Do some women prefer AFCs?

[Halo]

Tonight I had my third date with this woman, we made out on our second date and also on this one. But during the makeout session, she surprises me with a question along the lines of "so why are you interested in seeing me?" and I said because I enjoy her company, but she pries a bit more and I said because when I see something I want, I go after it and make no apologies for it. She cut me off sort of, and interjected "but on your terms". She implied that "my terms" meant calling her every two weeks and blowing her off when it is convenient to me (I did sort of blow her off twice before). Anyway that sent up red flags and I abruptly ended the makeout session (that most likely would have ended in sex) by asking if she had to be at work early tomorrow. I did walk her to her car and kissed some more, but as I was leaving she said "call me later" and I replied "yeah, but on my terms"...lol.

I've never really been in a position where a chick is wanting so much from me so early, and needless to say my burgeoning DJ wants none of it right now.

Do you guys think some women actually want an AFC that falls all over them? I'm not gonna be that guy!

 

[Starman]

how the hell does that make u an AFC??


Why are you interested in seeing me? - low self esteem..can you boost my ego by telling me what you like about me??

seeing on your own terms = how come you have time for pokemon conventions, shaving your balls with a hatchet..but never call me?

you got it covered..YES some women dig AFC's..but u werent acting AFC one bit

Good times!

 

[squirrels]

It sounds like you're playing it right.

You don't have to give her anything you don't want to.

In fact, you can give her all the time and attention you want, but do it because you WANT to, not because you feel like you need to give her something in return for her affection.

I'd say just keep doing what you're doing. Often it seems like women are looking for AFC behaviors, but as soon as you start giving them to her, she's going to drop you like a bad habit. Could even be a conscious test.

Do what you know is right..."It's gonna work because you're pushing it right."

 

[Halo]

how the hell does that make u an AFC??

No that's the point, I -wasn't- an AFC and she tried to bust my balls because of it. She kept talking about "not being into games" and all the other inane crap they say, but she seemed genuinely offended that I put my external priorities first. What the hell does she expect, a marriage proposal after three dates?

I've washed my hands of it. Tonight marks the first time I have ever voluntarily ended what might have easily ended in sex, and I feel powerful because of it.

 

[squirrels]

Originally posted by Halo
No that's the point, I -wasn't- an AFC and she tried to bust my balls because of it. She kept talking about "not being into games" and all the other inane crap they say, but she seemed genuinely offended that I put my external priorities first. What the hell does she expect, a marriage proposal after three dates?

I've washed my hands of it. Tonight marks the first time I have ever voluntarily ended what might have easily ended in sex, and I feel powerful because of it.

Damned shame, because it sounds like you had her. But if you want to dump her, then dump her. Do what you WANT.

 

[Starman]

my A$$ you have washed your hands of it..

if you had..this thread would never exist..

she is just trying to gauge your interest and to see if you are a "playa"..if you are she would be all over you..if you arent..she is bye bye

 

[Player_Supreme]

H*ell man your doin all the right stuff...the broad is extremely attracted to you...she is begging for attention and to find out what you like about her....she did throw a test in there...you handled that well...you ended the date...she learns to shut the F*uck up next time...you had a funny come back...

Dayum you good man!

 

[Knicknack]

very good man. stick to your guns. i wish i had your sense in my last relationship. i've learned so much since then. good post. keep up the good work.

 

[SamePendo]

I made a whole post on this, but im to f*cking lazy to look for it,, in conclusion:
Being a DJ brings you QUALITY . You are filtering girls who are not good for you. You will end up with a worthwile woman. Not worthwile women will end up where? With a german shepard as a sex toy? Dont think so! (well, mostly).
Some women actually like AFCs, but thats because they are not quality women. Why bother even thinking about them?

 

[( . )( . )]

its just "filler" rubbish talk women reel off, it only means something to AFCs, by your reaction she will tell what you are.
C&F it off, think nothing of it, on a scale of 1 to 5 , 5 being hard tests these ones are amature , 2 at best.
all chicks will try this sh!t on in one form or another.

 

[Quick]

If she preferred you some other way, she wouldn't be so into you the way you are. Why are you worried that her mouth was saying one thing, while her body was saying that you could do whatever you wanted. Yes, woman want an AFC, but only theoretically. In reality, they aren't attracted to the AFC, don't want to have sex with him, and don't want a relationship with him.

If you want a woman to tell you that you are the perfect man while refusing to so much as touch you, be an AFC. If you want a woman to beg you for sex and time, while telling you that you should be more compromising, keep doing what you're doing. Which is preferable?

 

[1utfan1]

Originally posted by Starman
how the hell does that make u an AFC??


Why are you interested in seeing me? - low self esteem..can you boost my ego by telling me what you like about me??

seeing on your own terms = how come you have time for pokemon conventions, shaving your balls with a hatchet..but never call me?

you got it covered..YES some women dig AFC's..but u werent acting AFC one bit

Good times!

You should be roasting celeb's on Comedy Central! Good Stuff! HAHAHA

 

[Bonhomme]

Did you REALLY NOT want to be with her ...

all the times you've "blown her off"?

That's the relevant question.

If you blew her off when you actually wanted to be with her, then you're not sticking to your guns, just playing games.

I can't answer that one for you.

 

[Santos]

You weren't AFC at all. IF you mean she wants you to act AFC because she wants you to do things on HER terms, then forget it. Never listen to what women tell about what they want. They want to worry about where they stand, otherwise they get bored and dump/cheat on you. They just don't realise it. Two types of women like AFCs:

1. Average Frustrated Chicks (female AFC): Will take any guy that makes her feel good about herself.

2. Attention Wh___s: Will take any guy that makes her feel good about herself, and who she can use.

 

[XANEUS]

Hmmm... santos covered it pretty well... also, some ugly girls prefer AFCs because they're less likely to cheat... but then we aren't after ugly girls now are we? ;-)

 

[myfriendblu]

Originally posted by Player_Supreme
H*ell man your doin all the right stuff...the broad is extremely attracted to you...she is begging for attention and to find out what you like about her....she did throw a test in there...you handled that well...you ended the date...she learns to shut the F*uck up next time...you had a funny come back...

Dayum you good man!

I agree. You didn't do anything wrong. In fact, I think you have came across what I like to call an "AFC acttracting chick, or an AFCAC. Basically a female, usually very attractive, that has to have all the power in the relationship. Because of your DJ behavior, you have thrown her off her game. thats why being a DJ is so important becuase it automatically cancels out these type of females.

Good job

 

[Halo]

As an update, she sent me an email that same night, but I did not see it until the following day. In the email she basically showers me with compliments, telling me how attractive I am (3 times), that I am intelligent, easy to converse with, etc, etc. She also said "I was just giving you a hard time" regarding her interrogation during the middle of a makeout session.

A few problems remain. She closed the email by telling me to give her a call "this week, not next week or the week after. this week". She is probably only half-serious, but obviously I am not inclined to call when she wants me to. Plus I know I do not want to get into a relationship with her, and she is implying that she does (specifically, she said she hopes it is "explorable"). I am in the dilemma of wanting sex, but knowing that is basically all I want from her.

Any ideas on how to express that I am not interested in getting too serious, without appearing as a total bastard? I sort of want to convey that I am only interested in something stringless, so if we do end up screwing around it will occur with her knowing that is all I wanted.

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

Originally posted by Halo
I've never really been in a position where a chick is wanting so much from me so early, and needless to say my burgeoning DJ wants none of it right now.

Welcome to the perils of being a DJ. With great power comes great responsibility.

Thank you Uncle Ben