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Glad to see the responses here. I don't have the time or need to post here anymore, but since I'm writing a book and creating a coaching program, I decided to check back in. Nearly all of the posts in this thread indicate that you all are quite a bit wiser than the posters in the other forum...

8 -1 for face -1 for attention seeking (big turn off)

I'm in a good place with my woman. I live with her. Been dating about 2 years now. Heisenberg is right - healthy people don't hang out in a hospital (for the most part). Only reason I'm looking here now is because I've started a coaching business on the side and it's helping remind me of...

The good news is that the DJ Bible is just as valid as ever.

AMEN. Now that I am in a position where I work hard, I get what I want, and I am happy, it's hard to spend any time on this forum. The negativity, cynicism, and insecurity that have become the norm here keep me from sticking around. As soon as someone is happy or successful, you can count on the...

Seriously? There's a LOT of negativity in this thread. If you don't like his posts, DON'T READ THEM. Simple as that. Robyn - I like what you're doing here. Most of what you have described in this thread confirms what I have observed in the real world. You've touched on some gold here, and it...

This post is pretty accurate. Lots of threads on this site about how women are full of hating/bashing/etc which comes from being hurt/frustrated/whatever. Good stuff, + rep.

He has a good attitude toward learning - he is aware he needs work, and he is willing to honestly look at himself. He asks those who are successful how they became that way. These are all good qualities. Judging by this thread, he still has a lot to learn. But that's why he's asking. So he can...

Constantly focusing on not spending money on a woman is nearly as bad as trying to buy a woman's love. You're still obsessed with the idea of what you get versus what you give. If these guys were truly confident, they would not be nearly as concerned with the issue. They would not feel...

Great to hear that you're making progress. If you're looking for another step-by-step program, I tried out The Collection of Confidence by Hypnotica. It does cost money, so try boot camp first. However, I found the Collection of Confidence to be very helpful. As long as you're pushing outside...

Do this. Good luck! http://www.djbible.classicalgasemissions.com/djbc.pdf

Okay, more inner game material here. I'll spare you all the details of posting the ones that weren't so good. Mindset by Carol Dweck Amazing book. The core principle of this book is that you are not a set of fixed traits. You can improve in nearly any area of your personality and life. This...

Excellent post, OP. +rep.

I know the boat a lot of you are in. You get shut down for one reason or another, and you think "What did I do wrong?" or "Why am I not good enough?" Macho keyboard jockeying aside, I think we can all admit to being there at one point. I'm coaching a buddy of mine. He used to be a total AFC...

First, I want to thank everyone for the positive comments. I hope that this thread can give some insight on the things I've learned during this past year (when I have made the most progress). Yes, I can see what you mean. I have kept a watchful eye on her and I'm not letting my guard down...

Okay, update again. It's been 8 months with this girl. Things are good. She loves me, I love her. It feels like a more mature kind of love than I had in the past. It feels less like a "needy" kind of love. We simply happily coexist. If something were to happen and the relationship were to...

This. Any quality woman will have exes trying to get back with her. How she handles them determines the proper response from you. Best case scenario, she is looking to you for support and guidance in protecting herself from this guy. Worst case scenario, she's not over him and she's a cheating...

It's hard to tell from a short message behind a computer, but it sounds to me like you didn't really want her as much as you thought you did. If you have this problem with every girl who is into you...well...maybe that's an issue. But you may just not be that into this particular girl...and now...

Good, good. Also, +rep for the positive attitude.

This is the point when I knew nothing was going to happen. You felt she was better than you are. She's not. Work hard on your inner game, self esteem, and how much you value yourself. No need to beat yourself up - everyone makes mistakes. I wish you success in the future.