its still the best strategy, doesnt mean it works all the time or is foolproof, one things BPD's do well is drive people away and smash up anything good and worthwhile. she oversteps the boundaries too often....you did what you needed to.PeakIV said:yes boundaries and being strong etc etc bla bla bla....been there done that.....the strongest guy will break after the 7th night in a row of no sleep as she screams and shouts for hours on end.
Nothing you can do or say will stop them or calm them down. they then start getting violent and breaking down doors as you try and move to another room to get some peace. (remember this is taken as you abandoning them)
they cannot be alone so they follow you everywhere you go all the while shouting having circular arguments about something that happened years ago that you thought was resolved.
You try and leave the house they hold onto your leg, you get into the car they jump on the bonnet. you cannot get away ever so you have to plan to secretly leave them while they are out otherwise you will end up as insane as they are.
so that's what I did. So I abandoned her. and the cycle continues.
its worth adding, not all BPD's are women, it some men have the condition as well