Personally I wouldnt have said anything on finding out just because I don't react in the moment. I don't think there's much to be gained through talking and they just come to resent you when being overt in a reactionary way. The minute a woman knows your reacting to something is when she knows (consciously or sub consciously) she has some control over you even if your fighting for "equality" or making the point that what's good for one is good for another. I wonder with women if there's any room for being fair, nice or honest at any level due to their socially supported, inbuilt self entitlement to enact their hypergamy. Maybe its a requirement to spin plates eternally and never commit to a woman and always always put yourself first in every way. A very subtle act to enact without giving the impression your trying, reacting or otherwise playing a role or a game. I would certainly be stepping up developing any plates and detracting sexual dependance on her. Actions speak much louder than words so I'd be demonstrating seeing other "friends" ex girlfriends and keeping my options firmly open to the point where your ready to next in 30 seconds flat when the heat comes.