Master Don Juan
- Sep 22, 2008
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- The 7th Dimension
Women speak and communicate covertly. It’s best to deal with women on that level. They understand subtle messages.Hey Atom,
Respect for that post.
On similar lines, I'm very direct in my communications. If they choose to follow, great if not, then so be it.
Recently, I was visiting my best friend and his female cousins said I was too blunt. I didn't see it as that since they were engaging with me and giggling. I was probably AMOG (lol, I hate that term but can't think of anything else) carrying conversations with everyone.
What's your take on being direct/blunt? Is it something you master along the way without offending people or something you own up to?
I would say it’s advantageous to be direct, but disadvantageous to be blunt. Bluntness sometimes causes collateral damage, while directness is more of a precision tool.
Women respond appropriately to directness but sometimes completely shut down when faced with bluntness. Bluntness usually carries a clumsy, mis-calibrated stigma.
It’s all nuance like most skills in life. I think it’s a good idea to practice direct communication but mix it up with hints and playfulness. If you find yourself about to be overly blunt, change it up to a hint or a round-about way to express it, then follow it up with body language. Women understand covert communication.