that DJing is about a personal evolution and not some script, we can begin. From here on out I intend to lay out what I think is important to effecting the development and evolution you want to begin. Though feel free to do what you want and ad-lib on the way. The reason I'm doing this is because I don't believe beginners should absolutely have to play hard and fast to the DJ Bible until they get it. Instead I suggest that they use what we provide here as loose guidelines meant to be changed, edited and spun off the cuff.
THE SIMPLIFED DJ PROGRESSION:
AFC: Average Fustrated Chump. Its just as it sounds, the AFC will attract chicks that will do two things. Use him. Dump him. He does not know what to do, and become angry and sad. His game further suffers and he lacks true confidence. In short if he is lucky he will someday learn his mistakes, and make his way here like we all did.
Don Juan: Once you choose to take control of your life and want not only to attract women, but to lead a life that pleases you. This is the day you become a Don Juan. You're still not an expert but within a few short weeks you see a change and you being to think like a DJ.
Ronin Don Juan: The RDJ for short. This is the Don Juan who sees that his time here has been well spent, but he has reached a point where if he wants to go further he must go out on his own. So he takes a vacation from this place, doesn't even lurk. He goes out on his own tests out his DJ skills and learns for himself what works and what does not. He seeks to find pratical knowledge created from his own experiences. He does not fear failure, because it is the failure that teaches him the most.
Master Don Juan. The MDJ. This is the Don Juan who has mastered his own life and has mastered women. He sees through a lot of things that he once believed to be true. He no longer has to work at actively attracting women. Because his lifestyle and attitude are irrestible to them. If they are gracious enough, they return to this site and pass on what they know to us.
THE ORDER AND VALUE OF DJ QUALITIES:
Happiness
Confidence
Conversation Skills
Immediate Action
Humor
Looks
Money
That list is right, Looks and Money are at the bottom. While qualities involving personality are higher up. Because be rich and good looking and being **** for personality is a losing combination. I am confident enough to place money on a DJ who has all the personal qualities down and just comes in barely average in the looks and money department and promise they can take any rich, good looking guy who has no personality.
The beauty of these qualities is that they can all be developed and honed with practice. Even better you can practice any time you want and you don't need to come here to do it or learn. Just have the mindset to improve yourself and you will seek to gain these qualities on your own without advice from here. Be pleased with success, and do not ignore failure, embrace it as a learning experience. Ask any DJ here and he will tell you that he remembers more lessons from failing than from success. Because when was the last time you said, "Gee how did I do that." Instead you were more concerned with milking the moment.
INTREST LEVEL
High Interest: She gives her home number when asked. She accepts your offer for a date. She accepts further dates and desires to see you. She will want to touch you, hug you, and certainly **** you. She will not resist your advances, your kisses.
Medium and Low Interest: She gives you a secondary number or cell phone number. She says maybe, makes you wait. Wants to change dates, and shows no physical interest. When you move into to kiss her she moves away. And don't even think about sex. In short its time to move on, next her and find another.
If you want success and a good woman for as long as possible deal with the ones that have a high interest level. Some talk of looking for subtle signs. Ha! Women believe men to be thick and so if she is interested her actions will be plain enough to see. If you want signs just look at the ones stated above. Thats good enough.
APPROACHING:
Be direct, be timely and accept the risks of approaching woman. In fact learn to love the risk, its quiet a rush being in the hunt.
Aviod cornball lines and staring at her like a blind man, its a turn off.
DATING:
Action dates are best. It takes her out of her element, in unfamiliar territory she will look for a provider and protector: YOU! Never ever let her change or alter a date. IF SHE BACKS OUT SHE IS OUT. Trust me action is what you both crave, so give yourself what you want, she's just there for the ride.
CHALLENGE:
Everything she learns about you must take time and she has to ask. Never give into her desires, or requests that would place her in control. As long as she is not in control you are a challenge, and that will drive her nuts.
MYSTERY:
Knowledge about you must also take time to accquire and to be hard won. Never let her now how you feel about her. Only after a lot of attention from her should you give back but a little.
THE FACTOR:
The factor is a little buzz word I like to use for the mental end of the DJ game. You must have stamina of mind and intuition. The stamina is for dealing with relationships, the test women will put on you, and keeping things slow so that it builds her desire up so much she actually chases after you. The intuition will be that inner voice telling you where oppurtunity lies and who's lying to you. Knowing when a relationship will fly or flail. Combine the two and you have THE FACTOR. The winning edge when all other qualities and personally learned lessons are coupled together.
HOW TO MEASURE SUCCESS:
Are you happy with your life? Do you seek to improve because you want to broaden your horizons? Do you no longer care about what others think? When you have answered these three questions you will be amongst the most successful DJs out there.
-Grey Fox
Now we flash forward to the present. This site has grown and more and more AFCs flood into the site looking to revolutionize their lives. Now Nicholas Hill and Master of the Universe had the foresight to save the best advice and put it in the DJ Bible. So even though the experienced DJs may leave, their advice is here for the new ones that will someday take their place. But the problem is a lot of newbies do two things. First they don't read the DJ Bible and post the same questions and eat up the forum. Second, after they finally get around to reading the DJ Bible, they become to strict in following what was meant to be loose guidelines.
So a lot of people get fustrated. Newbies, because they see a temporary change but eventually because they do not progress they quit. The older guys here I know get fustrated because they see the same questions like "She looked at my knee, does that mean she likes me?" Or the dreaded, "We broke up, but she says there might still be a chance some day, what do I do to win her back?" And so a seemingly unbreakable cycle of fustration beings. No one is making progress it seems and new and old begin to call it quits.
Essentially this site is about one thing: Evolution. A Suave Evolution if you will, one that we all take part in. The awesome thing about it is, is that we all learn from each other and share in the joys of our successes and back each other up when we are down. But the our evolutionary experience suffers from a flood of AFCs entering the site and not getting the DJ education that was intended for them.
The premise behind evolution is that no living thing evolves in the same way. There are variances and deviations, nature does not favor symmetry, but rather asymmetry. Beings that are competely alike will suffer the same setbacks and problems, and if one of those problems turns out to be a fatal flaw for one, all will fail due to their being completely alike.
The same is true of the DJ way. 20 AFCs that go out and pull the same moves and all fail for the same reasons is a diaster. Because no of them will no where they went wrong or how to answer their own failures. Its not because they lack the capability, its because they believe that DJ Bible is a set of hard and fast rules and games that if they commit to memory like a script, will win them the day.
Instead evolution favors diversity. The DJ evolution favors diversity as well, and if this site and its memebers are to move forward and break new ground, we all need to be able to go out on our own at times and evolve independently of this site and bring back their hard won knowledge to educate the up and coming.
So now that you have been primed to understand that DJing is about a personal evolution and not some script, we can begin. From here on out I intend to lay out what I think is important to effecting the development and evolution you want to begin. Though feel free to do what you want and ad-lib on the way. The reason I'm doing this is because I don't believe beginners should absolutely have to play hard and fast to the DJ Bible until they get it. Instead I suggest that they use what we provide here as loose guidelines meant to be changed, edited and spun off the cuff.
THE SIMPLIFED DJ PROGRESSION:
AFC: Average Fustrated Chump. Its just as it sounds, the AFC will attract chicks that will do two things. Use him. Dump him. He does not know what to do, and become angry and sad. His game further suffers and he lacks true confidence. In short if he is lucky he will someday learn his mistakes, and make his way here like we all did.
Don Juan: Once you choose to take control of your life and want not only to attract women, but to lead a life that pleases you. This is the day you become a Don Juan. You're still not an expert but within a few short weeks you see a change and you being to think like a DJ.
Ronin Don Juan: The RDJ for short. This is the Don Juan who sees that his time here has been well spent, but he has reached a point where if he wants to go further he must go out on his own. So he takes a vacation from this place, doesn't even lurk. He goes out on his own tests out his DJ skills and learns for himself what works and what does not. He seeks to find pratical knowledge created from his own experiences. He does not fear failure, because it is the failure that teaches him the most.
Master Don Juan. The MDJ. This is the Don Juan who has mastered his own life and has mastered women. He sees through a lot of things that he once believed to be true. He no longer has to work at actively attracting women. Because his lifestyle and attitude are irrestible to them. If they are gracious enough, they return to this site and pass on what they know to us.
THE ORDER AND VALUE OF DJ QUALITIES:
Happiness
Confidence
Conversation Skills
Immediate Action
Humor
Looks
Money
That list is right, Looks and Money are at the bottom. While qualities involving personality are higher up. Because be rich and good looking and being **** for personality is a losing combination. I am confident enough to place money on a DJ who has all the personal qualities down and just comes in barely average in the looks and money department and promise they can take any rich, good looking guy who has no personality.
The beauty of these qualities is that they can all be developed and honed with practice. Even better you can practice any time you want and you don't need to come here to do it or learn. Just have the mindset to improve yourself and you will seek to gain these qualities on your own without advice from here. Be pleased with success, and do not ignore failure, embrace it as a learning experience. Ask any DJ here and he will tell you that he remembers more lessons from failing than from success. Because when was the last time you said, "Gee how did I do that." Instead you were more concerned with milking the moment.
INTREST LEVEL
High Interest: She gives her home number when asked. She accepts your offer for a date. She accepts further dates and desires to see you. She will want to touch you, hug you, and certainly **** you. She will not resist your advances, your kisses.
Medium and Low Interest: She gives you a secondary number or cell phone number. She says maybe, makes you wait. Wants to change dates, and shows no physical interest. When you move into to kiss her she moves away. And don't even think about sex. In short its time to move on, next her and find another.
If you want success and a good woman for as long as possible deal with the ones that have a high interest level. Some talk of looking for subtle signs. Ha! Women believe men to be thick and so if she is interested her actions will be plain enough to see. If you want signs just look at the ones stated above. Thats good enough.
APPROACHING:
Be direct, be timely and accept the risks of approaching woman. In fact learn to love the risk, its quiet a rush being in the hunt.
Aviod cornball lines and staring at her like a blind man, its a turn off.
DATING:
Action dates are best. It takes her out of her element, in unfamiliar territory she will look for a provider and protector: YOU! Never ever let her change or alter a date. IF SHE BACKS OUT SHE IS OUT. Trust me action is what you both crave, so give yourself what you want, she's just there for the ride.
CHALLENGE:
Everything she learns about you must take time and she has to ask. Never give into her desires, or requests that would place her in control. As long as she is not in control you are a challenge, and that will drive her nuts.
MYSTERY:
Knowledge about you must also take time to accquire and to be hard won. Never let her now how you feel about her. Only after a lot of attention from her should you give back but a little.
THE FACTOR:
The factor is a little buzz word I like to use for the mental end of the DJ game. You must have stamina of mind and intuition. The stamina is for dealing with relationships, the test women will put on you, and keeping things slow so that it builds her desire up so much she actually chases after you. The intuition will be that inner voice telling you where oppurtunity lies and who's lying to you. Knowing when a relationship will fly or flail. Combine the two and you have THE FACTOR. The winning edge when all other qualities and personally learned lessons are coupled together.
HOW TO MEASURE SUCCESS:
Are you happy with your life? Do you seek to improve because you want to broaden your horizons? Do you no longer care about what others think? When you have answered these three questions you will be amongst the most successful DJs out there.
-Grey Fox