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    Wake Up Call !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    I don't really think it's a matter of where. I read an interesting study by a researcher who studied dating/mating habits at bars. She noticed that men were usually totally oblivious to the cues that women were sending them. In other words, the typical guy goes to a bar and starts looking for...
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    New Kid in Town

    I think there are three ways to play it: 1) a permanent move 2) a temporary move (a vacation, weekend trip) 3) lie, and say you're from out of town Find someplace else you'd like to travel to or live. If you choose a third-world country, you have the advantage of being relatively rich. Plus...
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    Cesspool of Knowledge

    Unimaginable Bastard --Great points. If you let it slip that you don't like any member of your family, what does that say about you? In other words, if you reveal that your mom is an abusive, drug-addicted escapee from a mental ward, what does that say about you? Winners in life, the guys that...
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    Wake Up Call !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    Well said! As a DJ, you must pursue the high percentage shots, like in basketball. Is it possible to make a basket from mid-court? Yes. Is it likely? No. As an AFC, I specialized in lost causes. As a DJ, your specialty should be shooting fish in a barrel. When the chick, the situation, and...
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    Cesspool of Knowledge

    Great idea, REd-xl. Here are my contributions to the Cesspool of Knowledge, things I wish I had known years ago. --Don't try to get points by revealing all. --Don't hang on when she's showing you signs of rejection. --Don't approach her by offering to buy her a drink or asking her to dance...
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    Forget About The Girls In Your Past

    Survivor --I read your old post and I noticed that even though you are really down on yourself for giving in to the user and for reverting to old habits, you really dissect what happened and have a great grasp of DJ principles. Something similar is happening now. You know the principles and...
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    please forgive my new-ness, but I must speak!

    Thanks, Phoenix-eye. You know, you should write a column. I do magic, and I've thought of the angle of magic bartender. One of my mentors did just that. Any ideas? (Sorry if we're all bugging the hell out of you.) I think we'd all be interested in any other observations you may have about who...
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    A simple and practical guide to an approach

    Good post, Adonis --lots of sold info. I might add to the confidence-building process approaching all kinds of women in all kinds of situations, not just prospective pickups. Since you're not trying to hook up there's no pressure. As you get better with approaching and making conversation, your...
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    please forgive my new-ness, but I must speak!

    Phoenix Eye --Solid info. Thanks. I look forward to hearing more. I have a pick up book by an author whose program is based on tending bar and having watched thousands of interactions. A question I've seen posted and one we're all curious about is, "Does working the bar get you women?"
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    My 3 month plan for success w/ women

    Swigue, good plan. I like the idea. You might add something to the process about envisioning your ideal self, such as how you would look, dress, act, and speak. I've read an interesting book on "branding," meaning thinking of an image and a way to convey/sell that image. I think that all of us...
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    New Kid in Town

    A tip I have never heard any place else --Get the heck out of Dodge, and go to a new town or country. Ex. I was an AFC in Fresno, CA who was totally alone, but the night I went to Mexico I had two women coming on to me, one of whom became an LTR. A friend of mine in Fresno loved going to...
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    broaden your horizons

    I agree with your point, Stefano, about learning a foreign language. I think many women want to flatter themselves by thinking that they are not just screwing some ape for his cash, but are sophisticated enough to draw the attention of the worldly, intellectual world traveler. Plus, I think...
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    "The Matrix" and Becoming a Don Juan

    I read a thread on the AFS newsgroup in which moving from AFC to Don Juan is like the movie "The Matrix," in that the typical AFC is living in a false reality, and will resist coming to awareness. This resistance takes the form of, "Why can't I just be myself?" "I'm not going to manipulate...
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    The Perfect Don Juan

    Anti-Dump: Great post! I think back on all of the times in my life when I @%$&'ed up because I didn't act immediately. Instead I had to think, weigh my options, etc., in which case women read me as the spineless orifice that I was. Low Self-esteem: I must disagree with your take on moving in; I...
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    "Blind Date" Gold Mine of PU Info

    There's currently a show on TV called "Blind Date," which sets up two people on a blind date and follows them around with a camera. Suspense comes from the question, "How will this date go?" At the end of the date, each person is interviewed to get his candid thoughts. I view this show as a...
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    The joys of standing out

    I agree that standing out is key. I saw a study that said that women were attracted to men who were altruistic, meaning that the men were willing to act courageously even if there was no payoff for them --this is why women like war heroes and firemen. (In fact, one columnist always dresses as a...
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    Breaking Free

    Well, supporter, I support you. I get tired of ignorant a$$ posts fom guys sniveling about "manipulation," "Why can't I just be myself?" "I don't need phony techniques," etc. Your post shows just how devastating to your life it can be when you don't have control in your relationships with women...
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    The "Nice Jerk" Primer

    As a reformed Nice Guy, I'm in total agreement. I had to reach a breaking point where the pain of being a Nice Guy loser was greater than my fear of being a "bad" person.
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    Five types of guys get the ass

    I'm making a note of the 5 types. Very true. There's a post on the discussion forum about dresing, and one of the main ideas is to stand out from the pack, which is in line with your argument. The problem with being a Nice Guy is that you are conditioned to be humble, modest, and to draw no...
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