First time making a move - is this a good plan?

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I’m a teen guy on a bit of a holiday for a couple weeks with some others my age.

For the past few nights, we’ve been going on walks and stuff at night and Ive been ending up talking with this one girl for hours. A couple of times we’ve also gone to hang out at night without anyone else.

I’ve complimented her a bit, but not a crazy amount of flirting. We laugh a lot, she thinks I’m funny. She is also quite reserved which makes flirting a bit hard. I think she knows I like her though.

I feel like if I don’t do some sort of escalation soon, any interest she may have will dissipate. My current plan is to take her on a walk tomorrow, just us two, and see if I can hold her hand on the way back by trying to make it funny. I’ll say something like “can you hold something for me” and then pretend to drop something in my closed fist into her hand, then end up holding her hand. I don’t know if this is a bad idea or not, I’ve never really done anything with a girl but I feel like this is the closest I’ve been, I don’t want mess it up.
 

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good plan... I did this once in my 6th grade of elementary school
 

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I feel like if I don’t do some sort of escalation soon, any interest she may have will dissipate. My current plan is to take her on a walk tomorrow, just us two, and see if I can hold her hand on the way back by trying to make it funny.
Stop being a clown and an entertainer for women and grow a set of @@blz and go for the kiss.

You are acting like a virgin which is a complete turn-off for women.

I’ll say something like “can you hold something for me” and then pretend to drop something in my closed fist into her hand, then end up holding her hand. I don’t know if this is a bad idea or not, I’ve never really done anything with a girl but I feel like this is the closest I’ve been, I don’t want mess it up.
You say nothing. You lead. You do it, you grab her hand. You do what ever you want to do as long as the IOI are there. And the attraction has been developed.

Stop asking for permission to do things on this forum. Do them and see the results.
 

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Stop being a clown and an entertainer for women and grow a set of @@blz and go for the kiss.

You are acting like a virgin which is a complete turn-off for women.



You say nothing. You lead. You do it, you grab her hand. You do what ever you want to do as long as the IOI are there. And the attraction has been developed.

Stop asking for permission to do things on this forum. Do them and see the results.
It’s just hard to tell because she’s so reserved in nature and I don’t want to scare her off
 

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I really can't believe you picked this piece out to reply to, as if I A. cared or B. you couldn't tell it was a joke...

Your options are:

A. Do this stupid handholding crap and fall into the friend zone where you're both too awkward to make the first move and worried about endangering your friendship on some Zoey 101 type bulls***.

or B. Find your balls, kiss the girl, and either find out you're both attracted to each other and start dating - or find out you're not, and stop wasting your time on her when you could meet other girls.
 

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It’s just hard to tell because she’s so reserved in nature and I don’t want to scare her off
Women are not scared by men who have balls and take action, they are turned on by them, as long as they are interested.

If she isn't interested then it really doesn't matter if you scare her away because nothing was going to happen anyway.
 
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