Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
The book you mention has some merit, but it was written by an extraordinarily effeminate man. I found myself having to take some of what he said with a grain of salt.This pretty much sums it up...
She just wants you to listen. Women talk to organize their thoughts, whereas men talk to find solutions. Well, your woman is not a man, so your solutions are only going to piss her off...
I would suggest reading "men are from Mars, women are from venus". The horrible advice in this thread is indicative of a clear misunderstanding of the fundamental differences between men and women.
The modern philosophy is that we men are “supposed to” suppress common sense and rationality by constantly biting our tongues while she prattles on about her issues. I reject that.
I’m fortunate in that my woman doesn’t do that at all. And lo and behold, when she talks, I listen!
“Normal and balanced” is not what women are today. They are by and large not sane. They are unable to think clearly and are positively addicted to emotion. This is why they need male guidance.
There’s nothing wrong with just listening when you see that she is figuring out a solution on her own. What I won’t allow is for a woman to use me a a barf bag, just spilling her guts with an implied threat that I will be in her doghouse if I offer some help.
That is abuse at the man’s expense. This is abnormal and an indication of corrupt thinking.
Does anyone think women were this way 60 or 70 years ago? Or in the old West when every day was a challenge to survive? No, they didn’t dump on their men with all this emotion. They were too busy living and surviving and raising a family.
The problem is too much television and other media, and too much free time to sit on their asses soaking all that poison in.
I repeat that women need male guidance in order to function normally. The fact is, though, that there are very few male guides left.
Most men are sitting around trying to figure out how to avoid offending women. Our grandfathers’ generation on back through history could never have even dreamed that things would become like this.
There’s nothing wrong with listening to a woman talk about what’s bothering her unless she gets stuck on it and expects you to just listen quietly over and over. That’s when the foot comes down. Dump on your friends, not on me.