Master Don Juan
- Jan 5, 2008
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Okay.Expand on that
I don't know if Rollo invented the term, but I think he made it common. It fits nicely into the whole alpha/beta dichotomy people like to box things into.
If you're dating a woman who isn't over her ex, that's just the situation she's in, plain and simple. All you can do is what's best for you: Leave, wait it out, etc. (Leaving is usually best.)
Chances are you don't know her ex and won't meet him. But if she pines for him he must have been special, right. So we like to think only an "alpha" could have that kind of a hold on a woman after a breakup. I've seen this and it's not true. Women can have oneitis for mediocre men, too.
And the fact is that most people get over these things, no matter how special we think we are. People move on and change and everyone's replaceable. If it's been years and she's still pining, that says more about her mental instability than who some AMOG is.
But it's easy to explain it away that she was dating John freaking Wayne. And I think a lot of men here might fancy themselves as John Wayne, too. It's cool to think we might have been the only ones who could scratch her itch. But she can always meet someone else, and what's more, she will.
The idea that a woman will go her whole life never getting over some dude is just the redpill inverse image of the Disney fantasy that they'll meet again in old age, or the Titanic chick whose first love was Leo.
It's an easy way to explain away either 1) how fukked up she is regardless (permanently or in that moment) or 2) how bad your frame is. Rather than deal with that reality people invent fairy tale characters...AMOG, Alpha Widower, Chad, and the whatever-cel.
If the shoe were on the other foot, no girl would think "wow, his ex must have really been beautiful, feminine and kind. It makes sense that she ruined all other women for him." She'd think, "God, this guy is a pathetic head case and I can do better."
The bottom line is, as @Mauser96 said, it's not worth a moment's thought. If you're with a girl like this, you should be thinking about how you'll deal with it...most likely with a next. Anything else, such as pondering whether her ex was Rico Suave, is just mental masturbation. It doesn't matter, and it's not your problem.