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Bandolero

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Hey guys .
I have been mostly a spectator on this forum and I am very glad I found it ,but I think I am gonna pass on you guys to learn more about me .

I was in a horrible 5 year relationship ( my first , and only) and I did many mistakes .
After some research I discovered Rollo and this forum which I gained a lot from .

I've been spinning plates the last 3 years and when I go out , I do not go home alone .
This sounds stupid but I gained my experience from y'all experience's.

3 weeks ago I've done 3 chicks one after another in the club , because I made them all compete for me . Yes you are the price buddy.
But I have to admit that I felt like **** the next day.
My friends taught it was awesome and the bouncers would pat me on my shoulders every time I was leaving the club to get some ,
But this is not for me . Not at all .

I've met a woman with potential and I would like to get my taughts together by myself , and not be pointed in a different direction from you players.

All I can say is , that I will forever keep in mind what I've learned from you guys .
And I'll always check my women.
But I will try to be a soul , not a body.

Peace
 

logicallefty

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Good luck to you Sir. Hope to see you back someday in the future.
 

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I didn't align with the player lifestyle myself, I have nothing against those who want that, but it's not for me. A lot of advice and concepts on this forum applies generally enough to be useful beyond just being a player.

I was seeking relationship, but still a forum full of plate spinners did offer lots of useful bits of information, the rest I had to figure out on my own. I took what might be useful to me and never felt any compulsion to follow every piece of advice offered.

Everyone here would benefit from introspection if they're not already doing it, not everything can be answered by the forum because it comes down to what you truly want rather than how to get there.

Good luck and if you do need some pointers you're always welcome to ask. We're not all players, I'm married and have been in the relationship for over 6 years now, so there might still be something for you to gain here.
 

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Bandolero

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Oh man , I was so wrong .

Clingy, trust issues I've never seen before
And now she won't leave me alone after I left her.

Blocked her on the phone , WhatsApp and Instagram... Got an Email .

Blocked her email , got a call from a phonebooth.

How do I deal with this ?
She even threatened once that she might hurt herself .

Please help
 

DolyCool

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I want to congratulate you like the others and wish you good luck!;)
 

Murk

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Oh man , I was so wrong .

Clingy, trust issues I've never seen before
And now she won't leave me alone after I left her.

Blocked her on the phone , WhatsApp and Instagram... Got an Email .

Blocked her email , got a call from a phonebooth.

How do I deal with this ?
She even threatened once that she might hurt herself .

Please help
What a great 6 weeks you've had
 

Serenity

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Oh man , I was so wrong .

Clingy, trust issues I've never seen before
And now she won't leave me alone after I left her.

Blocked her on the phone , WhatsApp and Instagram... Got an Email .

Blocked her email , got a call from a phonebooth.

How do I deal with this ?
She even threatened once that she might hurt herself .

Please help
If she keeps finding ways around your blocks then at least do not respond, not to anything she says. She calls you from some random number and you pick up, hang up the moment you know it's her, don't talk.

Threatening to hurt herself or commit suicide is one of the most evil and extreme manipulation tactics, you must remain strong and not respond to it. No matter how much she wants you to believe it's your responsibility if she hurts herself, know that it is in fact not as you have no control over her actions towards herself and she has all the control over it, so it's fully her responsibility if she chooses to do it and you cannot be blamed whatsoever (unless you encourage it, hence why you don't respond at all).

I know it's extremely disturbing to be subjected to this, but you literally can't give in to it without being sucked into her manipulations. I've experienced suicide threats myself and there is no other way than to acknowledge it's not your responsibility, you're not obligated to save them from themselves at the cost of your freedom and soul. Maybe she'll actually do it, maybe she's bluffing (most likely), but it's not your problem and you can't be blamed for her actions against herself.

The most important thing you can do is to not respond to anything, no matter what, because everything from now on is pure manipulation and you can't trust anything she says. She might also turn around to apologize for it all, be really sweet, say she understands and try to convince you she will do better, DO NOT TRUST IT! It will not last, it will not be genuine and it will only be another strategy to manipulate you back to her where she will most definitely revert.

If she tries to physically stalk you then you should seriously consider looking into getting a restraining order, that's why it exists. Let's hope she's not THAT crazy.

Tl;dr the best way to deal with it is to not deal with it, you can only win this game by not playing it.
 

Pan87

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Hey guys .
I have been mostly a spectator on this forum and I am very glad I found it ,but I think I am gonna pass on you guys to learn more about me .

I was in a horrible 5 year relationship ( my first , and only) and I did many mistakes .
After some research I discovered Rollo and this forum which I gained a lot from .

I've been spinning plates the last 3 years and when I go out , I do not go home alone .
This sounds stupid but I gained my experience from y'all experience's.

3 weeks ago I've done 3 chicks one after another in the club , because I made them all compete for me . Yes you are the price buddy.
But I have to admit that I felt like **** the next day.
My friends taught it was awesome and the bouncers would pat me on my shoulders every time I was leaving the club to get some ,
But this is not for me . Not at all .

I've met a woman with potential and I would like to get my taughts together by myself , and not be pointed in a different direction from you players.

All I can say is , that I will forever keep in mind what I've learned from you guys .
And I'll always check my women.
But I will try to be a soul , not a body.

Peace
Only about 1% of men are breeding bulls, and the rest are ultimately seeking a pair-bond.

Don’t be a player because you think it’s cool, and you read about it online. Only do it because you want to do it.

Players don’t do it for high-fives from other men - that’s approval seeking. Players do it because they love sampling lots of different women. A true player will actually tend to try and hide his behaviour in public because it’s actually an addiction and it can be very dysfunctional. A player maximises his reach by not being known as a “player” - he needs anonymity. If a woman knows you as a player then it actually hampers you. Women don’t want to be pumped and dumped - they hate it in fact.

If you don’t like sampling lots of different women, then you definitely shouldn’t do it because you’ll upset yourself. There is a huge soul tax you have to pay if you devote your life to casual sex.
 

bat soup

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Oh man , I was so wrong .

Clingy, trust issues I've never seen before
And now she won't leave me alone after I left her.

Blocked her on the phone , WhatsApp and Instagram... Got an Email .

Blocked her email , got a call from a phonebooth.

How do I deal with this ?
She even threatened once that she might hurt herself .

Please help
That didn't last long, did it? I thought you had found "the one".

If I were you I'd just move to Japan for a while.
 

Bandolero

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That didn't last long, did it? I thought you had found "the one".

If I were you I'd just move to Japan for a while.
You should read this thread again and search for " the one " . You are the first to mention it.

So if you or other above ,don't have anything to say that might help me out in my situation
I would advise you to spend your time on other topics .

Thanks to serenity .
I was already doing what you have mentioned, thanks for your understanding.
 

stringpuller

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Oh man , I was so wrong .

Clingy, trust issues I've never seen before
And now she won't leave me alone after I left her.

Blocked her on the phone , WhatsApp and Instagram... Got an Email .

Blocked her email , got a call from a phonebooth.

How do I deal with this ?
She even threatened once that she might hurt herself .

Please help
This is called a trophy. If you get a brick through the window save it. Put her name on it.

Joking aside OP. We are all players in this game. You are getting too emotional. My advice is dont make being in the game about notch count. Its not. Just have fun. You can literally die any minute
 
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