Facts: Married 3 years, divorced last fall, no kids, wife was a ***** last time we had to meet a few months back.
We adopted a dog in our first year of marriage and it is registered in our names.
Wife's parents have the dog now...they've had it since the divorce. She told me she was going to keep the dog herself, but for whatever reason she never brought it back to her new apartment. It pissed me off...but I was dealing with the fallout of divorce and my dog wasn't the number one priority.
The last time we spoke, I expressed interest in seeing the dog again and she seemed to be OK with the idea.
So, the issue here is that I need to break contact to do it. Roughly 60+ days of No Contact. I'm noticing more indifference now when I begin to think about her. I'm beginning to detach and I'm moving on.
So...does anyone have any recommendations of the best to approach this? I still have her email, and her phone number is somewhere in my home but not in my phone at the moment, so I guess I can text her.
I just want a good couple of hours with my dog again...
I agree with the others, it's just a dog and is replaceable. I think you're still really attached to this woman (don't kid yourself, 60 days isn't enough to create indifference). I think you may be using the dog as an excuse to talk to her.
Regardless, just email the woman and ask her if you can see that dog. The fact that it is at her parents' place is perfect, bc you don't have to see the wench and have her reopen your wounds.
Mind you, if she says no or otherwise acts like a b*tch there's nothing you can do. Also understand that as soon as you get into contact with her (even over email) you will start to hurt all over again and you'll have to restart the healing process from scratch.
Thanks. Even though I'm becoming indifferent...you are suggesting a longer non contact duration?
I always have the option of not seeing her and just visiting her parents house to see the dog...but I don't know what nonsense she's told her folks about me since divorce. Her dad knew she was sort of a fvcked up person, her mom is obviously protective but I don't know how they stand with me.
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If it was my dog, I would have stolen it from her parents long ago. If you haven't done that by now, then the dog is probably not that important to you.
Same thing has happened to me, yes he was my best buddy running partner etc but for me to see the dog she wants me to continue paying vets fee and dog food , well F'that not a chance is that happening.
My hard part and yes I feel totally detatched from her, is that she continues to text me and if I don't reply she says well next time you arrange to see our son I won't reply to you
I can't get my own dog due to the hours I work but another option is to volunteer to walk someone elses dog
Both times the guy battled and got "his dog" back. In both cases within 3-6 months the dog was cramping the newly single guy's lifestyle and getting totally neglected.
Try and do what is best for the dog.
I know when I was single there was absolutely no time for a dog.
