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Did i just ruin my LTR by getting drunk?

Weak_Game

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I had my 24th last weekend. A day i wish i was never born. Never had a decent birthday since my mom beat the living "shi*t" out of me on my 15th.

The day started off crappy getting up so late and hitting the gym. Where after i went to the liquor store and picked up a bottle of AfterShock i planned on finishing myself. Then i stopped at the porn shop to buy a bottle of AstroGlide. My gf bought some sexy Lingerie(sp) and was planning on giving me her ass after we went out.

I locked my keys in the car, it cost me $75 to have a tow company come and fish them out for me. On top of me not having a job ( i lost mine a month ago and have been living off bank wich is going down at a rapid pace ). So the tow comany was beyond late due to an accident on the highway. I ended up sitting at the porn shop getting life advice from the guy working the cash register.

I missed my own family get together, where they ended up eating my cake and everyone leaving before i got there (lame). So me and the girl decided to shot gun her friend who was having a party the same day. My day was awful and it was another crappy birthday so i decided to say "fuk it" and get completely drunk. I hardly ever drink and have never gotten drunk around her. I ll have a few.

I remeber arguing with her, saying alot of **** i shouldnt have. I was so drunk i almost told her i loved her (it was purly alcohol talking) and i was ranting and raving. I remeber crying in her arms. I remeber her shaking, i dont know if she was afraid of me or her claims of (too much alcohol) but i puked my guts out and slept like crap only to wake up in the morning having a weird feeling. Like she lost alot of respect for me, im no longer the man, i cried i almost dropped the L word and her Interest level has seemed to plummet.

We were doing great before hand. God drinking was the worst idea ever. I dont remeber much but i can just tell since then everything went to shi*t. Is it possible to redeem the interest level. I wish we both could just forget about that entire night. But knowing how girls work it will come up at the worst time.
 

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Here are my opinons based on my own life experience. Take them for what they are worth.
First of all, don't ever use alcohol as a way of dealing with your problems again. Not only that, but don't drink when you are in an emotional state because that always leads to regret.
Second, don't beat yourself up too much. You are going through a tough time in your life. We've all been there. We all are prone to making bad decisions in those times. It's part of being human. Remember, this time will pass.
Finally, I'm sure you probably did lower her interest level. You showed an unstable and needy side of yourself. The best thing you can do now is put your efforts into improving yourself (find a good job, go to school, whatever it is you need to do). You've got to get yourself together, women are secondary. This might be a case where you should talk to her about it too though. Ask her how she feels about what happened. I know...somebody is going to call me an AFC. I don't care. You can't act like this didn't happen...and the last thing in the world you need to be doing is acting like you've got "game". Let her know why you acted the way you did and that you are determined as hell to fix your situation. Then put her on the back burner and go work on your life. She just might respect you for putting yourself first. That's secondary though, you need to worry about yourself not her.
 

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Weak Game thanks for the touching account of your birthday and your relationship skills workshop with your GF. Your story suggests to me that your subconcious did not want you to have sex with your GF. That's why you locked the keys in your car. Part of a self sabotage routine.

There are no mistakes. You didn't mistakenly leave the keys in the car. I think that the idea of dealing with the sexy lingerie and the need to deftly apply the Astroglide caused some degree of anxiety. Perhaps a feeling of inadequacy for being unemployed.

Sorry if this sounds harsh Weak, but your sincere heartfelt plea requires that I be frank with you.
 

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There's a concept that's been around that I'd like to share with you.

It's been said that, if a couple gets along when/while/after drinking, then they get along. If they fight or don't get along while drinking, then they don't belong together.

I used to be skeptical. However, it really seems to hold up, in my experience.
 

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Although many here would advise against it, I say you apologize to her for being an out-of-control drunken bastard. Tell her you had a rotten day, and let it get to you. If she understands, then you've got nothing to worry about.

I had my 24th last weekend. A day i wish i was never born. Never had a decent birthday since my mom beat the living "shi*t" out of me on my 15th.
There's nothing set in stone that says you need to celebrate your birthday. Keep your birthdays simple and they'll go a lot smoother.
 

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Vulpine said:
There's a concept that's been around that I'd like to share with you.

It's been said that, if a couple gets along when/while/after drinking, then they get along. If they fight or don't get along while drinking, then they don't belong together.

I used to be skeptical. However, it really seems to hold up, in my experience.
Interesting...and it makes sense.
 

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Although many here would advise against it, I say you apologize to her for being an out-of-control drunken bastard. Tell her you had a rotten day, and let it get to you. If she understands, then you've got nothing to worry about.
I actually agree with you. And he has to truly mean it. Apologizing when we do wrong is a character builder. We just have to make sure that we don't do a LOT of wrongs (and constantly apologizing), because then, the apology loses its value.
 

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First of all, forest for the trees ... people are focused on the wrong issue here, and that's the girl.

* Note: Are you in college or trade school, or have you finished? If not, why?

* You're already focusing on liquor at 24, meanwhile the rest of the world is passing you by. If I'm a manager -- and I am in management -- and your competition is guys who are educated and classy, I know who I'm hiring.

* You're obsessed if your gal is going to give it to you or not. Once again, at 24 you shouldn't even be in a long term relationship. Your 20's is the best time in your life to explore other options besides being obsessed with ONE gal.

* You're worried about celebrating birthdays at age 24? I feel bad that your mom abused you and you need to get counseling for that, perhaps you have. The issue isn't the birthday, it's your beyotch/abusive mom. You need to deal with that.

* The drinking and depression over lost birthdays go hand-in-hand. The issues are much deeper than a stupid woman and a LTR. This goes to heart of your soul.

* You need to formulate a career/life plan ... and at this moment it shouldn't revolve around women, alcohol, or your mom and family.
 

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Desdinova said:
Although many here would advise against it, I say you apologize to her for being an out-of-control drunken bastard. Tell her you had a rotten day, and let it get to you. If she understands, then you've got nothing to worry about.
I also agree. Apologize for getting "out of control." It was your birthday, however, so it should be easily forgiven by her... don't let her take control from you by holding it over your head.

Weak_Game said:
Where after i went to the liquor store and picked up a bottle of AfterShock i planned on finishing myself.
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT get drunk on liqueurs. Talk about wicked hangovers, and the sugar content? Bleeeggh!
 
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