- Oct 4, 2023
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I think a lot of men acquire plenty of hard skills but then they do not focus on strengthening their soft skills, or their people skills.For those in their 30's going through a multi-year cycle of self-improvement, how do you have the energy to still do it? I'm completely burned out and pessimistic at this point.
I've switched career paths twice already. Maybe it was all destined from the 2008 crisis onward, but the last decade was scrambling to build up a stable career as the rules kept changing every 6 months.
Savings got depleted from unemployment, covid, or training, internships and scholarships I was in were cancelled after 2008, master's degree suddenly became the norm after I graduated, covid wrecked the opportunity I've been grinding three years to get just two months after I started, investments took unrecoverable hits, job hopping every 1-2 years became standard, gig economy emerged and universities overproduced workers for it, hiring practices and HR developed more layers to them, DEI excluded me from leadership positions and networking events, social/political sh*ttests began getting implemented at conferences, multiple times I've spent months on a project that a large company just released for free later, my profitable niche got opened up for global outsourcing to where I couldn't compete anymore, companies running understaffed and "many hats" became the norm, employees now skill build in their spare time instead of companies paying for their training, 600+ candidates per job now, seniors applying to junior positions because companies only want plug-and-play candidates, three failed self owned businesses, and the boomers living that easy life sneering away and criticising the drowning young generations in the constant background
The grind just keeps getting harder and harder, and I've had my steady progress reset or damaged so many times now that I'm just completely over playing the game anymore. Multiple times now, the rug got pulled out from under me or the rules of the game suddenly change against my favor.
Each time, I sat myself down and came up with a plan. Each time, I pulled myself out of the problem / upcoming problem and recovered / avoided it the best I could. Each time, I scraped together the energy, money, time, owed favors, and anything else I needed. I've moved across the city, the state, the country, and recently the world to try again if favorable. I usually land on my feet in the end, but I'm now realizing that this cycle is going to just keep repeating itself, isn't it?
A stable career with work that lasts more than 1-3 years and isn't a race to the bottom shouldn't be this hard to get. But here I am. I can't seem to get this one big goal completed.
I'm not sure what to do. Do I continue grinding harder in what I know hoping to find exploits and lucky breaks, or do I write off the last decade as total loss and restart from 0 in my 30's?
EDIT: I'm in STEM, currently in tech.
The people with the best likability and personality skills with how to interact with others are the ones who crush it in the end.