AMA about girls with BPD

[Lynx nkaf]

Thanks man. Its cool i think everyone here is lurky lol

lol, oh its probably true. I treat SoSuave as class-in-session. By your age, you'd be in my grade.

 

[stringpuller]

if a man doesn't allow himself to be bullied then it ain't a problem is it?

Yes. Its our responsibility to vet these girls. Being fooled as a beta and s noob is one thing.
But turning a blind eye to a disrespectful woman is a future trainwreck.

 

[Spaz]

Yes. Its our responsibility to vet these girls. Being fooled as a beta and s noob is one thing.
But turning a blind eye to a disrespectful woman is a future trainwreck.

There's no need to vet women, today she can be an angel and yet the next day she could be a demonic witch.

Women are not men.

Women are the product of their environment, meaning they will mirror the men they're with at any given moment.

Some of the men you see who has a great wife right now, I'm certain that at some time in the past his wife was a slut.

 

[zinc4]

For example. After we first met in person (we talked for a couple weeks on the phone because she was staying at her parents all summer) she to pick me up from my halfway house to go to these Chinese buffet. I always drove her car. But this stupid b1tch from Connecticut was trying hard to cut in front of me on the freeway when there was plenty of space behind me, so i just got as close to car in front of me as i could and said "fvck this b1tch, trying cut me" so after a few minutes and tries this woman moved on way ahead of me and cut over.

My ex was telling me to let her in and i said "**** no, shes an idiot I'm not going to let someone like that in because they're driving like a retard" and i stopped talking. I was tired aftet working a manual labor job in 90 degree weather for 10 hours and i was a bit moody. She just repeated herself "no you should have let her in" and it almost pissed me off, but i just dropped it. It was the way she said it too.

Or she'd try and start arguments and when i started taking kratom again, that stuff makes me irritable and sometimes a bit paranoid. It just makes me kind of emotional to because i become more needy (in terms of physical affection) because frankly it makes me feel good and makes it feel good to give and receive affection.

Now you have to understand i didn't work for like 7 months when i first moved in with her. When we started getting into little spats a few times i jst started taking it a lot to the point that's all i did. I would donate plasma just to get money to get kratom. But also i did kratom instead of drinking because i needed something.

We had some bad fights where i went apesh1t. I litterally ripped a door off the wall once. Man she would wait for me to get a little heated and when i did, she'd stop responding, she wouldn't look at me or say anything, except to talk a little sh1t and i was already angry. Sometimes she'd straight up deny something that was obviously true just to argue.

She'd disagree with me when having a casual conversation when she was 100% wrong. She told me all about her childhood and one time i brought up how sometimes her mom "showed she cared in a strange way" ( her mom is Cambodian and would put her kids down a lot) and how when her mom would go off on her, that it was attention even if negative attention. Shr litterally just said "no it's not" to wish i calmly explained why it was. She would just disagree and then straight up ignore anything i said after that. She would deny doin this too. For a long time i just ignored it. But over time it just kept eating away at me to the point id call her out on it, or call her out on staright to giving me the cold shoulder for no reason.

Ah, I'm drinking kratom right now. It doesn't affect me that way...just makes me feel content and more relaxed. Will dehydrate u like crazy though. Also just ate a brownie. Good combo after working out or running.

About your girl....lol don't go ripping doors because a woman. Not sure on the bi polar thing though for her based on what u said.....a lot of them are thiugh

 

[EyeOnThePrize]

@Infern0 makes a good point with being aloof the only thing that sustains their interest, because they crave to be ignored and abused. The problem is if you go out of your way to do this you're messing your own psyche up. If you get into an LTR with a BPD that doesn't seek treatment after a while you start asking yourself wtf you're doing with her.

At a point if you want something deeper like a family or even a stronger union an aloof or objectifying attitude is no longer constructive and actually detrimental. A BPD sees empathy as weakness, so she runs at the sight of it.

The only way you get into an LTR with a BPD is by repeatedly giving her the benefit of the doubt and not holding her accountable, otherwise she'd be gone within a few months. If deep down you know this then don't fear exercising your principles. It's inevitable that you dismiss her or you allow her psyche to corrupt yours, don't let it be the latter.

Don't force an aloof state, you'll just screw up your head. Get busy and successful enough until it manifests naturally.

 

[Spaz]

@Infern0 makes a good point with being aloof the only thing that sustains their interest, because they crave to be ignored and abused. The problem is if you go out of your way to do this you're messing your own psyche up. If you get into an LTR with a BPD that doesn't seek treatment after a while you start asking yourself wtf you're doing with her.

At a point if you want something deeper like a family or even a stronger union an aloof or objectifying attitude is no longer constructive and actually detrimental. A BPD sees empathy as weakness, so she runs at the sight of it.

The only way you get into an LTR with a BPD is by repeatedly giving her the benefit of the doubt and not holding her accountable, otherwise she'd be gone within a few months. If deep down you know this then don't fear exercising your principles. It's inevitable that you dismiss her or you allow her psyche to corrupt yours, don't let it be the latter.

Don't force an aloof state, you'll just screw up your head. Get busy and successful enough until it manifests naturally.

Meanwhile you should learn not to let women continously bully you.

And you do that by making things simple, not complicated, because the more complicated it gets the more of a chance it all turns into a cluster fvck.

I trust you took up probabilities in ur advance math classes ?

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Meanwhile you should learn not to let women continously bully you.

And you do that by making things simple, not complicated, because the more complicated it gets the more of a chance it all turns into a cluster fvck.

I trust you took up probabilities in ur advance math classes ?

Simplest is to walk.
Walk away from the bullying.
What woman or situation would one be in that a decision to walk couldn't be made?

 

[Infern0]

Another BPD thread?

Next time people, just admit that you allowed urself to be bullied by a weak women.

And then ask urself, r u even a man?

That's gonna cure ur noob azz of future BPD's.

Take another look at who created this thread and then consider your disrespectful, arrogant and frankly rude responses more carefully. You have absoloutley ZERO say in what others post in this site.

 

[Spaz]

Take another look at who created this thread and then consider your disrespectful, arrogant and frankly rude responses more carefully. You have absoloutley ZERO say in what others post in this site.

You should be able to dispute what I've written IF you are right.

As for ur contention that I was rude, arrogant, etc etc until you felt insulted, here's my response to you, so that you may learn;

There's no good or evil in this world, there's only right or wrong, correct or incorrect.

There's no rich or poor, there's only high or low, top or bottom.

There's no insult, there's only mindset, correct or incorrect.

The mind or how you think is akin graphite, on one hand it's used as lead in pencils, when applied a little pressure it easily breaks and on the other hand when graphite is put under tremendous pressure it turns into a diamond.

Now does this concept compute ?

BTW I did not question ur moderating job, I actually answered with a solution that will work 100%, read properly this time my previous comments herein.