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So I finally broke up with her (diagnosed "quiet" BPD) last night after being treated like a stranger for a month (probably I was split black for reasons she didn't know or didn't want to tell me. a new guy is also a possibility). So in a way she broke up with me first, emotionally, and I was...

Hello, So our relationship has been rocky this past month and yesterday she told me she needs to talk. I'm 80% sure that she's going to dump me. Most of the time when we date, I pay for the food and drop her home. So if tomorrow she dumps me, should I still do both? I'm leaning toward no...

Hello, So me and my 5 months gf were heavy texters. It's not rare that we texted from morning til evening continuously. These past 2 weeks or so I noticed that something changed in her texting behavior. Starting from reduced frequency, to short replies, rarely asks questions, to the point that...

Hello, For example you want your fiancee to stop smoking or enter therapy for her depression when you get married and she agrees. On one hand marriage is about growing to be a better person but on the other hand people say don't marry potential. So where do you draw the line?

Hello, Long story short, many men hit on my GF and she tells me about them. My concern in particular is about these 2 guys in her office. They haven't stopped approaching so I have a feeling that she's not trying her best in discouraging them. She refuses to go out with them alright but she...

Hello, For example if I ask her who dropped her home from work and she says "a friend" without mentioning her/his name, I'd feel uncomfortable. If I were in his position I'd mention the name so that I don't wonder about things. What do you think? Am I being possessive/unreasonably jealous?

Hello, I've been with this girl for over 3 months and we care for each other so much. One thing that's been bothering me is that our conversations are sometimes awkward, with not-so-comfortable silences. Phone conversation is almost non-existent as I prefer texting. I'm a shy, quiet guy and not...

Hello, What do you think if there's a single girl you're interested in but who still has his ex in FB relationship status and has posted a few pics with/of him? We've went out on dates a couple of times and she said it's because she's tired of men approaching her online so she uses the status...

Should you give full disclosure of why you want to end it, or you just go like "I just think this won't work out."? Assuming you haven't been with her for long, maybe 3-4 months.

*Title edit: Is it sick to prefer being dumped to dumping? I just don't want her to play victim and has our mutual friends turn against me. I don't care about protecting my ego and such.

Hello guys, Last week my gf told me casually about a new guy in her dormitory and that they've talked quite a few times. Yesterday she told me she's going to watch a new movie with him. At first she intended to go with the other guys but they're either not interested or have already watched it...

Hello, First of all, pardon my English if it's confusing. So I've been dating this girl for 2 months, we're not exclusive yet but things are already intense, so to speak, we're basically gf/bf without the label. Last month all of a sudden she told me that a few days before she met casually with...

Hello, Is it ever OK to ask whether a girl you're dating is still in contact with her ex? Say, they broke up only a few months ago and you want to make sure she has completely severed the ties and recovered from the breakup.

Hello, So this girl I'm dating/seeing likes to tell me about a man who's approaching her, but in a complaining/ridiculing way, eg. "He asked me about you and our dates, it's really awkward", "Look at these cheesy compliments" (while showing his texts to me). Is this a "yellow" flag? What do you...

Hi everyone, Long story short, I got to know a girl, we met once and texted often. We got along great and I decided to make a move. She said that she had a bf but has had asked for a breakup two weeks before, but the bf kinda begged not to leave him, revealing that his mom was sick with cancer...

If there's a girl you're interested in that has an admirer who threatens to kill or harm anyone that goes near the girl, would you still go for it? This is a situation I'm currently in btw.

People say don't be her therapist. But what if a hb is venting about her toxic relationship. This is happening to me and it's definitely a relationship she should get out of. I'd like to tell her that but then remember one of "the rules": don't be her therapist, don't give advice. But this girl...

So there's this girl I've just known, we met once and got along well. One interesting thing I notice is that when I response late to her text, she (almost) always replies with the same interval. And when I respond quickly, she responds quickly too. Do you think this is a sign of interest...

I was just wondering why is it that people who have complimented my looks and/or approached me were only hb5's and men? My male friends complimented my looks casually, HB5's showed their interest to me, some asked to be photographed with me, one even said I was too handsome. I also often get...

Hello, I have a problem that seems to hold me back. So whenever there's a woman who has the prospect to be a gf/wife material, I would back out if her looks doesn't meet my expectation. I'm not looking for a model or anything, just someone on par with me. I don't mean to sound arrogant but...