Espi said:
Limit volleying the texts and make her escalate interest in you. If she replies with anything short of committing an hour or two with you, just go back to ignoring her like you've already done.
Agreed.
The trick is NOT TO SAY
ANYTHING about going out or dating her in these text you send.
The point is NOT TO FEED her ego. If her ego gets fed,she won't go out on the date because she won't need to.
If all it takes is a phonecall or a text to get to get an ego boost,then she'll settle for the phonecall or text.
Why put all the time and effort into doing her hair,make-up,deciding what to wear,driving out to meet you and everything else when she can just get her ego boosted by calling you while she's lying around the house?
Robert28 understands. Most guys would mistake her calling or texting as an IOI. The tricky part is her calling
can be an IOI
under certain conditions.
Her flaking on you a thousand times then calling you when you pull back ISN'T that condition.
The point of her calling you there is to re-establish you asking her out and trying to see her again so she can feel wanted and desired.
But when she calls you and you just chit-chat
for a second,and she gets nothing out of it
because you DIDN'T ask her out,then she'll think you're losing interest.
You ignoring text and cutting them short will make her DOUBT HER DESIRABILITY...towards you. So,since the phonecalls and texts no longer get her ego fed,she'll up the anty.
She'll suggest you two getting together...BUT...(And this is a BIG "BUT"
) it's just another attempt to feed her ego.
That's why I say not to agree to the date if she ask you out.
Most guys would jump up and down thinking they finally got her out on a date,but all they did was re-inflate her ego again. And since she got her "fix",she's good now. So she flakes again.
By not agreeing to the date and doing what I suggested in my signature,SHE HAS TO put some effort into getting YOU to go out.
She has to invest,and she wants a return on that investment. Whereas before,she merely had to clear her throat and the guy was all over her telling her she's "hot" and asking her out a hundred times.
Espi said:
Text something like,
"Why would I be mad? Listen, I don't really text much. What are doing this weekend?"
The "Why would I be mad?' is ok to ask,but asking what she's doing for the weekend is a NO GO.
She'll instantly get her ego boosted again. You just went a week without contacting her,she calls you,then you go right into asking her out?
No. All that does is let her know she's still on your mind.
Robert did it PERFECTLY.
She contacted him,and instead of immediately trying to ask her out again,he asked,"Who's number is this?"
That was PERFECTION.
Almost brings a tear to my eye.
This way,he's NOT ignoring her,and at the same time,she's NOT getting ego boosted out of the conversation.
Joe Stud is right...tell her you're not mad at her,chat for a minute,then END CONTACT,and go on with your life. Pursue other girls. Go ahead and speak with her
from time to time if she contacts you...but
DON'T ASK HER OUT.
Say "what's up?","How you doin'",tell her something exciting/emotional you've been up to,then end the call/text as soon as you can.
Do that,coupled with ignoring her texts as well.
Eventually she'll either get lost (which is good),or
she'll suggest you two dating. Then at that point,you can follow what I outlined in my sig.
Edit:I agree with waiting until Tuesday. Then hang out with her a little before asking her out. But hey,if she starts flaking again...you know what to do.