BPD ex, had rebound, how to proceed

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Problem is for many, myself included, was not knowing or ignoring what to look for in their toxic behavior before being sucked in.

The eject handle should have been immediate when she warned me about herself and I frequently googled her erratic behavior.

The takeaway: toxic behavior will never be corrected as long as they continue to receive attention and validation.
The problem can be a 100 and 1 things.

It doesn't matter at all because you cannot remember everything nor is it ur job to diagnose these BPD women.

Even a qualified medical practitioner has a hard time diagnosing and qualifying a patient as being BPD.

The point of recognising these women or any type of women for that matter becomes moot.

But what can we men do you might ask?

The problem is to do with strength and bullying.

Your strength and her bullying.

Will you try to bully a buff up thug that sells drugs? Noooooo.

Will you try to bully a biology Professor by challenging him on that topic when you know little of biology? Noooooo.

Will you try to bully a Catholic priest by challenging him abt his faith in Jesus? Noooooo.

You won't because the chances are, not only will you lose but you ALSO recognised their authority within their fields (their frame) - hence the respect these people automatically gain.

The same holds true with women.

Can they bully you if you display strengths in ur mental capabilities, physical skills and spirituality? Noooooo.

Remember that for women, in order for them to love a man, they 1st MUST be able to ADMIRE him, from there RESPECT him and from it grows the feminine love.
 

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The problem can be a 100 and 1 things.

It doesn't matter at all because you cannot remember everything nor is it ur job to diagnose these BPD women.

Even a qualified medical practitioner has a hard time diagnosing and qualifying a patient as being BPD.

The point of recognising these women or any type of women for that matter becomes moot.

But what can we men do you might ask?

The problem is to do with strength and bullying.

Your strength and her bullying.

Will you try to bully a buff up thug that sells drugs? Noooooo.

Will you try to bully a biology Professor by challenging him on that topic when you know little of biology? Noooooo.

Will you try to bully a Catholic priest by challenging him abt his faith in Jesus? Noooooo.

You won't because the chances are, not only will you lose but you ALSO recognised their authority within their fields (their frame) - hence the respect these people automatically gain.

The same holds true with women.

Can they bully you if you display strengths in ur mental capabilities, physical skills and spirituality? Noooooo.

Remember that for women, in order for them to love a man, they 1st MUST be able to ADMIRE him, from there RESPECT him and from it grows the feminine love.
The point isn’t to try to diagnose toxic individuals or find strength to fight off their bullying, if it occurs. The point is to eject early when recognizing signs of significant toxic behavior.

No matter how strong you are, toxic individuals with cluster B can and or will attempt to find and exploit weaknesses. We hear about this frequently here. The strongest individuals will resist and walk away permanently. I fought fire with fire and walked away before being sucked back in multiple times.

Agreed, a woman in a normal situation must admire and respect him before she can love him. However, this rarely possible with cluster B individuals who do not love, admire, or respect themselves. The initial illusion of this which sparks initial attraction is based on a false identity that disappears after the honeymoon is over.
 
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