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"Coming on too strong" test

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I recently had a girl tell me "Why I come on so strong " when I approached her, what does this test mean exactly ? I approached her with extreme confidence. I really did not know how to respond and fumbled it a bit.
 

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Maybe your approach was very direct and she wasn't used to it or prefers a different style.
 

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If you have extreme confidence, you would have came up with a response outta yo ass. Assuming she’s in college, you just need to have fun and run with YOU!
 

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Need more details.

One term that isn't talked about enough is "calibration". People respond differently to certain stimuli, etc. which is why its always important to read some one correctly or you risk making them uncomfortable by coming on too strong.
 

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I recently had a girl tell me "Why I come on so strong " when I approached her, what does this test mean exactly ? I approached her with extreme confidence. I really did not know how to respond and fumbled it a bit.
What did you say to her?
 

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Need more details.

One term that isn't talked about enough is "calibration". People respond differently to certain stimuli, etc. which is why its always important to read some one correctly or you risk making them uncomfortable by coming on too strong.
What did you say to her?
I just told her the usual, how are you , so on and so forth small talk, but I had a very confident attitude. She was walking and I told her to stop. She did and then we talked. She was lapping it up the whole time, I did get her contact too, the "too strong comment" is the only part I fumbled just a bit, had never heard that one before.
 

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Who cares. Don't listen to what women tell you, only observe their actions.
 

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I second @Howiestern comment. When approaching or "gaming" women you cannot have a one-fits-all approach. It takes finesse and like Howie said calibration.

I've said this a few times here before, not just in "gaming" but in any human interaction, the ability to be socially aware and read people's body language is key in a meaningful interaction.

To your point, confidence and assertiveness is key but take can be expressed slightly differently with different people. Once you master that ability, you will become a more personable conversationalist.


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I recently had a girl tell me "Why I come on so strong " when I approached her, what does this test mean exactly ? I approached her with extreme confidence. I really did not know how to respond and fumbled it a bit.
She's not cooperating, which means that she's not interested. If a girl likes you, she won't start whining and complaining and trying to tell you what to do as soon as you introduce yourself.
 

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I recently had a girl tell me "Why I come on so strong " when I approached her, what does this test mean exactly ? I approached her with extreme confidence. I really did not know how to respond and fumbled it a bit.
It means you made her feel uncomfortable and she potentially sees you as desperate
 

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She's not cooperating, which means that she's not interested. If a girl likes you, she won't start whining and complaining and trying to tell you what to do as soon as you introduce yourself.
No she was VERY into my approach. This is just one comment that she had that I got confused with- she liked the initial approach very much.
 
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