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DonJuanjr

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I ended up contacting the pof chick 5 days after. In the beginning of our conversations before I met her in person, she would be receptive to platonic talk for just a short while, then stop responding. I would sexualize the talk, and that would get her engaged in communicating with me. When I hit her up after our first meeting, I started with platonic talk. Like the previous times, she stopped responding after just a short while of it. I sexualized the conversation, and suggested to hang out on her next day off, but now she isn't responsive to it. She read the message, but didn't respond.

I didn't communicate with her for 3 more days. I hit her back up, on her day off, and tried again. Started with platonic small talk. She was receptive at first, and then like the previous times, quit responding. I then tried to sexualize the conversation again, and she didn't bite again. Left me hanging.

I didn't contact her again until Friday. Which was 9 days after last time. I started with platonic small talk. This time, I didn't sexualize the conversation. I realized her ASD is higher after we had sex. I suggested that we hang out and watch a movie one of these days. She left me hanging again. I figured she changed her mind about fwb and decided for a ons, and was just trying to keep me as an orbiter. So I decided to pull back. I texted her:
"I take it you are not interested in hanging out. Hit me up if you change your mind".

She responded right away. Said sorry she was working. That she loved the movie that I suggested, and told me which days would work for her. I ended up going back to her place last night. I took a viagra with me, but was not intending on taking it. She said that her roommate was going to be there. The last time I had a spectator, I had a hard time. So I decided to take the viagra.

The situation ended up being like the first time. I was there for 10.5 hours. We had sex 8-9 times during this time. At one point she suggested that "when I'm done with you, maybe I'll send you over to my roommate". I didn't respond to it, trying to play it cool. I brought it up again later, and at this point she changed her mind on that giving excuses saying the girl couldn't handle it. This could be a work in progress.
 

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I ended up contacting the pof chick 5 days after. In the beginning of our conversations before I met her in person, she would be receptive to platonic talk for just a short while, then stop responding. I would sexualize the talk, and that would get her engaged in communicating with me. When I hit her up after our first meeting, I started with platonic talk. Like the previous times, she stopped responding after just a short while of it. I sexualized the conversation, and suggested to hang out on her next day off, but now she isn't responsive to it. She read the message, but didn't respond.

I didn't communicate with her for 3 more days. I hit her back up, on her day off, and tried again. Started with platonic small talk. She was receptive at first, and then like the previous times, quit responding. I then tried to sexualize the conversation again, and she didn't bite again. Left me hanging.

I didn't contact her again until Friday. Which was 9 days after last time. I started with platonic small talk. This time, I didn't sexualize the conversation. I realized her ASD is higher after we had sex. I suggested that we hang out and watch a movie one of these days. She left me hanging again. I figured she changed her mind about fwb and decided for a ons, and was just trying to keep me as an orbiter. So I decided to pull back. I texted her:
"I take it you are not interested in hanging out. Hit me up if you change your mind".

She responded right away. Said sorry she was working. That she loved the movie that I suggested, and told me which days would work for her. I ended up going back to her place last night. I took a viagra with me, but was not intending on taking it. She said that her roommate was going to be there. The last time I had a spectator, I had a hard time. So I decided to take the viagra.

The situation ended up being like the first time. I was there for 10.5 hours. We had sex 8-9 times during this time. At one point she suggested that "when I'm done with you, maybe I'll send you over to my roommate". I didn't respond to it, trying to play it cool. I brought it up again later, and at this point she changed her mind on that giving excuses saying the girl couldn't handle it. This could be a work in progress.
Glad you’re having successes. What I’m seeing here tho is a sub communication of seeking her approval or permission. Why do you keep starting with platonic talk? She’s obviously turned off by it. If she likes what you are doing, she will respond. That’s my rule of thumb.

Same with the friend thing. You tried to play it cool but then came after it delayed which seems odd. I would have just been like “oh? You wouldn’t be jealous?” And feel her response out. Instead, you treated it like she had the power. A good way to take control of that dynamic would be to say “I’d have to see a picture first”

this says a few things:

1. you’re not desperate
2. You have standards
3. It’s your decision, not hers
 

DonJuanjr

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What I’m seeing here tho is a sub communication of seeking her approval or permission. Why do you keep starting with platonic talk?
Being that this is my first fwb, I am still navigating the appropriate(contextually) ways of communicating with her.

A good way to take control of that dynamic would be to say “I’d have to see a picture first”
We had hung out with her roommate in the living room for a couple hours before hand. She is cute, I was attracted to her. I think pof chick seen this which is why she said something in the first place.
 

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Being that this is my first fwb, I am still navigating the appropriate(contextually) ways of communicating with her.


We had hung out with her roommate in the living room for a couple hours before hand. She is cute, I was attracted to her. I think pof chick seen this which is why she said something in the first place.
Ah kk, in that case you could be like “did she ask about me or something?”
Anyhow, glad you making progress and getting laid. 8-10 hours is no small feat. Just make sure you give your rod time to recover. They aren’t invincible.
 
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