Cold Approach Bible

[Distant Light]

Well one of my missions is to really help out this site and give back what i've learned the past 3 months now.

My first tips post will be about Cold approaching which i seem to do best at.

The Cold Approach
Everyone would love to be reall good at cold approaches. Why? because it opens there variety of women by thousands. I know everyone here would love to be able to pick up a girl at the train station then close her just so you can catch that hb9 that came off the train. To me Cold Approaching is the best skill to learn in seduction

Problems People have doing Cold Approaches
A few problems I see and hear people doing are the following:
1. The are Direct
2. They rush through everything
3. Come off needy
4. Ask if they have a BF

Cold Approaching
First thing first stop directly approaching women. I hear to much "hi", "Are you single", "Your kinda cute" etc. Only time i'd actually try to be direct is if I see the girl giving me AIs. (approach invitations ex. alot of eye contact) That is probably the only time i'd say hi. (Thats as direct as i will get)

When i'm going to approach i never directly have my body pointed towards her for the first minute or so. Having your body planted right infront of her can intimidate her or show that your interested. So what you want to do when you approach have your head facing her and your body still pointed foward. To get a brief description of what i mean is. Have your whole body facing a mirror and then just turn your head towards your left shoulder thats how you should first approach a women. (kinda hard to explain) While she is talking to you start to face her as she say things that would kinda interest you that way she thinks you only stayed because of what she said.

When opening say something that would project value. That way she won't leave so easliy you can make up your own things using the following topics...

-fun
-imaginative
-funny
-intriguing
-frame-setting (sets challenges right off the opener)
-opinion
-kino/dominance-establishing
-role playing

right after your little opener start attracting her. Be C&F and anything else that would build attraction. At this point start to have fun, do fun sh!t. When she starts to try and gain rapport thats when you should start to slow down with the C&F and start to gain rapport. While gaining rapport i do GWM(Gunwitch method) and either try to fuvk close or number close.

So basically
A. Open
B. C&F and anything to attract her (Skip if she gives AIs)
C. Gain Deep Rapport (So she don't freaking flake on you)
D. Close (Fuvk Close or Number wateva you want)

If your actually good at C&F and can gain some good rapport while having fun and being challenging. Have fun!!! Sarging!!

 

[silverfox]

Hey this is useful stuff as I am working on these approaches at the moment. Thanks man.

Is there any chance you could give some sample dialogue from a typical successful cold approach?

Also, do you have any tips for the Antarctica of cold approaches: she's walking towards you, you are walking towards her and the window of opportunity is there for a couple of seconds at best?

 

[wheelin&dealin]

It's alot easier to approach if you have some good lines you can always rely on. This way you don't always have to come up with something witty.

For example.. I'll politely say

"Excuse me... are you from around here?"

"How old are you?"

These lines will get the conversation going and then you can pretty much number close from there. I wouldn't worry about trying to be ****y and witty with her because you'll only be talking to her for a minute or so. The main goal is to get her phone number.

When I cold approach, my conversation is pretty much scripted. I know what I'm gonna say and I know I'm gonna ask her to write down her number at the end of the convo. It almost becomes automatic and it's actually fairly easy when you get used to it.

 

[wheelin&dealin]

Originally posted by silverfox
Also, do you have any tips for the Antarctica of cold approaches: she's walking towards you, you are walking towards her and the window of opportunity is there for a couple of seconds at best?

Open your arms for a hug.

Or just stop her with a polite "Excuse me?"

 

[Logen]

Distant Light, you live in NYC? if so we got to go sarginclubs some time. it looks like i can learn a lot from you. and i'll pay the club cover so you're just having a good time, for free.

what do you say?

 

[thefonz]

I agree that the direct method is just a failure waiting to happen......in MOST cold approaches that is

Unless you're in a really really good mood or you've done thousands of approaches it's almost impossible to be successful with the direct style.

 

[Boner da Stoner]

I use the direct style always...

If i am not building on past rapport or indirect game I am by concept, design, and reality, cold-approaching!

Cold approaching is a simple process, made into a scary term, meant to subdue you from achieving you true knowledge... it is a means of saying you shouldn't know about that... WHY? "Just because"

Cold approaches are natures way of saying " stop stopping me" everything that happens happens, if you want a new reaction and experiment that is not influenced by your past actions you MUST cold-approach, even girls you have never DJ'[d are cold approaches, you may have previously been AFC towards them in a work environment, but now that the both of you are single(no longer married to your jobs and politics) ther is the option of opening up!