A guy told Anti-Dump that he talked to his ex through the Internet. “Since we broke up so well, maybe there is a chance we’ll get back together.”You call a MINIMUM of four days.
Your only calling days are monday, tuesday, wednesday. NEVER call thursday thru sunday. She will have made plans for the week end. Trips, aunts flying in, etc.
This is simple. If you get a number on your calling days call the FOLLOWING week. If you get a number on THURS thru SATURDAY call the FOLLOWING week. If you get a number on sunday, call wednesday. Wednesday is only three days but you probably won't get many numbers on that day.
This is not science. It is an art.
Planning your calls is good for you because it teaches you to SLOW DOWN.
The slower you go in dating the easier it is to AVOID the traps. You know the saying, 'fools rush in'.
The girl will wait if she truely likes you. If she gets mad, this is good. You find out who is a b***h and who is not.
About getting off the phone fast. Your purpose for calling is NOT TO HAVE A CONVERSATION! It is to SET UP a date. Say 'this is Anjo, we met at the Joe's Place. Let's do dinner on saturday. I'll pick you up at 8:00PM. What's your address?.'
After you get the address, say 'That's great. See you saturday. Goodnight.'And HANG UP.
You are not being RUDE! You are giving her a date and she is LUCKY she got one from you. Why? Because you had two other girls to choose from!
And Anti-Dump responded:
But the guy replied, “But Anti-Dump! She tells me to call her sometime.”You said "She broke up with me".
You were DUMPED. No matter what you do or say or learn, you have been put in a little file box in her head under 'loser'.
Nothing on the face of the earth can help you now (with her).
You need a NEW girl with a BLANK file box . March forward young Don Juan! Seek out new blood.
The next girl will be ALL OVER YOU.
And Anti-Dump thundered:
But the guy asks, “Can the guy ever go back with such an ex?”You said "what about her talking to me..."
Computer talk is just TALK. It is NOT a relationship. She prefers to just TALK to you. She could pick up her phone at any second. She never will. Why? You are giving her all the attention she needs. Why should she call you. She can get what she wants from you everyday. SHE KNOWS HOW TO HAVE IT ALL HER WAY. She dumped you when SHE wanted. She keeps TELLING you to call (ordering).
She thinks (incorrectly) you'll do what ever she wants. You see she won't call because she's programmed by the little file box. It tells her you're willing to go along with her.
A relationship has to be 50-50. Alot of women think equality means having it all their way. WRONG!
Prove me wrong. Call her. Ask her out . I guarantee that she will be TWICE as ONE-SIDED as she was. Why? Because you have shown that you are a willing victim. You are willing to give her lots of your Don Juan time. If you want to be friends that's alright. Just don't think she will suddenly turn into Miss Cooperation. It will never happen.
She's not interested in you the person. If she was your phone would be exploding. She sees the new you. She talks to the new you. Is the phone ringing?
She doesn't know that you've changed . You can't tell her you've changed. You can't tell her about all the things you now know. It's too late.
She will always see you in the old way.
Krynnster adds,I guess your going to have to learn the hard way. She's baiting the trap.
She can't wait to SUCK YOU BACK INTO A ONE SIDED relationship where SHE has all the power. Remember the little file box? In her mind you are a loser. As soon as you get back she will DUMP you harder than you ever have been dumped before.
Why didn't she ask you to be ALONE with her at the movies? You were asked to 'come along' (second choice) .
Why didn't she ask you to go shopping ALONE with her. Because 'None of her friends would go with her' (you are
second choice again).
You CAN"T be first my friend with a girl that dumped you. She can only put the dog collar around your neck.
What size is it by the way....
Poet put out a long post detailing the DJ way. At the end he asks, “Does anyone else have a better way to put it and in less words?”As hard as this may sound, in my experience this is absolutely true. Exes will remain exes. If you go back to them (or let them get back to you) it might work for a while and you can have some fun but it wouldn't last. While I found that it's very easy to become best-friends with your exes (no sex), it's almost impossible to have a successful relationship with them. Why? Because you already tried it and it didn't work. You can try again, but it will fail again because both of you didn't really change and everything that was wrong is still wrong. Your best option is to learn your lesson, let her learn hers and move on.
Oh and one more thing, if you don't really care about what's going to happen with her, then don't allow her to get any closer because you will lose control, start caring and get hurt.
Poet replies that he ought to check for ‘high levels of interest signs’ first. Listen to Anti-Dump’s response:Yea. I have some.
Just focus on the single word 'NUMBER' when you are talking to a woman.
And then focus on the single word 'YES' when you call to ask for a date.
You only need TWO words Poet. Number and Yes. This may be too simple for a brain like you!
And please don't pull out any FU's. It's a joke.
Forget Words. Take action.
I keep telling you that 'signs' are unreliable and are a waste of time to look for.
Women HIDE (!) their true feelings. They conceal them until they are absolutely sure. That process takes months and months in a relationship. And you want them to show it before? Never going to happen.
The ugly ones do it because they are desparate. The 9&10's DON'T do it generally speaking.
You can't get into a woman's head early in the dating process. It's a SEALED VAULT. You must strike women at their WEAK spot. Their 'weak spot' is ACTION.
Men rule the action world. Women are king in COMMUNICATING. But weak in action.
The secret is asking them to DO things. This is their weak spot. They would rather 'talk' all the time and discuss things. They are experts in that. You CAN'T WIN UNLESS 'YOU' ARE THE EXPERT.
And you are. In DOING things. Asking for a date is the ultimate test. If a girl is interested she will go into her 'weak' area for you. She will do things. She will let you lead her in the ACTION world.
Women that are mediumly to low interested in you will HESITATE and think about it.
'Signs' are a form of communicating and that's where women are king.
Asking for a date is really saying 'let's do some action things'. You are seeing if she will leave her communicating world for you.
You are under the impression that 9's & 10's will do that. Most won't. It's not a REVERSABLE process. Because ugly girls do that, beautiful one's WON'T.
The good looking ones HIDE their true feelings.
You must ask out the ones that show very little signs IF SHE IS SOMEONE YOU really WANT!
Risk is part of the game. No risk, no reward.