Did your wife/ex-wife change after kids?

princelydeeds

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My wife is a much better mother than I ever thought she would be. She takes care of the children and asks little of me.

She never really tells me no with regard to sex. She goes to bed at the same time my very young children go to bed and there are two young wild sleeping babies in the bed with her. So while she doesn't say, "no" she says a passive "no".

If I ask her she won't say no she will do what I ask, often without enthusiasm but she will do it. I end up chasing her 98% of the time. At this point she's married to my kids way more than she's married to me
 

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I'm guess I'm never going to find out. Got the vasectomy locked down already, so I'll never have to worry about a future where I end up posting on Reddit's Dead Bedrooms because of kids or because that's the excuse my wife would use.
 

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Yes they will punish you mercilessly for the crime of boring them. Its the only unforgivable sin in this Game.

By the way this is a narcissistic trait(devaluation), so the more narcissistic a woman is the more vicious she will be in this regard. The more you understand narcissism the better you understand ego-maniacal women in my opinion.
This is a great point. But...it's human nature, narcissism or not. Men get bored too - have you heard of the Coolidge Effect? Men crave variety, which is a big reason why boredom slips into marriage. @guru1000 pointed it out on this thread or another, but I'm sure you've dated a woman and looked another, perhaps slightly less attractive but different, and thought, "that'd be fun."
 

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This is a great point. But...it's human nature, narcissism or not. Men get bored too - have you heard of the Coolidge Effect? Men crave variety, which is a big reason why boredom slips into marriage. @guru1000 pointed it out on this thread or another, but I'm sure you've dated a woman and looked another, perhaps slightly less attractive but different, and thought, "that'd be fun."
it's human nature to get bored but it's not human nature to actually hate and blame someone else for your own boredom. That's how you can distinguish relatively healthy people from The crazies. Someone that does that is not operating on the same level as the rest of us.
 
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