Hey guys
Any of you long term posters here might remember the girl ive posted about around 5 times since summer. Well since then weve gotten together, had a good relationship, but then one night i got drunk, cheated on her, and called her and told her about it. Yeah i know it was ****ing stupid and if i would have been sober i would never have done it, but i did and i cant change that. Anyway, i asked for forgiveness- but she couldnt trust me etcetc and i totally understand that. then the next weekened i saw her and we flirted and KINO and then i tried to kiss her but she wouldnt, which is also understandable. then i went out of town for a month. I didnt talk to her really at all, and thought she had completely gotten over me/forgotten about me.
I developed the mindset that when i got back i would become the catch and if she wanted to get with me then she would have to prove it, without any effort on my part. wrong move. When i got back she called me like 4 times, text messaged me, etc. but i acted cold. Then i saw her and she was all over me but i still acted like i didnt like her. That night, though, i thought i should lighten up so i called her and asked if she wanted to go out the next day, just the two of us. she said shed love to, but then never called me back so i went out with the guys instead. we all met up that afternoon and she was again flirting a bit but i was sick of the mixed signals and acted like i didnt like her again. Then she called me and i was asleep and i picked up and basically told her to leave me alone. i felt bad the next morning so i sent her a friendly short email saying i wanted to catch up and she should call me when she had time. I dont know why i did all this, but now (a week later) i wish i wouldve just talked to her the first time i saw her, or returned her flirtacious behavior. well anyway, last thursday i called her and we talked for like 45 mins or so just catching up, and i havent seen her this weekend. im not sure what to do. i mean yeah normally i would just NEXT but weve been building this relationship for like 4 months. i also think that she might be confused bc ive been giving her alot of mixed signals. im thinking that next time i see her i will just flirt alot and try and make something happen. well see. what do you guys think? Also, shes changing. shes treating her old friends like **** and shes sacrificing alot of things for drugs and alcohol. shes also very stubborn and wont hear anything you try to tell her. she also is *****ed around by her friends and is afraid to be herself. i was very mad at her last friday bc of an incident like this and many in the past, and i almost claled her and told her that i was sick of being treated like **** and that i lost all attraction and respect for her and that i didnt want to be her friend bc she treats her friends like ****. im not sure what to do, im thinking just play it cool and see what happens, but doing that is what got me here in the first place. another part of me wants to just go over to her house, tell her how i feel, and get it over with, good or bad. what do you guys think?
Jonathan
Any of you long term posters here might remember the girl ive posted about around 5 times since summer. Well since then weve gotten together, had a good relationship, but then one night i got drunk, cheated on her, and called her and told her about it. Yeah i know it was ****ing stupid and if i would have been sober i would never have done it, but i did and i cant change that. Anyway, i asked for forgiveness- but she couldnt trust me etcetc and i totally understand that. then the next weekened i saw her and we flirted and KINO and then i tried to kiss her but she wouldnt, which is also understandable. then i went out of town for a month. I didnt talk to her really at all, and thought she had completely gotten over me/forgotten about me.
I developed the mindset that when i got back i would become the catch and if she wanted to get with me then she would have to prove it, without any effort on my part. wrong move. When i got back she called me like 4 times, text messaged me, etc. but i acted cold. Then i saw her and she was all over me but i still acted like i didnt like her. That night, though, i thought i should lighten up so i called her and asked if she wanted to go out the next day, just the two of us. she said shed love to, but then never called me back so i went out with the guys instead. we all met up that afternoon and she was again flirting a bit but i was sick of the mixed signals and acted like i didnt like her again. Then she called me and i was asleep and i picked up and basically told her to leave me alone. i felt bad the next morning so i sent her a friendly short email saying i wanted to catch up and she should call me when she had time. I dont know why i did all this, but now (a week later) i wish i wouldve just talked to her the first time i saw her, or returned her flirtacious behavior. well anyway, last thursday i called her and we talked for like 45 mins or so just catching up, and i havent seen her this weekend. im not sure what to do. i mean yeah normally i would just NEXT but weve been building this relationship for like 4 months. i also think that she might be confused bc ive been giving her alot of mixed signals. im thinking that next time i see her i will just flirt alot and try and make something happen. well see. what do you guys think? Also, shes changing. shes treating her old friends like **** and shes sacrificing alot of things for drugs and alcohol. shes also very stubborn and wont hear anything you try to tell her. she also is *****ed around by her friends and is afraid to be herself. i was very mad at her last friday bc of an incident like this and many in the past, and i almost claled her and told her that i was sick of being treated like **** and that i lost all attraction and respect for her and that i didnt want to be her friend bc she treats her friends like ****. im not sure what to do, im thinking just play it cool and see what happens, but doing that is what got me here in the first place. another part of me wants to just go over to her house, tell her how i feel, and get it over with, good or bad. what do you guys think?
Jonathan
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