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Co-Worker - Should I do Something?


Don Juan
Sep 7, 2007
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I'm not in college anymore. So I work now. This is the same girl I wrote way back last May. But I'll focus on the important part and why I'm writing again now.

When I first arrived, we got along quite well with good rapport and everything. Then after working together to celebrate a co-worker's birthday, she turn completely cold.

My last post was focused that this is now the first time I experience this and I want to pinpoint what causes this. Up to this point, it didn't matter that much because if she want to be cold, then fine, be that way, I got nothing on how to react beyond that.

But she's still on my team and the company sent us for training with her as a partner. Now I can see the extensiveness as she decided to go as far as start writing her own code into her book (I'm doing something in the software industry). When I tried we say we can work and actually program together on the computer like everyone else, she gave no response except the one minute gesture. I tried to call her name, she gave the same gesture. When I finally just tapped her to try to get her to say something, all she responded was "please don't touch me". At the end of class, I followed out to the hallway to try and confront her but she refused to stop walking and barely vocalize a response that I'm not 100% sure I heard correctly.

Whatever her problem is, I'm worried she can and may actually do something to jeopardize me at some point. So far, I been categorizing as a version of indifference as in no motivation to help, but also no motivation to hurt. And so far I haven't heard she said or do anything in regards to harm. Yet, I think today shows she's a danger and I wonder if I should go to my boss in case she ever do something, then I might have something to guard me. However, this could mean I'm actually taking the first shot in the act to shield myself.

Anyone got any thoughts?*

*Just to note. I have speculated that if she might have a condition like Asperger's (In the CS major and now the CS industry - it would not be the first time I encountered Aspergers or just all kinds of quirkness - and I'm talking about the girls). I did note she did her own thing during lunch and is reputed to be a quiet person. But she socialize just fine before she turned cold to me. And has rapport and chatter with a second team she works in and some others too.


Master Don Juan
Jul 31, 2012
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you shouldn't have touched her. dont confront her on anything. dont talk to her. just stay away from her. if it affects work go to your manager.


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Jan 30, 2013
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Don Juan
Dec 21, 2012
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In a house
Pretty obvious she don't want sh1T to do with ya bro: drop it...or risk losing your shiny new job in the software industry.....

White Boy

Don Juan
Jan 12, 2013
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alphamailman said:
Career First. Hoes on the street come later.
I'm still pretty young so take my comment with a grain of salt. But I always thought it was common knowledge not to date people you work with?

Maybe hang out with her and date her friends?