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Hey guys, ok so I just caught my girlfriend cheating. Fake facebook account which she has me blocked. So I made a different account to confirm this. I'm collecting my things soon and I wrote her a poem for when I walk out the door, it says. Roses are red, my love is dead, now watch me close out door, you cheating w.h.o.r.e. And just lots of lol's written all over it. She went on a trip to see her best friend but I have endless amount of realistic evidence to prove she was being unfaithful. Any thoughts how I should proceed now when I give her the poem? Lol
 

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Go NC and delete her off all social media. Was this a result of you still being thr "nice guy"?
 

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Hey guys, ok so I just caught my girlfriend cheating. Fake facebook account which she has me blocked. So I made a different account to confirm this. I'm collecting my things soon and I wrote her a poem for when I walk out the door, it says. Roses are red, my love is dead, now watch me close out door, you cheating w.h.o.r.e. And just lots of lol's written all over it. She went on a trip to see her best friend but I have endless amount of realistic evidence to prove she was being unfaithful. Any thoughts how I should proceed now when I give her the poem? Lol
NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
 

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NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
In2thegame I love this!! I'm gonna do it. Does it really hurt them that much? Could you explain how?
 

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read sex at dawn and you will be well on you're way to recovery.

never be jealous or hurt over a female again (;

sound good? read it!
 

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How does ghosting a gurlfriend a cheating one at that. Hurt them?
Because (perceived) indifference is more powerful than hate. And because your attention to her, and your lack thereof, is your most powerful weapon. If you leave the poem, you just give her ammunition and justification for her actions. (In her eyes.)
 

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@samspade so even though she is cheating and made a new facebook adding everyone but me indifference is the best weapon? P.s her best friend even added me on facebook now why would her friend add me if she was cheating or planning on dumping me?
 

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@samspade so even though she is cheating and made a new facebook adding everyone but me indifference is the best weapon? P.s her best friend even added me on facebook now why would her friend add me if she was cheating or planning on dumping me?
Are you sure she's cheating on you? Making a separate FB profile is super sketchy but in court I believe they would call that "circumstantial evidence." Not that this is a court of law, but do you have any hard proof?
 

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@foolyoufool yeah I have lots of evidence mainly behavioral things and catching her on the phone to someone and then she walks down the road to talk lol.. but if she made a separate facebook account and blocked me tells me she has cheated and is about to dump me lol.. but why did her best friend add me if that was the case?
 

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@LARaiders85 she still has me on facebook on her deactivated account so she can reactivate and spy on me if she wanted too. So why does her friend add me?
Who cares? If your gut tells you she's up to no good, delete your facebook and walk away. No need to play detective or catch her in the act. She'll never be wrong.

Caveat, unless you think her friend wants you and you can bang her, then go ahead, but I'd keep it off FB.
 

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Wait, is this the girl in your previous thread (last year) where you already dumped her ?
 

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NOOOOO!!! Don't leave her a poem. if you really want to hit her where it hurts the most, its just to disappear without a trace, almost like you never existed. I know how it feels man, I went through similar and my mistake was trying to do too much but in a roaring sea of emotions its hard to collect yourself. Im telling you, just disappear.
This.
How does ghosting a gurlfriend a cheating one at that. Hurt them?
you have no idea. Makes them take a hard look at their own actions and they feel deep loss and resentment towards the self. Imagine if you cheated and without a trace she went ghost in you and you never had a reason... intense right?

Also if you left a poem it gives her a reason to hold that against you, and use that piece to justify her behaviour because it’s revealing of your ‘dark side’. Also shows you’re hurt. Ghosting and NC shows you know your value.
How long did you two date?
 

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Wait a minute...you are speculating all of this because she has a second facebook account? Have you caught her doing anything? Seems like a major jump to go from a second facebook account to her cheating on you unless you have more evidence...almost seems like you are projecting your self worth or lack there of onto the situation.
 

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Having a second Facebook account where your bf is not on it is pretty damn strong proof something very shady is going on.

Go complete radio silence.. or just continue to bang her while you look for other chicks.
 

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Having a second Facebook account where your bf is not on it is pretty damn strong proof something very shady is going on.

Go complete radio silence.. or just continue to bang her while you look for other chicks.
@Music_czar I know right super shady! But the thing is if she was planning on dumping me why the hell would her best friend add me?
 
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